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post #181 of 357
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Originally posted by XM

My understanding is that even in an emergency, it takes 1 hour to prep the patient and assemble the team for a c/s. If anyone with the facts can verify or correct me, please do. But even 30 minutes is a long time when you can lose a baby in less then 10.

Not an hour, not 30 min. In my case with a spinal that didnt work, less than 10. I felt the whole thing, and a team of people were slicing me before I could barely scream I could feel it.
My neighbor has her OP report, from the time they detected the prolapse cord, to the time her baby was out in the OR under GA was less than 7 minutes. She says that going down the hall into the OR was like a dream before she said they got her through the door they were shooting drugs in her IV, masking her, etc. She has a T cut. Her husband said that they actually pushed him out of the room and there was a team of people doing stuff in a matter of minutes and that an alarm was going off. Now some hospitals may not be able to do this, depending on their size or maybe they are in BFE, but I thought now they were required to have people on staff at all times to do stat csections.
My friend who had premie twins said that from the moment she entered the emergency room to the time they were born was less than 20 minutes. She also had GA, classical incision.
post #182 of 357
30 from decision to incision is what most hospitals assume for emergency c...mine was a few minutes more I think...I was bleeding to death in a slow methodical fashion. GA as well.

I have met enough women with babes that died (particularly a twin) with IUGR and TTTS while having constant monitoring that I would not assume the c would have fixed it, even done the first day. And pathology reports for fetal demise are generally worthless. A conviction based on a pathologist's best guess? (these are the same people that call the vast majority of stillbirths "cord accidents" because they really don't know.) In this sort of case the medical examiner will not be able to say with any certainty if immediate delivery would have saved the baby or not.
post #183 of 357
I had a good nights sleep, even with a squirmy babe attached and a very large toddler on my side.

I kept thinking over and over about this woman and her sitting in jail right now. I am fortunate I didn't have and nightmares, it has really disturbed me to the bone.

I would like to point out a really moving thing I read this morning.

Posted by lolalleloo is the crux of this case:

"Not the hospital, not the coroner, not even the prosecutors are claiming that drug/alcohol/tobacco use played any part in the death of her child. Her lifestyle, her troubled past, her illnesses, and even uncorroborated reports of her personal vanity -- are all being used for the purpose of demonizing her in the eyes of the public, and whaddya know: it's working. Make no mistake, people. This woman mourning her dead baby sits in jail tonight for the sole crime of defying doctors' orders, and there but for the grace of God go any one of us. I'm not only shocked and horrified to read some of the comments I've read in this thread, I'm heartbroken. That so many here would unashamedly indulge in this 'Serves her right' mentality just floors me."

This is what kept me up last night, this thought. It scares me to the bone.

During my last pregnancy, I had refused many different things my midwife wanted me to do during my pregnancy. We argued and fought over some very important test and proceedures. I ended up giving in to a good portion of them because of scare tatics used by her and the doctors.

It makes me think, because I do have a history of drug abuse, mental illness, and PPD. I wonder how far removed I am from this woman and her situation. How far could we streatch what she did and what I was doing. Not very far.

I tell you, it scares me. I know the media could put a spin on MY life and suddenly here I could be charged with murder. To think of it.

Stand up for this woman without regard to her drug abuse, her mental state, and her lifestyle. Stand up for her because she has no voice, and pretty soon none of you will too.

Stand up for her because it is right and necessary. Give her compassion in your heart.

But for the grace of God go I.
post #184 of 357
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Originally posted by simonee
(and Zaq, there's a pretty long line for Lauren. You get in right in the back, okay honey? :LOL)
Simonee, your right. Back of the line I go. But, hurry up and keep it a movin, it's my turn next!:LOL
post #185 of 357
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Originally posted by OnTheFence
Turns out she was using coke. Has mental illness. The works. I am getting bashed on the Talk Among Yourself board and have got some interesting and threatening IMs. I should have not delurked over there. I get sucked in everytime!
On the Fence, I have read alot here but see no one bashing you. Your arguments? Sure. But not you. Don't confuse the two. You had a c-sec, that isn't what we are discussing here and you seem very defensive, imo.
post #186 of 357
I think she means that she got threatened via PM.
post #187 of 357
playdoh-Why are you following OTF around?

