Not Mama Yet Tribe Summer/Fall 2010 - Page 3

[CariCloud]

Thanks for the welcome and for adding me!

As for this summer I live in florida so we are heading down to the keys for 1 week. It will be a fun trip it's me and my hubby, my mom and my dad, and my niece (6) and my nephew (21months) and of course my 2 schnauzers and my moms doxie. Unfourtunetly my brother can't come because he just started a new job and has no time off but at least the kiddies will enjoy the sun and the fun.

[KaylaBeanie]

You guys are lucky, I don't get a vacation. I'm heading up to Minnesota for four days later this month, but that's it

[Monica Rae]

Good to be here

Hi all- wanted to introduce myself as I just joined a few days ago and this is the first forum I found. Still learning to navigate and figure out some of the jargon, too, so any help would be so appreciated.

I'm 32, married and not a mama yet. There's a lot going on in my life right now, but I guess I could be boxed up as your 'typical' (lol) married, bisexual feminist artist/poet/writer hippie witch. With Tourette's. But it is what it is- I love my life, have a wonderfully loving and equally crunchy (or more so) support network and a fabulous husband who is j-u-s-t starting to come around to the idea of a little one. I started feeling the call this year, which is why I'm here. All my life I said 'one day', but lately I've started to know that the day is within sight and I really have to get my act together and learn what I need to know soon!

Nice to meet you, blessings!


~Monica Rae

[oiseau]

Hi Monica! Welcome!! I really like your "typical" description! You sound totally typical in my world, but I sometimes forget how just how not typical I am compared to the rest of the population!

I think this is one of the most helpful threads for people new to MDC: Abbreviations, Acronyms, Emoticons

[Neuromancer]

Originally Posted by Monica Rae

Hi all- wanted to introduce myself as I just joined a few days ago and this is the first forum I found. Still learning to navigate and figure out some of the jargon, too, so any help would be so appreciated.

I'm 32, married and not a mama yet. There's a lot going on in my life right now, but I guess I could be boxed up as your 'typical' (lol) married, bisexual feminist artist/poet/writer hippie witch. With Tourette's. But it is what it is- I love my life, have a wonderfully loving and equally crunchy (or more so) support network and a fabulous husband who is j-u-s-t starting to come around to the idea of a little one. I started feeling the call this year, which is why I'm here. All my life I said 'one day', but lately I've started to know that the day is within sight and I really have to get my act together and learn what I need to know soon!

Nice to meet you, blessings!


~Monica Rae

it hit me around 32, too, and my husband was more reluctant, but now I'm 33 and we just started trying this month. Welcome!
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[CariCloud]

Originally Posted by Neuromancer

it hit me around 32, too, and my husband was more reluctant, but now I'm 33 and we just started trying this month. Welcome!
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For me it was 2008 when I was 24. We had an unplanned pregnancy around April/May. It was 6 months before we were getting married. It was a total oops since I was on birth control and taking it religiously. Up to that point we only wanted children in some obscure distant future. However as soon as we found out we were pregnant we were ecstatic. Unfortunately at about 7.5 weeks we had a spontaneous miscarriage. I was devastated but it left us knowing we wanted kids and soon. However even though we have both been baby lusting for 2 years now there is still 1 more year to wait before we TTC. We want to have my husband finish is BS in elementary ed first so he can start teaching. So we can move and then I can stay home/finish my degree while I get pregnant and stay home with the little one.

[annaconda]

Hi everyone, I'm new to the thread and TTC

What kind of birth are you hoping for? Water, home, home water, hospital, etc?

First timer, so birthing center in a hospital, hopefully in a tub (I'm a pisces) and hopefully without intervention... working with Hypnobirthing technique

-Any more name ideas?

I do have some.

-Where do you want to live/where do you live?

Central VT baby! Hubby is from there. We met in NYC and transplanted. I love it.


-How many kiddos do you want, and does anyone plan to adopt?

Probably 2. In some section of our minds, we'd like to have more... but I don't think it will happen.


*Do you have any hobbies?*

Yoga, gardening, cooking, talking...


