When is your big ultrasound scheduled? - Page 2

[MyFullHouse]

I'm 13 weeks tomorrow, so nothing is scheduled yet. I may push to have it done on the early side since I'd really like them to tell me they aren't able to make out the sex clearly enough to share. Dh wants to know, and I know I'll give in if they say it's clear.

[wolfmom]

well Jen, to comment on your thoughts, it's not the testing of the baby that makes me anxious. I know that everything is most likely fine and normal and I'm only doing one because this time around I want to verify that all the important parts are there and working before my homebirth. For example, I would rather know if there is a heart defect before the birth so that we aren't dealing with a great birth but then a scary transfer for unknown problems right after pushing out my baby! The anxiety I have is about being treated poorly by the ultrasound tech and them giving me a stupid attitude. In spite of having all of my previous five u/s done at different places and by different people, I have still had a range of annoying to down right traumatizing experiences. So by now I don't expect it to be anything but unpleasant. I'm not sure what else I can do so I'm going to just suck it up and get it done quickly. I feel this is important to me to do. Besides, I have to get a breast u/s done too. That I'm not comfortable putting off because it is important that I take care of my health for myself and my children.

just my 2 cents.

[splath]

I will get my radiology slip for it at my next appointment (I'll be almost 16 weeks), so it will be sometime between 18-20 weeks.

[Got_Cloth]

I am thinking mine will be scheduled, after my OB appt next week. Because of my history, my OB sends me to a high risk clinic for the US. We wont be finding out hte sex, and the US techs LOVE that. LOL Everyone wants to know these days, and they love not having to tell me what baby is. I am 13 weeks now, i I guess i will be having the US around 18 weeks or so. I think that is when i have always had my level 2.

I would not have an ultrasound, but i want to know if there is something we need to prepare for. I like to see the baby, but really, i think all US look alike, so i am contgent to look at US pics online. I really only do this for medical reasons.

[nova22]

For my first pregnancy I did this, but since then I have never had an ultrasound for the sole purpose of finding out the gender. I'm not against them or anything, I just don't like going in for ultrasounds.

With my second, I had an ultrasound to determine dates because I was pretty sure of my conception date but my doctor didn't agree with me. It turned out he was right. By my LMP date my EDD was March 3 but after the ultrasound it was reset at January 28. My baby was born on January 19 and looked like she was full-term. I'm glad I had that ultrasound, otherwise I would have been in a panic when my water broke over a month before my EDD...it was shocking enough that it was two weeks "early."I had a second ultrasound with her because the radiologist thought her legs looked a little short and they wanted to make sure they were growing properly.

With my third I went in for cramping at about 12w but it was too early to see the gender even if I had wanted to. That was my only u/s for that pregnancy.

I hadn't planned on getting one for my fourth pregnancy but my midwife was starting to suspect possible twins, so I had one. I didn't want to find out the gender but he made it pretty obvious!

In my last pregnancy I had zero ultrasounds except for the one I had at the hospital when I went into premature labor. I don't know if an ultrasound would have revealed any problems that may have given me an opportunity to have steroid shots or get on bedrest and prevent all the time my baby was hospitalized after birth, but we have decided to have ultrasounds during this pregnancy in order to keep an eye on things. I am planning an HBAC and if there are problems, I want to know about it before I go through with a birth at home. I have had one ultrasound already to determine dates because there were two possible conception dates a month apart, and I plan to have at least one more in a few weeks to look for problems and probably find out the gender. I have been surprised twice and I've found out three times. Both ways are good...and I have a lot to knit, so I'd like to know what color to use.

[soglad]

Mine is on July 28th at 9am - can't wait! I will be one day shy of 20 weeks at that point. We are going to take DD to the appointment, so that will make it extra special

[laurata]

My husband was for getting one done, so I just scheduled mine for July 15th. I'll be 19 wks 2 days since LMP, so hopefully we can see gender.

[tinynyota]

July 15th. I'll be 20 weeks.

[*GreenMama*]

I'd like to find out before my vacation but I'll only be 16 weeks and 2 days (they only schedule the ultrasound on Thursdays I think.) The might schedule them on Tuesdays too and then I could do it at 17 weeks. Otherwise I have to wait until we return when I'll be 19 weeks. I just really want to know the sex.

[Natalya]

I'm debating getting another u/s. I had one done early on because I was having pains on one side and thought it might be an ectopic pg. I feel the normal fear that I think everyone does about the baby not being healthy, but I also don't like so many interventions in pregnancy, and I see u/s as being a definite intervention.

My last ob appointment is this Friday, and then I'm traveling and moving, and then we hope to find a midwife, but we aren't planning on settling down til I'm 6 months along. So... all that to say, this friday is my last chance for awhile, and I don't know if I'll get one! We're def. not finding out the sex though, I guess this one would just be to screen the babe and make sure everything seems ok.

