Chiming in, here.
Our situation: single parent of one 9-1/2yo ds. We don't have cable or any screens except my computer and his Nintendo DS. He has a GameBoy which was the DS predecessor, and he keeps it for a backup "just in case" (something happens to the DS). We have two TVs, one in the living room which is connected to a VCR (and a digital box, but we don't get any channels
), and one in his room which has a VCR and a DVD player.
He gets pretty much unlimited screen time. OK, yes, single parent using screens as babysitter
but sometimes I gotta do what I gotta do. I can't be, nor do I want to be, playmate most of the time.
Since he gets unlimited screen time, I use it as heavy leverage. It's my bargaining chip. His currency. He has to do chores and be willing/ready to listen to me and fulfill his responsibilities without "wait a minute", or he loses the privilege. Instantly. And he knows it.
Oh, I have a computer, but he's not allowed on the 'net unless he has to, for school, or he wants to look something up. He has a laptop but it's not internet capable unless I buy some special chip or other. He sometimes plays games on it, but more often forgets he has it.
Originally Posted by Arduinna
I don't really like the idea of requiring reading before playing. Mainly because I don't want reading to be viewed as the thing they have to put up with to do the thing they want. I don't want a negative association with reading. It's like a punishment. Or forcing kids to eat their vegetables.
But I do force vegetables. I'm not in any way a GD parent, and I told him long ago that my job is to 1) keep him safe and 2) keep him healthy. That includes vegetables. That's just me
Luckily, ds is a willing "food-tryer". He has to try everything. He doesn't have to like everything. I don't make him eat what he doesn't like, but he's a drama king, too, and because of that I will often make him eat whatever (because I know when it's drama, and not genuine dislike).
Originally Posted by StarChild
Nothing infuriates me like seeing a child at a play or show with a video game in their hands, completely oblivious to the performance in front of them and the parents say nothing! arrggh.