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post #41 of 62
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Originally Posted by annettemarie View Post
One thing I have learned on my mothering journey is that if I want other people to respect and trust my choices, I need to accept theirs as well. After 3 losses and 4 children, I am way past the point where I feel I need to justify my choices to others. Likewise, I don't feel others need to justify their decision to get an ultrasound or not to get an ultrasound to me.
post #42 of 62
Thanks AM, that's exactly what a I was thinking. My US choices are based on several things, all of them well thought out. I have eight living children, and four that have died between 14 and 18, and a csection scar that we track the placenta for because i homebirth and there is not a lot of room for error. I have friends whose babies would have died born at home due to congenital disorders, and fortunately had surgery lined up for immediately after birth. I'm on the phone or I'd post more eloquently lol!
post #43 of 62
I'm not sure if I will be having one. I lose my insurance in two weeks and I am not paying for one out-of-pocket.

I do not want to know the sex ahead of time, DH does, if we don't have one, argument settled
post #44 of 62
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Originally Posted by zalesmom View Post
I'm not asking for justification, I'm just curious. This isn't done where I live and I'm wondering what these big screens are and what they are for. Maybe I'm out of touch up here in Canada in my little Homebirthing bubble.
Also not interested in justifying but I have had pregnancies that included ultrasounds, and those that have not. Last time I had one that was WAY off and caused a lot of headaches, but overall, I think they are helpful in predicting some issues. With my celiac disease, and a cousin who had multiple heart defects, I feel comfortable having one done. I think I would be equally comfortable NOT having one done, but my dh wants it, so we are.
post #45 of 62
July 13th. I do want to know gender, but more importantly, I want to make sure there is nothing there that indicates this baby needs to be born in a hospital.

It will be a doctor who routinely deals with high-risk pregnancies doing my U/S, she did my first 2 kids and is really good.

I would question the usefulness of having it done by a tech, for my purposes.

I don't get one without a reason--I did have an early one too because I wanted to make sure I didn't have a missed miscarriage due to progesterone supplements.
post #46 of 62
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Originally Posted by zalesmom View Post
I'm not asking for justification, I'm just curious. This isn't done where I live and I'm wondering what these big screens are and what they are for. Maybe I'm out of touch up here in Canada in my little Homebirthing bubble.
Annette, I wasn't asking for justification either.
As a midwifery student, I really do need to know WHY moms deem US to be so very important. It's important to me to understand why US is important to them. It's NOT a judgement, it's me, trying to learn.
If, as a midwife, I can understand where their motivations are coming from, then I might be able to give appropriate information. i don't want to either discourage or encourage a needed or unneeded US. I like to go with what the mom is feeling, if she's being guided by her experiences and or intuition. But, being guided by fear, instead, is something I need to know about, as her midwife. It's not a deal breaker, it's just a red flag if I have a mom who's so overly fearful of the process that she wants to "peek" every couple of weeks. It's not recommended for normal, healthy pregnancies for low risk women.
Conversely, if there is a mom who has a history of abnormalities or other reasons an US or more than one, would be prudent, then I need to know that too.
I'm sorry that it seemed offensive to ask.
And I do maintain that there are a lot of women who want an US "just in case" and/or to see the sex of the baby.
Personally (my own opinion only) I see this as a mis-use of non-indicated technology, although there are many that would not agree with me!
Anyway, just wanted to clear that up. I am NOT judging why anyone on this ddc is choosing US. I just wanted to learn the various reasons why some moms are choosing US, especially multiple US.
Thanks
- Jen
post #47 of 62
I understand that. I just think this is kind of a loaded place to ask the question, because it's pretty obvious who the yesses and who the nos are. Maybe the general pregnancy forum would be better, and that way people can answer if they choose and not feel cornered? Because honestly, if I thought the point of the thread was some sort of research project, I just wouldn't have answered. I wrestle enough with my decisions without feeling like I have to explain them to other people!
post #48 of 62
Mine is not scheduled yet...my next appt is June 30th @ 16 weeks, but they won't do the anatomy scan until between 18-20 weeks, so I'm guessing it will be around the end of July. I am really wrestling with whether or not to find out genders...I found out with both of my girls because I'm a planner and, well, I just NEEDED to know! But on the other hand, this is my last pregnancy and I know it would be an amazing experience to wait until birth day to find out. So...still waffling.