Clarity-I agree with you, and with XM and others that have said there was no guarantee the baby could have been saved had there been a cesarean.

I just want to say only the higher power knows whether she needs to make restitution.
post #188 of 357
Not following anyone around, Ladylee. Not sure what you're implying.

I believe no one has the right to cut us open without our consent, no matter what the circumstances. I'm with dado. All the way.
post #189 of 357
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Originally posted by somemama
I think she means that she got threatened via PM.
Then my bad. I thought she meant that she was 'bashed on TAO'.

Sorry for my confusion!

post #190 of 357
I live in Utah and last night on the local news they had interviews with several couples who were contacted by Melissa. She was willing to sell her living baby for money to the highest bidder.
post #191 of 357
I think we've already determined that she wouldn't win a mother of the year award...

but should she be in jail for disagreeing with a doctor's recommendation?

That is the real problem here.

Regardless of her personal character (or how the media portrays it...)
post #192 of 357
I read that for a hospital to perform a cesarean safely it takes 30 to 60 minutes, and that is if no one is waiting ahead of you. (There have been stories from women whose babies were born vaginally while they were waiting for their "emergency" c/s!)

In Birth as an American Rite of Passage there is a doctor who is "very respected" because he can do one in 12 minutes. His complication rate is horrendous. Other women in Open Season say that they also had those super quick sections, and they could feel the cutting. They were told "the baby would die" if they took the time to do everything they usually do.

I don't think I could go through surgery without anesthesia and all safety procedures, even if it meant death. And if that makes me a murderer, well, good thing this is my last baby!
post #193 of 357
Greaseball you say that as though you would have a choice. You would have enough drugs to immobilize you... take your legs and such... plus they strap you down. You not being numb is strictly your problem. Won't slow them down a bit. This you know, my friend.
post #194 of 357
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Originally posted by Unreal
I think we've already determined that she wouldn't win a mother of the year award...

but should she be in jail for disagreeing with a doctor's recommendation?

That is the real problem here.

Regardless of her personal character (or how the media portrays it...)
I feel she did more than disagree with one doctors. There is a difference. I left the hospital AMA with my son. Of course after being told my baby would die, I was a horrible mother, etc. I had to sign a document taking responsibility and not holding the dr. responsible. I left after speaking to my attny. The next day I called another dr in town, explained what was going on and said I needed to see someone that morning. My husband and I took my son to this doctor, explained what was going on, what I did, and then he examined my son. He then spoke with another dr. in the practice came back and told me that he thought I had done the right thing and he had a nother course of action for us to take. I took his advice, went to the follow-up appt. mainly to cover my own ass.
This woman however went to the hospital to seek medical advice due to problems she was having. She disreguarded this advice. Ok, fine. But then she went on to go to two additional places that told her the same thing. This is where I think she was negligent in her actions and that this negligence resulted in the death of this child. She had two prior csections, and that also factors into me believing that she was negligent. She was hiding something, drug abuse is what I believe.

If this was remotely similar to the woman who had the big baby and refused a csection I would be on the front row cheering that she should be able to legally refuse this. The woman with the big baby also sought medical care elsewhere, that was a different course of action. This woman did not do that.
post #195 of 357
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Originally posted by Greaseball
I read that for a hospital to perform a cesarean safely it takes 30 to 60 minutes, and that is if no one is waiting ahead of you. (There have been stories from women whose babies were born vaginally while they were waiting for their "emergency" c/s!)

In Birth as an American Rite of Passage there is a doctor who is "very respected" because he can do one in 12 minutes. His complication rate is horrendous. Other women in Open Season say that they also had those super quick sections, and they could feel the cutting. They were told "the baby would die" if they took the time to do everything they usually do.

I don't think I could go through surgery without anesthesia and all safety procedures, even if it meant death. And if that makes me a murderer, well, good thing this is my last baby!
Safely? I would love to read where you get this 30-60 minute time frame.
Also the two books you mention are quite dated. As is the American Way of Birth, that I think talks about this issue as well.

