Naturelady, for your DH, I'd go for a pouch or ring sling if he'd like/use them, but if he's more attracted to buckles, I'd get him a nice, solid, or manly-print structured carried. A Beco could work, for sure. My DH wears my Calyx and finds it comfy (http://www.mamabydesign.com/
) - it's my very favorite SSC (soft structured carrier)!
As for the Bjorn, it is far superior to other carriers of its type - ye good ol' Snugli and such. And many people wear their babies in them and find it reasonably comfortable - promoting attachment is good! BUT, it has some major drawbacks:
- position of baby is not ergonomic, and puts lots of pressure on baby's crotch/genital area as s/he "dangles"
- position is more of a "stick baby on the parent" than "baby snuggling into parent"
- facing-out in a Bjorn is seen as an advantage, but many babywearing and AP experts agree it's far too easy for baby to be overstimulated, difficult for baby to turn away, and you lose the connection/attachment with the parent that way
- the Bjorn is often not comfortable even with very small infants; newer versions may have improved this with more back support; even so, the comfortable weight range is much smaller than with a good SSC
Like I said, there are definitely people who use them and love them and are better parents for it.
But, if you have a choice, I'd find something else. There are SO many options out there now!
(Besides, "the dangling-baby" look is not a good one for most people!