I would never do this ...

[MariesMama]

... but sometimes I wish I could call up DD's father and say, "Okay, your turn now!" I need a break. I'm tired. I am cranky and all I can think is how unfair it is that he just bailed on DD and I have to be 100% responsible 24/7.

(I love her, I really do. I'm just worn out. And maybe hormonal.)

[Halfasianmomma]

I feel your pain. I really do. I'm so glad XH is out of our lives (at least I hope he is), but sometimes, I'm so pooped I want to cry.

[mama_ani]

I completely & totally understand. The other night I was desperate that all the kids go to their dad just to give me a break. I get so overwhelmed at times. I shouldn't complain, every five days I don't have any kids home from 9 a.m. - 3 p.m. but the day to day loneliness & stress just gets to me.

[meemee]

awwwwww you have a cute 2 year old.

awww i LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOVE that age.

it never comes back again.

they are on the cusp of growing up yet being a baby.

but mama i HEAR you. it was EXHAUSTING having a super active 2 year old = both physically and mentally.

(however now that dd is almost 8 i miss her being 2 and wouldnt mind if she could go back to being 2 for a little bit)

as they grow up though mama, it DOES get easy.

[NewMom0208]

Hi Momma

I went thourgh this from the age of 8 months old to 18 months.
He didn't sleep through the night yet
24/7 I was beyond exhaustion.

What I did:
I became creative and bold in getting me some help.
Sometimes my neighbor would watch him while I took a looooong bath.
I called all, and I mean, all myfriends, explained the situation and asked if they could watch him, in my house for a couple of hours. Or 30 minutes, anything!!!

I was right there, but my friend would watch him and play with him while I took a nap, paid my bills, took a nap, enjoy some wine and dark chocolate or took a nap.

I have no family close by so I used all the help I could.
I tried to find some local single moms to take turns but I was not sucessfull, maybe you can try that.
I did joined a local single parenting group. I would attend the events, that gave me some adult time and, if I got lucky, my little one would play with another adult other than me so I could actually sit for a few minutes.

Hope that helps..reach out and you might be surprised of how much help you cna get if you make it possible in your very very tired mind.

Sending you tons of love

[Learning_Mum]

I so hear you! Yesterday morning I hurt my back. I could hardly walk and I am so tired from being woken up three million times a night! By the end of the day I was sobbing and was so very close to calling their Dad and saying "come and get them. I can't do this anymore!", but I struggled through (with alot of yelling unfortunately) and this morning things are brighter. Try to remember that tomorrow is another day and it is often better!

Big, big hugs to you!

[VocalMinority]

Your daughter was born the day before my son! Yes, they're a handful at this age, aren't they? Hang in there. I have twins who are about to turn 15, also. Before you know it, you'll be wishing your daughter had MORE time for you!

[vocalise]

Oh, big hugs! I so understand that sentiment.

[amynbebes]

I completely understand. The father of my older 2 is not in their lives at all and they're both at that pain in the rear teen stage. There are definitely times that I think it's just soooo not fair that I have to burden all of the responsibilities.

[Ceinwen]

After fighting with my ex this morning over whether dd would be going to soccer pictures (with him) or her dress rehearsal for recital (with me) - I wished up and down that he would fall off the face of the earth.

Sometimes I need a reminder that it's not necessarily easier to go it on your own. Well, in some ways.

[AKA_PI]

Dont feel bad mama because we have all gone through. When my little one was sick and teethign the other week I literally thought I was going to lose it. My mom was a huge help and stayed home from work one day to give me a few hours to myself to catch up on sleep.

I definitely agree with the recommendations above of calling anyone that you know just to watch him for an hour or so. Even if they stayed in the house while you were there, that few minutes helps.

[Murph12334]

OMG I've so felt the same thing! Then again I know he'd even then not take his turn really. He'd just probably end up neglecting them. So I guess it's a good thing I can't just make it his turn for my kids father.

[mama_ani]

What drives me insane is that my youngest two kids' dad would do perfectly fine having them more. They'd be well taken care of & happy to stay there. He just won't.