I bet you could go through the surgery if your child was on the line. You arent really focusing on yourself at the time. You really dont care how many safety proceedures are in place. You want your baby to live.
post #196 of 357
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Originally posted by OnTheFence
The woman with the big baby also sought medical care elsewhere, that was a different course of action. This woman did not do that.
Well... she went home for several days and checked into a different hospital when she was in active labor. Sought no medical attention in the interem. M Rolands babies were born in the hospital via C-section... so clearly she did that as well.
post #197 of 357
I guess I'm just frightened that 'they' (the ever ambiguous they) aren't going to differentiate between the two cases.

I was 19 when I was pregnant with my first son--and looked even younger. I can't tell you how many people asked if I planned to go back to high school to get my diploma--without even bothering to find out that I had already been in college for a year and was still taking classes!
People make assumptions--especially about pregnant women--I'm sure we've all experienced this through the years.

I do not agree with the choices Mellisa made. I agree that she should have had more support. I over the fact that there are literally thousands of other women in this country in the same position as her. I over the idea of selling a baby to the highest bidder. I am and that we want to spend $$ on keeping her in jail rather than putting that money towards helping even just a handful of other women and babies from meeting the same fate.

And I am scared that someday someone will look at me--not vaxing, homeschooling, giving my kids herbs rather than sudafed and tylenol....and they will think that they should step in and protect my kids because ____________ (fill in the blank--just about anything goes, these days)
I am scared that with my next babe, I'll want to do a homebirth and a dr may say that is too dangerous and I'll end up giving birth in restraints in a hospital (or worse, jail).

There are so many things in this that upset me--it is hard to separate them...
post #198 of 357
Murder is over the top.. The unfortunate part is that even here.. There are women willing to throw her as a log on the fire in this one..


I too felt my c/s with my ds1.. I felt them sewing me up.. It felt like they were pushing on a very deep bruise or open wound.. Which is exactly what they were doing, and this was NOT an emergency.. This was for breech presentation... Every woman has the RIGHT TO REFUSE medical care.. That hospital has the RESPONSIBLILITY to get a COURT ORDER for care if they believe the patient is incompetent.. THAT is how the system works.. We dont' read anywhere.. (or i haven't maybe i missed it.. ) that any of these hospitals did that..

and FTR..

I DON'T CARE HOW MANY C/S YOU HAVE HAD, YOU ALWAYS HAVE THE RIGHT TO REFUSE THE NEXT ONE!!!

I don't think anyone here is defending this woman as a good mother, BUT she has the same rights that you or I do... She has the right to refuse medical interventions or advice.. If the hospitals and dr's where sooo concerned, they should have obtained that court order..

I do NOT agree with the way this woman lives her life, but i WILL fight for the injustice, and persecution that is being brought against her..

They are NOT charging her with drug use.. They are charging her with murder.. Premediatied murder.. This is a travesty of justice.. They ARE releasing information about her lifestyle to villify her, and get them a guilty verdict in the publics eye before they even have to do anything else.. How hard will it be to find a juror that hasn't heard about this... Or hasn't formed an opinion of this "horrible, irresponsible, evil, baby-killing" woman..:

Make no mistake this IS about your ability to refuse your dr, or their hospital.. The outcome of this case WILL effect each and every woman in the US...

Warmly..

Dyan
post #199 of 357
ACOG reports that a stat csection can be done in less than 10 minutes with GA and a classical or T cut incision. This was in a 200) report. They classify also "emergency" csections in two forms: emergency and stat emergency. Emergency csections are done in case their are problems present but not immediately life threatening and a spinal can be done and non-classical incision is done, time frame is 20-32 minutes. Stat csections is when the mother, baby or both are in a near death state -- prolapse cord is indicated for stat csection, uterine rupture, placental abruption, and excessive bleeding.
post #200 of 357
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Originally posted by OnTheFence
ACOG reports that a stat csection can be done in less than 10 minutes with GA and a classical or T cut incision. This was in a 200) report. They classify also "emergency" csections in two forms: emergency and stat emergency. Emergency csections are done in case their are problems present but not immediately life threatening and a spinal can be done and non-classical incision is done, time frame is 20-32 minutes. Stat csections is when the mother, baby or both are in a near death state -- prolapse cord is indicated for stat csection, uterine rupture, placental abruption, and excessive bleeding.
I don't know how far I would trust the ACOG.. These are the same dr's pushing to make VBAC's not a viable option for women who have had a c/s, and have recently said the c/s for no medical reason isn't unethical..

I trust them as a whole about as far as i could throw them..
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