|Originally posted by OnTheFence
I have a son who has early onset bipolar disorder and has FAE because of his birth mother. Harsh mentality? Do you live with me? Are you parenting or living with a drug affected, alcohol affected, mentally ill child? I am.
I dont have compassion for HER. Don't lump her in with everyone else. Don't put words in my mouth or try to assume how I treat people with mental illness or addictions. You really have no clue.
I have no compassion for people who do not take responsibility for their actions, keep repeating the cycle, and then take their irresponsibility and place it on their children (unborn ones too)
People who are mentally ill may not be able to take responsibility for their actions. Mentall illness is just like cancer. Do you think cancer patients should be blamed for their pain or vision loss? Should my father be blamed for his cirrhosis? What about mother's with post partum psychosis, should they be blamed for their inability to distinguish delusions from reality?
If a woman with post partum psychosis injures her baby because of her disease, do we string her up too? Just wondering where we draw the line.
Being angry that the actions of the mentally ill have harmed us or the people we love is okay, forgetting that their actions were caused by a disease and throwing them to the wolves is another.
I am very sorry your son has FAE. As the child of an alcoholic I spent a lot of time obsessing over FAS and related problems during my time studying human development. I can't imagine how hard day to day life can be and I am so glad your son has had the incredible fortune to find himself in the arms of a loving, AP mamma. I do feel compassion for his bio mother though. What a horrible thing to know that you have done such grievous harm to your own child. What a horrible ting to be so desperate in your life that you would do such harm.
I know that you and I clash over c/s and apparently this issue too, but I do think your son is lucky, I think all your kids are lucky to have a mom who is passionate and cares.
I still think that we should all have compassion for this woman.