[ZJmom]

Mine is July 23 (20 weeks). I want to know the baby's sex. I've already had 2 u/s (dating and n/t test) and will have many more since my last baby was small for gestational age and had low fluid.

[Climbergirl]

Not sure when mine will be, but I will be getting one. I am planning an HBAC as well, so I want to make sure there is no reason to birth in a hospital for the baby. Because if I needed to do that, I will have to go through a lot of mental adjusting to deal with that (I seriously do not trust hospitals after the last time).

1/4th of my genetic history is unknown. My grandfather was left in front of a hospital in a blanket, so we have no idea about his genetics other than what he had. I am not close to my dad's side of the family, so I don't know much about them either.

I need the reassurance that everything is ok. I am working on trusting my body to give birth normally. But that takes time and I am much closer than I was when DS was born.

[mckittre]

Last time I got one to check that everything was OK and just asked them not to tell me the sex (they turned the screen away when they looked at that part of the baby). That worked great.
I do want that reassurance/information that the baby's OK though. One of my worst fears is having to carry a baby for 9 months that has a fatal problem - if possible I'd want to know something like that as soon as possible.

[SactoSweetie]

We are also scheduled for July 9th! I started with o/b care and have already had 4 (yep, 4) ultrasounds; 1 at 6 weeks, 1 at 9 weeks, the NT and 1 at 13 weeks). We have switched to midwife care and she was so not happy about that. I want to know the sex of the baby and have the scan for abnormalities so I haven't cancelled the appointment. I worry like a lot of you that there may be problems we won't know about without the scan. I am trying to let go and trust the experience. I am doing better than I have before so I am ok keeping the appointment knowing that I will not continue to get u/s constantly like with DS. I do love to peak in on the peanut and see that everything looks normal, but I also know that there could be problems with even 1 u/s let alone 7-10.

Good luck to all of you and I hope you have wonderful ultrasound experiences if you plan to get them. Wolfmom, I am so hoping you have a better experience. You totally deserve it!

[wolfmom]

thanks sactosweetie! I saw my midwife's assistant today and she recommended that I go to the specialist center at the hospital because they are used to dealing with high risk mamas and babies with problems so they are more used to being patient and gentle. I think that might be a good idea.

[TyrantOfTheWeek]

I go next Thursday to one of those sono places to find out the gender. I will be 16 weeks. We found out Derek's gender at 16 weeks.


The important anatomy scan won't be until July-ish. Then, I will no longer be seeing the medical midwife and will only be with my home birth midwife.

[zalesmom]

Why?

[QUOTE=fairydoula;15520119]Anyone else NOT getting one?
I won't be, unless there's a medical need... i.e. - something is obviously delayed or I am very ill or something to that effect.
Otherwise, I'll just be patiently waiting till the end to find out!"

we're not having any US unless medically indicated either.
I'm really curious though about why, the people who are choosing to are? what are the benefits/risks, and what is motivating you to do this. AFAIK routine ultrasound scans are not recommended by the ACOG or SCOG, and have potential risks associated with them.

[annettemarie]

One thing I have learned on my mothering journey is that if I want other people to respect and trust my choices, I need to accept theirs as well. After 3 losses and 4 children, I am way past the point where I feel I need to justify my choices to others. Likewise, I don't feel others need to justify their decision to get an ultrasound or not to get an ultrasound to me.

[zalesmom]

Originally Posted by mckittre

Last time I got one to check that everything was OK and just asked them not to tell me the sex (they turned the screen away when they looked at that part of the baby). That worked great.
I do want that reassurance/information that the baby's OK though. One of my worst fears is having to carry a baby for 9 months that has a fatal problem - if possible I'd want to know something like that as soon as possible.

We had several US with our son and they didn't show his cord abnormailty (he had 4 vessels) or his cleft palate or his heart defect!

I also have a friend who "knew" something was wrong with her first went for two US both were "normal" she delivered a baby with a chromosonal abnormality who died 14 days later.

Ultra sound scars are very subjective to the tech who is performing them and other variables like the baby's position and the amount of amniotic fluid. I wouldn't ever count on an US for reassurance. Your intuition is a better guide.

[zalesmom]

Originally Posted by annettemarie

One thing I have learned on my mothering journey is that if I want other people to respect and trust my choices, I need to accept theirs as well. After 3 losses and 4 children, I am way past the point where I feel I need to justify my choices to others. Likewise, I don't feel others need to justify their decision to get an ultrasound or not to get an ultrasound to me.

I'm not asking for justification, I'm just curious. This isn't done where I live and I'm wondering what these big screens are and what they are for. Maybe I'm out of touch up here in Canada in my little Homebirthing bubble.