As far as why so many ultrasounds, in my case it is due to being classified high-risk and previous history. My last pregnancy I had nothing but problems; a huge subchorionic bleed that didn't resolve until around 30 weeks, insulin-dependent gestational diabetes, polyhydramnios and a very large baby. Since her birth, I've also had to have a LEEP procedure to remove pre-cancerous cells from my cervix. So this pg is considered high-risk for 3 reasons: twins, possibility of incompetent cervix/premature dilation due to LEEP, and the fact that I will most likely end up w/ GD again. I will likely have to have several more after my anatomy scan to measure my cervix, make sure both babies are doing well, etc. Do I like it? No...I'd rather not have any, but that's not a possibility for me, so I try not to let it worry me.
post #49 of 62
My MW said she likes to schedule the u/s between 25-28 weeks. I'm kind of excited about this b/c I would like to wait to find out the sex (I lack self control) and I think if my u/s is that late, I can convince myself that 12-15 weeks isn't that much longer to wait. We'll see
post #50 of 62
mine is july 9th at 230. we are not going to fing out the sex. but i think i may change my mind? dp doesn't want to know
post #51 of 62
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Originally Posted by fairydoula View Post
It's not a deal breaker, it's just a red flag if I have a mom who's so overly fearful of the process that she wants to "peek" every couple of weeks. It's not recommended for normal, healthy pregnancies for low risk women.
Conversely, if there is a mom who has a history of abnormalities or other reasons an US or more than one, would be prudent, then I need to know that too.
I'm sorry that it seemed offensive to ask.
And I do maintain that there are a lot of women who want an US "just in case" and/or to see the sex of the baby.
Personally (my own opinion only) I see this as a mis-use of non-indicated technology, although there are many that would not agree with me!
Anyway, just wanted to clear that up. I am NOT judging why anyone on this ddc is choosing US. I just wanted to learn the various reasons why some moms are choosing US, especially multiple US.
Thanks
- Jen


I can see why some women would not want any US but I find how I'm doing (one at 10 weeks for dating since I ovulate 'late', one at 18 weeks for anatomy check) to be great for my situation too. There are also great reasons to get more than that like having twins (esp identicals), having prior reproductive surgery, bleeding, ect. As women and human beings we don't all come from the same 'cookie cutter mold' and we're not all going to get or need the same exact care.
post #52 of 62
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Originally Posted by annettemarie View Post
I understand that. I just think this is kind of a loaded place to ask the question, because it's pretty obvious who the yesses and who the nos are. Maybe the general pregnancy forum would be better, and that way people can answer if they choose and not feel cornered? Because honestly, if I thought the point of the thread was some sort of research project, I just wouldn't have answered. I wrestle enough with my decisions without feeling like I have to explain them to other people!
That wasn't the point of the thread as far as I can tell. It was just questions from ME, about the choices we make. I'm not cornering anyone, I'm asking questions. If no one chose to answer, then that, in itself would be an answer to me. I'm sorry you "feel like you have to explain" anything to anyone. I much prefer to have someone tell me something because they WANT to, not because they feel like they "have" to. That sounds too much like justifying to me, and I am not asking anyone to do that.
Sorry you feel like it's a "loaded" place. I felt like it was the "perfect" place, because we're all pregnant here, and all come from different backgrounds and beliefs and different styles of care and different birthing choices, as well as different birthing issues and potential complications. It's a great place for me to "grok the vibe" and really really try to see things from other's perspectives. That doesn't mean I'm judging others. I definitely think that US is a valuable tool and is really a cool thing to have, when it's needed! It's NOT available in so much of the world and we're (most of us) are really lucky to have it available and paid for by our insurances.
i'm not planning on having any US's this pregnancy, but that doesn't mean my plans won't change. I could have complications, I could be large or small for dates somewhere along the line, long enough that I felt it appropriate to have an US. If someone else judges me for that, well, that's on them, not me.
That being said, have I thought about having an US just to peek? just to see if it's a boy like I think it will be, or a girl, like DH is so convinced it is? Of course! But for me, there's really no reason to have one done right now, so I am choosing not to. My choice not to, and my discussions about it, or asking others about their choices, or about fears or concerns, reasons for choosing this intervention.... NONE of the above is a judgement, nor is any of it asking for anyone, including myself, to justify their actions or decisions. That's all up to the individual.
Plus, I didn't see the yes's and no's as clearly as you did, apparently. I saw a lot of maybes and a lot of if it's needed I will, or if I choose to, I will, etc....
Sincerely,
Jen
post #53 of 62
As I said, I thought the point of the thread was when people were having ultrasounds, not why. If you'd like to continue the conversation, feel free to PM me. I feel like we're veering the thread off topic at this point.
post #54 of 62
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Originally Posted by annettemarie View Post
As I said, I thought the point of the thread was when people were having ultrasounds, not why. If you'd like to continue the conversation, feel free to PM me. I feel like we're veering the thread off topic at this point.
I started this thread and the point was to find out when everyone had their anatomy scans scheduled and to support one another and share in the joy of seeing our LOs. I would never start a thread that I knew would cause a heated discussion. I respect everybody in our DDC and my hope is that we can all have that same mutual respect for each other.

