Venting about being a single parent

[Ottermom]

Appologize now, just gotta get it out.
Ugh! I hate being the one the that has to do all the dishes, the laundry, the scheduling. And then I am the one that pays the price if we miss a friend's baseball game.
I keep meeting great guys and they all vanish, why can't we still be friends? They don't realize it is not me, as much as they are a part of my son's life? I can't keep putting him through this. I hate it.
I live in a redneck town miles from my family, and friends.
I am so lonely.
Why do I stay? because ds is 9, has friends and his dad lives here. While I suffocate, and am miserable in a town of 440 people.
No condolences needed. I am sorry for me plenty.

[Satori]

*hugs* We've all BTDT, if you can find work else where its time to move. Your son will make new friends and there is visitation with his father. Moving doesn't mean you have to move far away, even an hour away is a very reasonable moving distance and it will not interfere with his relationship with his father really. You need to think of your mental health too and not just everyone elses. As for housework, do you have someone that you can have help? A friend where you help clean each others houses? Like Monday she comes over and helps you with your stuff and a few days later you come over and help her with hers?

[UmmSamiyah]

OMG!! i feel your pain chica! i was just about to post the same thing last night but got distracted with something else!! my family is here though. i don't really have any friends and can't even seem to date...whats up with that?? i will not apologize for having children but i feel like i always am. i want to move soooo badly but then feel guilty for wanting to go. part of my kids family and their friends are here. but i hate living here soo much. all i can say is <<HUGS>> from a mama who TRULY understands

[dziwozony]

Sending some empathy...I am also living far (far!) away from friends & family, but stay here because of my children's father. They are very close with him, so I wouldn't want to take them away, but also he got a court order so I can't live outside the district! It would feel better if it felt like more of a choice, you know?

I've been feeling really overwhelmed with the whole solo mum thing lately too. Their dad has them part of the time, but it's still not a good schedule because it's either I have them full-on 24/7, or not at all for large chunks of time- that's not balence! There's no one to play with them while I cook dinner or do the dishes.

So, I guess I don't have constructive advice, but I understand your frustration.