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post #21 of 33
I'll also add that the statistic I found so troubling about this topic is that you're at a much greater risk of a c-section if your doc *thinks* the baby is big, than you are if the baby actually is big. I think this was in a Thinking Woman's Guide to Better Birth, though I'm not 100% sure that's where I read it.
post #22 of 33
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Originally Posted by Taylah View Post
I guess I've bought into the whole 'big baby' thing so readily since my husband was a 10lb 3oz baby.

Regardless of his size, I'd like to deliver naturally but they've already warned me that if he's a big baby that I'll be at increased risk for c-section.
Oh, I'm sorry that they're making it seem like you dont have a choice... "warning you" about the risk of a CS if he's a big boy. little chunker might be a *little* more work, but maybe not.

Your body was made to birth a baby. I know that you want a natural birth, and I'm delighted that you're going to push for it (literally and figuratively!)

I had a MW appt last week - with "H" - during which I complained about the MW "G" I saw the previous appt. G was trying to tell me that I had to stop eating all sugar, work out vigorously every day, get up early (which I made clear was NOT my gig) and exercise, join a gym with a pool and start swimming, etc... under the bullying tactic of "You won't do this for your baby?!" since I was measuring a whopping- THREE cm ahead... basically I was told that I was a bad mom and eating like some kind of a horrible, selfish, gluttonous heifer. for 3 CM. (and btw, i eat really well, do get some exercise, and really watch my carb/protein./fat balance in meals...) turns out my bladder was full, and baby had a growth spurt. oh, and i have a nice layer of pudge on my lower abdomen which doesnt help!! I was measuring only 1cm ahead at the last appt.

H told me, "for one, your DH's size has NOTHING to do with how big your baby will be. He does help determine the final size of your child- like how tall he/she will be in 12 years... but not in utero! Your own birth weight could be a factor; but in general, your body will grow a baby that it is capable of birthing, especially if you're taking care of yourself." Taylah, I know you are taking care of yourself from your posts here!! She then proceded to tell me that she had an agonizing, though rewarding, 2 hours of pushing for her 7lb7oz DD, who had shoulder dyst.... and her DS was born at 10lb8oz after only 20 min of pushing with no tears or complications whatsoever. both were natural births with a MW.

sorry, my short stories turned long just to tell you that it's all about perspective. I think the general consensus among natural-birth advocates and professionals is that generally, we grow a baby we can birth, barring complications beyond our control. Your being overweight should NOT be a reason to push a CS on you, nor should the size of your baby, but I know that you know that. My $0.02 is just to be sure that you communicate that you are not willing to have a CS due to size, (and make sure that OB doesnt come up with some other reason why you deserve to have major surgery just to give birth to your baby!) dont let him penalize you for your size or baby's.

FWIW, I'm glad they are monitoring your baby and am a little jealous that you get to peek in on him monthly!! But I do wonder why they wouldn't have taken a "baseline" measure before you started really showing and then measured fundal height once it was appropriate.... sometimes i think OBs get overly excited to bill insurance and patients for use of their very expensive equipment. (not that I'm knocking U/S usage as a whole, we had several early US to confirm - and re-re-confirm- viability due to our previous losses.)

sorry for the longest post in history, i'm tired and therefore dont have my filters geared up. I hope you dont feel like we're bullying you here too... just trying to be your cheerleaders- and remind you that you have the choice and the power here!

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I see my doc on Thursday, hopefully I'll get some indications from her on what may be ahead.
Oh, and also, I'm sure you know this too, but just to remind you, your doc has a degree, but that only qualifies her to make SUGGESTIONS about your care, not decisions. You ultimately get to decide what's ahead for you. If you want a natural birth, you can say, "I hear your suggestions, and respectfully re-iterate that we'll be having a vaginal birth. period." They can't scheudle the CS for you... you have to consent.
post #23 of 33
Yeah, the whole u/s for growth ticket seems like a one way trip for c-section or induction.

With my second, my OB thought he was "huge" and induced me at 38 weeks. He was 8 lbs 10 oz, and I pushed for less than 15 minutes. He likely would have been a lot larger at his own birthday, but I'm completely capable of delivering...woulda been nice to avoid an induction. Now I know better.

Same Dr with my 3rd, and she was transverse, and I had very mild pre-e symptoms. So, he put me on hospital bedrest, and had a high-risk OB attend me while there. She stayed transverse because I was restricted to bed. He had an u/s performed that estimated my baby was only 3.5 lbs...they freaked out, and ordered a c-section for the next week due to IUGR. She was delivered at 37 days even, and was 6.6. Now, I wouldn't let them take the wand to me without HUGE cause.