I practice attachment parenting, no vaxing, extended breastfeeding, family bed, un/homeschooling but I do not judge people who decide to do things differently. I am completely anti- traditional medicine, don't use any toxic cleaning products, and eat all organic so you would think that I would be against ultrasounds but I am not. The reason for me wanting an anatomy scan at 18 weeks is because I am very prone to worrying and I just NEED that reassurance. I feel that it makes me have a healthier pregnancy overall to just know that things are looking good. I think worrying and stress is very bad for a pregnancy but that is just my
post #55 of 62
I have an u/s being done at Prenatal Picture THIS THURSDAY (6days!!!)!!! This is obviously just for fun and to find out the gender. We'll have a 'real' anatomy scan sometime beginning of August, I'd assume. YAY!
post #56 of 62
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Originally Posted by AndysQueen View Post
I have an u/s being done at Prenatal Picture THIS THURSDAY (6days!!!)!!! This is obviously just for fun and to find out the gender. We'll have a 'real' anatomy scan sometime beginning of August, I'd assume. YAY!
Hi Jamie! Where is that Prenatal Picture place located. You are giving me ideas
post #57 of 62
This is a really interesting thread...I just wanted to comment on something.
I don't want to do any U/S or doppler at all this pregnancy. I used the doppler routinely with dd (7 years ago) and had one U/S. I have learned alot since then about trusting my body...

However, as a mama who chooses to not use U/S, I feel unsupported often, and cannot for the life of me find mammas who understand or agree with my place/position on this. Either IRL or even sometimes online. I feel like our society has gone to using U/S for reassurance rather than listening inward which is fine and I have no judgement for that, I just feel so out of place sometimes. Even on here where I thought I would be more in the majority than the other way around.

but then again, I should be well used to that with all that we do in our family...however MDC has always been a great place to feel "normal" in some sense.

So my curiosity is, what is this big ultrasound all about, why do you feel that it is necessary? I feel really out of touch with a lot of what people are even discussing when it comes to ultrasounds and fetal testing...acronyms etc.

And if this isn't the place to ask these questions...what is the point of a DDC where we can all support one another, despite our differing ideals?
post #58 of 62
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Originally Posted by northcountrymamma View Post
This is a really interesting thread...I just wanted to comment on something.
I don't want to do any U/S or doppler at all this pregnancy. I used the doppler routinely with dd (7 years ago) and had one U/S. I have learned alot since then about trusting my body...

However, as a mama who chooses to not use U/S, I feel unsupported often, and cannot for the life of me find mammas who understand or agree with my place/position on this. Either IRL or even sometimes online. I feel like our society has gone to using U/S for reassurance rather than listening inward which is fine and I have no judgement for that, I just feel so out of place sometimes. Even on here where I thought I would be more in the majority than the other way around.

but then again, I should be well used to that with all that we do in our family...however MDC has always been a great place to feel "normal" in some sense.

So my curiosity is, what is this big ultrasound all about, why do you feel that it is necessary? I feel really out of touch with a lot of what people are even discussing when it comes to ultrasounds and fetal testing...acronyms etc.

And if this isn't the place to ask these questions...what is the point of a DDC where we can all support one another, despite our differing ideals?
For me, the u/s is all about setting the stage for a safe homebirth. Sometimes abnormalities/issues can be identified during the u/s that need to be addressed right away. Say my baby had a serious heart defect. If I gave birth at home without knowing that, I could potentially put my baby in danger, because we would obviously lack support (both equipment and people) for that situation. So for me, I want to make sure that there are no issues that would make homebirthing more of a risk.

We don't use u/s to determine gender, but I would never judge anyone who did. As for "listening inward," I was convinced my last baby was a boy, and she turned out to be a girl! We also don't do any of the "early" screening- we would not consider termination, and we feel that any major structural issues would show up in the u/s, so for us, there are no real benefits to that kind of testing.

To each their own!
post #59 of 62
My OB does mine around 20 weeks so mid- August. They'll probably schedule it at my next appt in a few weeks when I'm 15 weeks.

I want to cheat and go to this highly recommended u/s place (not a mall store) around 16 weeks to check gender but I dunno (cost and what if they're wrong and I think I have one sex for 4 weeks and find out differently). Not that I care for boy or girl but when they say one, it better be it.
post #60 of 62
Hi ladies- a general discussion on ultrasound safety or why you are having one belongs in the general pregnancy forum (called I'm Pregnant). The DDCs are for talk amongst yourselves and topics that are general or asking general informational questions will be moved to the appropriate forum. (See DDC guidelines).

You can talk about when you are having your ultrasound, or if you're not having one but if the thread goes into a discussion of ultrasound reasons and safety, that doesn't belong in the DDCs.

Thank you for your understanding.
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