Originally Posted by fairydoula
I really feel badly about the anxiety a lot of moms seem to derive from all the testing and u/s and such. It seems that there is very little relaxing and just letting your body grow your baby. If you're a healthy woman with no other considerations - like doomayula's weightloss surgery concerns - why would you imagine there was something wrong or something potentially wrong?
It feels like there is way too much fear and trepidation around all these tests, which almost always turn out normal... hence a lot of anxiety for nothing....
I'm not trying to be mean, quite the opposite. It's concerning that there is so much fear swirling around what seem to be quite normal pregnancies.
Anyone care to comment?
I can't speak for anyone else, but I am healthy and young and have lost two pregnancies. In my last pregnancy, the baby had trisomy 18, a fatal genetic syndrome which is very rare in women my age (28 at the time). I never for a moment suspected anything was wrong and had a wonderful pregnancy. If I had not had screening performed, I would have given birth to a dead or dying baby, and been completely blindsided.
I am again having a very normal, healthy pregnancy so far, but I know now that that doesn't mean everything is okay, and I am having screening and ultrasounds for the sake of reassurance. Yes, I worry a lot beforehand, but that is a small price to pay for a little smidgen of peace of mind once the testing is done.
I do think that many women worry a lot, and yeah, most
of the time the worry is unnecessary and everything is fine. But, sorry, sometimes everything isn't fine, even if you're young and healthy and things are going great. Some people don't want to know, and that's fine, that's their choice. But I don't think it is unreasonable to want to know with as much certainty as possible whether your baby is going to live or not.
So, that's my point of view on it. I do worry prior to every ultrasound and every blood draw, but I would worry a WHOLE lot more if I weren't getting any testing done at all.