*What do you do as a job?

I work in insurance and am also a yoga teacher

*Any non-crunchy confessions?*

God I SUCK AT COMPOSTING. There I said it. And I tend toward processed foods sometimes.

1. Do you have any pets? If so, what kind and what are their names?

Kitties!

2. Do you have anything stashed away for your future kids? (oh-so-cute outfit you couldn't not buy? Special cradle that's been in the family forever?

A few books and hubby's transformers and a bunch of his other crap that's not nearly as cool.

3. Favorite food?

I like food. I love lasagna and ice cream. I also like grilled veggies and chicken thighs... foodie dishes... I have become a great cook since moving to VT (couldn't even boil water before) so pretty much anything I set my mind to I can make!

4. What brought you to MDC?

The mag rocks. And I thought I might be pregnant this cycle and had to find 2ww stuff!

[JlyGrnMigt]

I'm starting to get Antsy! Not-avoiding, in my mind, is supposed to start next month. I'm starting to fear that it's not going to happen just because we never explicitly agreed on a month to start. FHC come up in conversation a lot, especially when we talk about money, but still...yeah...paranoid and ovulating.

This MIGHT be my last pointless egg-squirt for a while. We shall see!

[terrordactyl]

no cool summer plans here... super hot right now the hottest summer so far... mostly working ( got a new job serving a just opened restaurant in a great location)and doing my school work i'm finally becoming a doula!!!! the BF is leaving today for 10 days for Motorcross Nationals in Oklahoma which makes me a sad panda an then he'll be back for 2 days an then leaving again for another 10 days to do a CA trip with his fam while i get to work... but it might be good for us to miss each other even tho its only been 12 hours an i already miss him...

Whats everyones plans for fall school, new jobs, anyone moving?
(i guess its kinda soon but all i can think of is cool weather again)

[KaylaBeanie]

Shaina, I am dying for some cooler weather! It's been over 90 almost every day this summer, and I feel like I'm cooking to death. I hate hot weather so much, fall can't come soon enough!

As for plans, it's back to school for me. I'm taking Spanish, Geography, Archaeology and Biology. I'm in school Mondays/Wednesdays from 9-3, Tuesdays/Thursdays from 9-12:15 and Friday from 9-11. I also work Tuesdays/Thursdays from 4-9. I'm looking for a second part time job, maybe at a coffee shop. I'm supposed to save money this summer, and I've done a pretty crummy job. I just love shopping too much

My mom is so funny. Back when I first stumbled into the crunchy world, things were so different. My SIL doesn't vaccinate, has natural births with midwives in the hospital, primarily breastfeeds (with the occasional bottle of formula) for 6 months (a little longer with the second one) and eats primarily organic. Three years ago, when she first had my niece, my mom and I thought she was a huge crazy hippie. Now, my mom and I both think she's so mainstream because I'm so much hippier

Anyhow, yesterday my mom says "You know, since it's so important to you to cloth diaper, I think you should start buying them. We can get a trunk for you to fill up with diapers and random knick-knacks for your future house. If you set aside enough money to buy a cloth diaper every month or six weeks from the local baby store, you'd have a full stash by the time you actually had kids and you wouldn't have to worry about affording both a homebirth AND diapers." I must say, that sounds like a pretty good idea to me! She also wants us to start up our own cloth pad business, since I'm pretty crafty. It just makes me laugh, because everything I ever told her..."hey mom, I'm not circumcising kids/I'm breastfeeding three years/I'm home birthing/I use cloth pads now/I'm a vegetarian/etc" are initially met with surprise, but quickly become the norm and a given. It's not "oh, if you maybe have a home birth" it's her telling her friends "My daughter is having her babies at home."

It feels good for her to defend my choices, and it makes me happy to know that there won't be any surprises in the future with her opposing parental decisions.

[JlyGrnMigt]

Originally Posted by JlyGrnMigt

I'm starting to get Antsy! Not-avoiding, in my mind, is supposed to start next month. I'm starting to fear that it's not going to happen just because we never explicitly agreed on a month to start. FHC come up in conversation a lot, especially when we talk about money, but still...yeah...paranoid and ovulating.

