Originally Posted by Taylah
I guess I've bought into the whole 'big baby' thing so readily since my husband was a 10lb 3oz baby.
Regardless of his size, I'd like to deliver naturally but they've already warned me that if he's a big baby that I'll be at increased risk for c-section.
Oh, I'm sorry that they're making it seem like you dont have a choice... "warning you" about the risk of a CS if he's a big boy. little chunker might be a *little* more work, but maybe not.
Your body was made
to birth a baby. I know that you want a natural birth, and I'm delighted that you're going to push for it (literally and figuratively!)
I had a MW appt last week - with "H" - during which I complained about the MW "G" I saw the previous appt. G was trying to tell me that I had to stop eating all sugar, work out vigorously every day, get up early (which I made clear was NOT my gig) and exercise, join a gym with a pool and start swimming, etc... under the bullying tactic of "You won't do this for your baby
?!" since I was measuring a whopping- THREE cm ahead... basically I was told that I was a bad mom and eating like some kind of a horrible, selfish, gluttonous heifer. for 3 CM. (and btw, i eat really well, do get some exercise, and really watch my carb/protein./fat balance in meals...) turns out my bladder was full, and baby had a growth spurt. oh, and i have a nice layer of pudge on my lower abdomen which doesnt help!! I was measuring only 1cm ahead at the last appt.
H told me, "for one, your DH's size has NOTHING
to do with how big your baby will be. He does help determine the final size of your child- like how tall he/she will be in 12 years... but not in utero! Your own birth weight could
be a factor; but in general, your body will grow a baby that it is capable of birthing,
especially if you're taking care of yourself." Taylah
, I know you are taking care of yourself from your posts here!! She then proceded to tell me that she had an agonizing, though rewarding, 2 hours of pushing for her 7lb7oz DD, who had shoulder dyst.... and her DS was born at 10lb8oz after only 20 min of pushing with no tears or complications whatsoever. both were natural births with a MW.
sorry, my short stories turned long just to tell you that it's all about perspective. I think the general consensus among natural-birth advocates and professionals is that generally, we grow a baby we can birth, barring complications beyond our control. Your being overweight should NOT be a reason to push a CS on you, nor should the size of your baby, but I know that you know that. My $0.02 is just to be sure that you communicate that you are not willing to have a CS due to size, (and make sure that OB doesnt come up with some other reason why you deserve to have major surgery just to give birth to your baby!) dont let him penalize you for your size or baby's.
FWIW, I'm glad they are monitoring your baby and am a little jealous that you get to peek in on him monthly!! But I do wonder why they wouldn't have taken a "baseline" measure before you started really showing and then measured fundal height once it was appropriate.... sometimes i think OBs get overly excited to bill insurance and patients for use of their very expensive equipment. (not that I'm knocking U/S usage as a whole, we had several early US to confirm - and re-re-confirm- viability due to our previous losses.)
sorry for the longest post in history, i'm tired and therefore dont have my filters geared up. I hope you dont feel like we're bullying you here too... just trying to be your cheerleaders- and remind you that you have the choice and the power here!
|I see my doc on Thursday, hopefully I'll get some indications from her on what may be ahead.
Oh, and also, I'm sure you know this too, but just to remind you, your doc has a degree, but that only qualifies her to make SUGGESTIONS about your care, not decisions. You ultimately get to decide what's ahead for you
. If you want a natural birth, you can say, "I hear your suggestions, and respectfully re-iterate that we'll be having a vaginal birth. period." They can't scheudle the CS for you... you have to consent.