So, +/- 2 or more lbs is totally usual. Besides, it's head circumference, shoulder and chest width and positioning that contributes to the ease or difficulty of vaginal delivery, among other things-not baby fat.
post #24 of 33
Those are SO inaccurate. There was a recent thread about it, actually. They did this with my ds and he was only 7 lbs 2 oz at birth and slightly premature and now has neurological and digestive issues thanks to them believing that u/s. They are NOT accurate.
post #25 of 33
I don't have time to read all the posts right now, but u/s can be off, way off! My friend's first baby was 10 lbs. She is 5 10 and it was no problem. fast forward to #2: They said the baby was measuring too big; already at nine pounds and she needed to have a c sec--baby came out two weeks early at just under 8 lbs. Even if she had been having an 11 pounder, she seriously could have handled it.
I am 5'4" and my easiest birth by far was my biggest baby, weighing in at 9 lbs. This baby seems to be following that pattern. From my understanding, u/s can be 2 pounds off...and c-sec soley for a bigger baby isn't considered a valid reason by most med assocs...hth! I'll come back and read the thread later, lol!
post #26 of 33
At my ultrasound with DD#1, they told me they thought she would be near 10 lbs. at birth. She was 7 lbs. even. I think those ultrasounds are not good for true size/weight estimates. Don't let them pressure you into induction or c-section.
post #27 of 33
As the Mama of two vaginally birthed 10 pound babies and one nearly 9 pound baby, I just want to let you know that there is no reason why you can't birth a big baby naturally. As others have said, fat is squishy.

I'm 5'6-1/2" too. Not super tall.

All of my u/s did show that the babies were big... and they were accurate... but that didn't keep me from having them naturally. I did have one OB resident who freaked upon my admission, and my OB basically told him to just chill. DS2 was born naturally, no epidural, in about 3 hours.

Find an OB who is supportive of you and who believes that women can birth big babies and you should be fine.

And the ACOG is quite clear in their guidelines that macrosomia (big babies) are NOT a reason for a c-section... so don't let them try that on you.!!!
post #28 of 33
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Thanks for all the information and support. I'm going in to my OB appointment armed to the teeth with all the information y'all have shared and I've unearthed in my own research since yesterday!

I don't think my OB was pushing c-section when she warned me about the possibility. When he measured a big at my last U/S I asked if there was a chance they'd want to induce me early because of that, she told me that there were no studies saying it was helpful but that there was an increased chance of c-section with a big baby. Then she added that we'd give natural birth a shot before making that decision.

I think I just got taken unaware by the baby's size and freaked out a bit. I'm glad I brought my questions here, I didn't realize how far off the measurements could be. That is crazy.
post #29 of 33
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Originally Posted by Taylah View Post
I don't think my OB was pushing c-section when she warned me about the possibility. When he measured a big at my last U/S I asked if there was a chance they'd want to induce me early because of that, she told me that there were no studies saying it was helpful but that there was an increased chance of c-section with a big baby. Then she added that we'd give natural birth a shot before making that decision.
Glad to hear it!

Good luck at the appointment, let us know how it goes.
post #30 of 33
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And the ACOG is quite clear in their guidelines that macrosomia (big babies) are NOT a reason for a c-section... so don't let them try that on you.!!!
This is what I was trying to say, lol! My pregnancy brain...
I also have a friend who had 7 children ranging 8-10 # and she is 5 ft 100 #. So there's more anecdotal evidence, lol.

Let us know how your appt goes!
post #31 of 33
My daughter was estimated to be 10+ pounds. She was my first baby, they were freaked and wanted to induce now, now, now! I ended up having her at almost 43 weeks and she weighed a whole 6 pounds.

Then there was my son. Supposedly didn't grow any in my belly for the last month I was pregnant. I was told it was because of my low weight gain. I was talked out of a homebirth and delivered him at a special hospital with a large nicu because they *knew* he was going to be a micropreemie based on my measurements and my ultrasounds. Boy came out weighing almost 10 pounds.

So to summarize...I don't trust them and their size/weight estimates at all.
post #32 of 33
If you think he's going to be big it may be a very good idea to be well prepared for a natural childbirth as well. It will be much easier to push out a large baby if you are able to find the best position to do so for your body. An epideral, IV, and monitor would certainly get in the way of going with what your body is telling you needs done!
post #33 of 33
I don't trust those ultrasounds - a ANY point for sizing/dating estimates. With DS I had a U/S 2 days before I ent into labour - they said he was 6lbs - he came out 7lbs 14oz 2 days later!!! I think that the tech has their on set of expectations/biases based on what they THINK size should be, given any # of factors.
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