Originally Posted by annettemarie
I understand that. I just think this is kind of a loaded place to ask the question, because it's pretty obvious who the yesses and who the nos are. Maybe the general pregnancy forum would be better, and that way people can answer if they choose and not feel cornered? Because honestly, if I thought the point of the thread was some sort of research project, I just wouldn't have answered. I wrestle enough with my decisions without feeling like I have to explain them to other people!
That wasn't the point of the thread as far as I can tell. It was just questions from ME, about the choices we make. I'm not cornering anyone, I'm asking questions. If no one chose to answer, then that, in itself would be an answer to me. I'm sorry you "feel like you have to explain" anything to anyone. I much prefer to have someone tell me something because they WANT to, not because they feel like they "have" to. That sounds too much like justifying to me, and I am not asking anyone to do that.
Sorry you feel like it's a "loaded" place. I felt like it was the "perfect" place, because we're all pregnant here, and all come from different backgrounds and beliefs and different styles of care and different birthing choices, as well as different birthing issues and potential complications. It's a great place for me to "grok the vibe" and really really try to see things from other's perspectives. That doesn't mean I'm judging others. I definitely think that US is a valuable tool and is really a cool thing to have, when it's needed! It's NOT available in so much of the world and we're (most of us) are really lucky to have it available and paid for by our insurances.
i'm not planning on having any US's this pregnancy, but that doesn't mean my plans won't change. I could have complications, I could be large or small for dates somewhere along the line, long enough that I felt it appropriate to have an US. If someone else judges me for that, well, that's on them, not me.
That being said, have I thought about having an US just to peek? just to see if it's a boy like I think it will be, or a girl, like DH is so convinced it is? Of course! But for me, there's really no reason to have one done right now, so I am choosing not to. My choice not to, and my discussions about it, or asking others about their choices, or about fears or concerns, reasons for choosing this intervention.... NONE of the above is a judgement, nor is any of it asking for anyone, including myself, to justify their actions or decisions. That's all up to the individual.
Plus, I didn't see the yes's and no's as clearly as you did, apparently. I saw a lot of maybes and a lot of if it's needed I will, or if I choose to, I will, etc....