Help for a Late Starter

[adamom]

I first attempted ECing with my daughter when she was around 8 months. She willingly sat on the potty and responded to my cues if she had to go. As an "out of the sling" older baby, however, I didn't have the benefit of physical attachment, and it was burdensome to bring her to the bathroom every 20 minutes, so I stopped.

But summer has arrived, and I'm giving it a second shot. She's 12 months now. I let her go diaper free as much as possible, hoping I'll get better at observing her rhythms and that she'll "train" me. But any time I take her to the bathroom (or bring the potty to her), she resists. I never push the issue--I figure I'm better off if I stay relaxed. But whereas at first she seemed pretty conscientious about how/where she relieved herself (never on the carpet, and she'd move away from the pee/poop when finished), now she doesn't seem to care. Am I making a mistake in letting her use the house as one giant bathroom?

For a while it seemed I was having better success outdoors. My husband and I run a farm, and I keep her in a cloth diaper when we're there. She rarely wets her diaper at the farm, and it used to be that I could generally get her to pee (and sometimes poop) on cue while I held her. But now she doesn't want to be held. She'll hold her pee until I take the diaper off and give up on holding her, and when I put her down, she'll pee on herself.

I haven't found any good resources on ECing an older child, so I'm just winging it. The trouble is, I have no idea if I'm headed in the right direction.

[Aimelet]

Hi there! I started late too! DD is now 15.5 months and doing really well (granted we have had a rough few days recently, but I do remind myself she is 15 months old)

Here is a thread where I asked for help
http://www.mothering.com/discussions...878&highlight=

What kind of potty are you using? DD did not like our Ikea potty at first and would NOT sit on it.

I will also totally admit that I used rewards when she stopped sitting on the potty. I gave her a blueberry as soon as she sat down and then one if she peed or pooped. Then I changed it to just one if she peed or pooped, then we slowly stopped it all together

[Shanny2032]

We started late too and at 18 months she has been pretty much potty trained for the last few months. I tried to think of it as a cross between ec and potty training at that age and that helped to find somethings that worked. I bought an Elmo potty for christmas right after she turned 1 and that was a big hit. I also had/have an ikea potty in every room in the house (they are so cheap) so that when she started to go we could get her on there without running through the house peeing and pooping. 2 things that have really helped us are books in the bathroom and making up silly songs. We sing I like to peep peep peep pee pee on the potty to the tune of I like to eat eat eat apples and bananas. Works with poop too . We always give high 5's (which a 12 month old is usually really excited about because it is new and cool to them).