Please help - 6 year old and lying about poop - Page 2

[major_mama11]

My DD has had similar issues, due to sort of a snowball of factors- poor diet due to sensory issues was probably the original problem (she only eats about 14 foods reliably).

At around 3-4, she started anticipating, and purposely holding in poop regardless of how much fiber she had eaten. She would leak around these giant poops for hours or days beforehand, without being able to control the leaking. It was getting very frustrating.

What finally helped was 1) our family doctor had a compassionate little talk with her about drinking lots of water and not holding in poop, 2) we really pushed fluids for a while, and 3) We have found 2 or 3 fruits and vegetables that she will eat reliably, and we give her these foods every. single. day, since otherwise she would eat very little fiber.

It basically involved bowel training- taking her to the bathroom 20 minutes after a meal and encouraging her to give it a try before it built up. After several months of gradual improvements, she is now finally in a routine where she will go once or twice a day, and is very proud of herself for not being afraid to poop anymore.

s I hope you can find some solutions!

[Davonia]

I don't know about the medical issues, etc, but I can tell you what I would do were I having the same problem.

Since your daughter expressed interest in being put back into pull ups, I would think that she wants to be babied a bit. I would leave her in underwear, but I would set a timer, like I did when potty training my son, so that every 30 mins, hour (whatever), we would both go to the bathroom and I would help her do it, as if she is potty training again.

Either she will appreciate the extra attention, or she will become embarrassed and try to not get you to follow her into the bathroom. I would simply tell her that when she shows that she can handle things by herself, then she can be by herself again. It will be a long road, but hopefully will lead to less messes.

I'd also take her to a therapist in case she does need help in figuring things out. Sometimes, we get advice from others that we will listen to that we wouldn't listen to our family for. Maybe another adult, like the therapist, can help.

Good luck!