This MIGHT be my last pointless egg-squirt for a while. We shall see!

*sigh* Paranoia confirmed. He'd rather miss out on the last month or two of a pregnancy than the first month or two of a kid. So that means we're aiming for July or August, and will therefore start trying/stop avoiding in October. That gives me 2 months to get pregnant and still be able to make the "Made in China" shirts.

[pinkleaf]

Hello everyone!

I've been reading MDC for a few years now, soaking up all I can about natural birth, natural family living, etc but haven't posted much! I'm Pinky, 25 years old, partnered to my wonderful fiancee (we are getting married summer 2011 and hoping to start TTC soon after that!). I look forward to getting to know you wonderful women. Here's a bit about me:

What kind of birth are you hoping for? Water, home, home water, hospital, etc?

Home birth!!! I have pretty much always known I would like to give birth at home. My mother had me and my sisters at home, and it's always just seemed "normal" to me!!

Any more name ideas?

My partner and I have chosen a few names we might like to use... but we're super private about sharing them!! Some of them are family names, some of them are old Gaelic names that we like.

Where do you want to live/where do you live?

We currently live in Brooklyn, NY but someday we'd like to move out of the city and live on a little land in the country. We have dreams of building our own off-grid home, growing our own food, keeping chickens, etc.

How many kiddos do you want, and does anyone plan to adopt?

I am one of three children and my partner is as well, so large-ish families are what we're used to! I'd like to have 4 or 5 kids... I think he's more comfortable with 3 or 4, so we'll see

Do you have any thoughts on age spacing at all?

In my family, we're all 2 years apart, but I also think it would be lovely to have kids who're even closer in age. I truly consider my siblings to be my best friends in the world. I think it's a wonderful thing to have grown up with these amazing people, and would like my children to experience that as well.

Do you have any hobbies?

Knitting, sewing, cooking (especially pickling & fermenting - so into wild fermentation and nourishing traditions right now!!), reading about birth

What do you do as a job?

I'm a doula!! The best job in the world!! I also have a (very flexible) day job that helps pay the bills, but hopefully I can quit soon.

Any non-crunchy confessions?

I think grilled cheese sandwiches made with American "cheese" are the best

Do you have any pets? If so, what kind and what are their names?

Nope! Maybe someday when we don't live in a tiny apartment we'll get a dog

Do you have anything stashed away for your future kids?

No, but recently a friend was giving away some cloth diapers and I was tempted to take some...

Favorite food?

Oh so many things... I'm really into all the beautiful veggies we've been getting from our CSA lately. And I don't think I could live without my partner's rosemary roast chicken.

What brought you to MDC?

I forget how I ended up here. I've been reading the boards for years... I think ever since I was in high school!! I think MDC was what made me start thinking about becoming a doula.


Random fact about yourself

I'm nearsighted in one eye and farsighted in the other

[terrordactyl]

has anyone ever seen this blog before http://milasdaydreams.blogspot.com/ its super cute and creative check it out when you have a chance...

so i've been wondering this for awhile only answer if you feel comfortable
where do you live, is it where you want to live, what do u like about living there or don't like?

[oiseau]

Originally Posted by Shaina

has anyone ever seen this blog before http://milasdaydreams.blogspot.com/ its super cute and creative check it out when you have a chance...

so i've been wondering this for awhile only answer if you feel comfortable
where do you live, is it where you want to live, what do u like about living there or don't like?

I just saw Mila's Daydreams from another blog I read. Super cute! Makes me want a baby to play with!

