Crappy Libido - Page 3

[sunnygir1]

Originally Posted by akind1

I am not really touched out, per se. I actually would love to be touched more by someone who doesn't want to tug all of my facial features of, drool rivers all over me, and pull my hair. Baby is nearly 7 months old, and doesn't really get the "gentle touches" idea yet. I love DS, but sometimes, you know, a change of pace is good.

lol! Me too! Except that whenever he touches or kisses me, I know that he wants more, and I'm almost never up for it, so I start to feel frustrated and annoyed.

9 months here; lots of breastfeeding and bouncing to sleep, and no menstruation. We get around to it approximately once every 7-10 days.

My midwife mother told me that oat straw tea helps. I am so tired I can't really remember to keep drinking it long enough to notice if it helps or not.

Lube definitely helps. It also helps if I sort of plan on it, like think about it during the day and take a nice long shower after the kids are in bed...provided that they go to bed and actually stay asleep!

For us it's almost always awesome if he can actually talk me into it. There have only been a couple times that I really couldn't get into it even after we got started.

With our first my libido definitely came back (and actually exceeded dh's) but I don't really remember when. I didn't start menstruating until 13 months pp with dd, and I'm pretty sure it was after that.

[MommatoAandA]

SEE, I am the weirdo. I wanted to have sex through the pregnancy and right after the kids came. We had sex before the 6 week wait. But right now, I'm working and going to school, and have 2 little ones and its touch and go. I have the urge, but no energy, so DP ends up doing the work most times.

Also, not to be so blunt, but things, AHEM, have changed down there since baby number 2. I have lost a bit of sensitivity there. So its harder for me to get where I wanna go than it was before.

When I dont feel like it and DP does, I always try to get in the mood. We at least aim to have sex 2 times a week. I know he needs it and so do I, even if I am tired. I have some lube for the dry times, 9 times out of 10 I get into it and always end up enjoying myself. If nothing else, I will take care of him, if I am totally not in the mood.

It IS normal. You will get the Libido back. PROMISE.

[Kmama2]

Originally Posted by Abraisme

I have a different opinion about this matter.. My DD is 10mo, my ppaf is still nowhere to be seen and I also have little to no sex drive. My baby still wakes up at least 4 times in the middle of the night and I'm also tired.. I dtd anyway. I would say that we're probably intimate about 3 times a week or so..

While I was pregnant there were a few months when my DH wasn't in the "mood" to dtd with me. It felt TERRIBLE! I cried myself to sleep a couple of times because he started going to bed later than me to avoid being intimate. I know he wasn't meaning to hurt me, but still, it felt really bad. I would never want to hurt our relationship or make him feel that way. Sometimes we all have to do things that we don't feel like doing, to me, this is one of those things. Also, after we get done I'm always happy that I pulled myself into it. The big O's are few and far between, but it's still nice to spend the time loving on my man.

Very well put! Ds is 8 months old and I have had cycles since 3 months. He is still 99% breastfed ( he eats a few bites here and there) I am in the mood when I am ovulating but because we use NFp and are Catholic we have to abstain those times. But pre and post peak we use all the days we can. It ends up being maybe 5 times a month or so. Sometimes I am in the mood and sometimes not but I try to do it for DH. I am amazed that some many of yur husbands can go so long with out DTD. Months?? Dh can barely survive the 2 weeks of abstainence just before, during, and after ovulation. The closeness does feel good even if the sex isn't the greatest. I am sitll pretty dry due to breastfeeding. But I think once a week or so is great!! my rule is just no sex after 9 pm... LOL. Well thats the rule most of the time. Our kids go to bed around 630-730ish pm so we usually have from 7-10 of adult time. But after 9 I still getting super tired and then its not going to happen.

[Norasmomma]

For me I honestly don't know how people have the time.

DH works all day, he gets home and we hang out with the kids, have dinner and by 9pm I feel like flopping into bed and sleeping. Our son sleeps with us and usually our DD ends up in there too. I work 3 nights a week too, there just really isn't time.

Last time we did we got interrupted and I've been annoyed by the prospect of even trying and getting interrupted again, it just isn't fun to "get in the mood" and then have the 3 year old yelling "mom" and just being annoying-it's called instant mood killer-for BOTH of us.

All I want lately is a nap-seriously that's it.