As for your second question, I am slowly getting more comfortable with where I currently live. I'm from the middle of nowhere in PA, went to college in the Baltimore suburbs, grad school in Boston suburbs and now live in the DC suburbs. I love love loved the Boston area. I liked the size of the city, but also how quickly I could get to much more rural areas. I had an amazing CSA farm/community that I loved with easy access to organic food. Like-minded people for the most part. I liked the climate. I would have been happy to stay there and most of the time, I say that I'd really prefer to live there than where I am now.
The longer I stay down in MD though, the more I'm adjusting to living here and I keep finding more positives that even things out. We have great farmer's markets, though I don't have the one-stop CSA/farmstand for meat and produce. BUT, we have a couple independent organic grocery stores that I like a lot. It's still not too far to get to really rural areas. DC is a nice city with great public transportation and stuff to do (free zoo/museums!). Baltimore and Annapolis are also close by and each have their own charm. Since I've been sick, I have all my doctors here which means a lot. It's too hot here, but the growing season for my garden is longer. My best friend lives close by and we're much closer to family here, which is a big plus. People are generally of the same mindset as me, though not quite to the same extent as in MA.
I've looked into midwives and homebirth options in both areas and they seem pretty well matched. Both areas have similar options for schooling once my kids are big enough for that (if I even send them to school). Both areas are too expensive and honestly, too developed for where I'd like to raise my kids (they'll need some woods to play in!). I have no idea where we'll eventually end up. My fiance prefers MD to MA. His ideal place to live would be Ithaca NY and I'm trusting him on that one since I've never been there (he lived there for 5yrs). I'd like to be outside a small city so that we can have space for a small farm, but be close enough to a city that we have more shopping options than just a wal-mart or something. Close-ish to family is good, which puts us somewhere between NY-PA-MD.
...I do still want to go to vet school in New Zealand though...

[KaylaBeanie]

I live in Missouri (the Kansas City area) and I HATE it! I'm from a military family, so I've lived many places and this place is terrible. I hate being out in the country (we're in a suburb pretty far from the city) and I hate the hot weather. I feel bad being so negative, but I just hate it. In August 2011, I am moving to Alabama (either Tuscaloosa or Birmingham) to finish my last 2 or 3 years of college. After that, I'm moving! Either back to Minneapolis, or out west to Portland or Seattle. I feel like my heart is in Seattle, so that's where I'll likely end up. I am a city girl who hates the country and hates the midwest/south.

[knittygritty]

Hello, other not-yet-mamas! I'm so glad there's a thread like this...sometimes I feel really out of place on MDC. I never bought into the whole "time clock" thing...I kinda thought it was just a media stereotype. But boy, I guess I was wrong.

I'm only 21 (22 in a few weeks) but I already have the baby cravings! I'm engaged to the most wonderful guy in the world, excited to start our new life together, and I can't WAIT until we can think of extending our family!

Sigh, it all seems so far away! So I'm not officially a mama--just one in my heart.

(I definitely just accidentally posted this on the Winter 08/09 thread! Where is my brain?! )

[terrordactyl]

hey welcome!!!!! its been kinda slow in here lately but it usually picks up again once school starts an people are online more

[oiseau]

Hi KnittyGritty! Welcome!

Hope everyone is still enjoying their summer! I'm counting the days til it cools off!

Has anyone seen the Babies movie? I just rented it on itunes and watched it yesterday. It made me almost cry...and laugh...but it wasn't nearly as interesting as I was expecting. I still enjoyed it though!

[bubbledumpster]

Originally Posted by oiseau

Has anyone seen the Babies movie? I just rented it on itunes and watched it yesterday. It made me almost cry...and laugh...but it wasn't nearly as interesting as I was expecting. I still enjoyed it though!

I was so excited to see that movie, but by the time I found the money in my budget to see a first-run movie, it wasn't playing in my town anymore.

I always tell people, if there were a cable channel with nothing but just babies being cute 24 hours a day, I would watch it, always.

[oiseau]

Originally Posted by bubbledumpster

I was so excited to see that movie, but by the time I found the money in my budget to see a first-run movie, it wasn't playing in my town anymore.

I always tell people, if there were a cable channel with nothing but just babies being cute 24 hours a day, I would watch it, always.

I think part of the reason I didn't like it as much as I thought I would was because a lot of it was just the babies on their own when they looked like they'd be happier with a buddy to play with. Watching the namibian baby interact with her sibs/cousins was the funnest part! That and the cats. Babies + Cats = awesome!