I really don't like DD's teacher

[BabyA'sMom]

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Edited by BabyA'sMom - 1/29/11 at 4:00pm

[EdnaMarie]

Hi.

As for the personality / nurturing issue: Your child's teacher does it differently than you would.

And I would say, think of that as a strength. If she is fair, calm, and kind, what does your child lose? Nothing! In fact, she gains a model of how a different personality functions in a somewhat different (but still decent, just) society. That is a plus! Your care providers need not share your personality.

I will just say that I think one of the greatest things we give our children when we send them to school is the chance to participate in another culture, another society.

However, the money and age-inappropriate expectations are a problem. On the other hand, she might have appropriate expectations but just tell two-year-olds to color in the lines. (I am not sure if coloring sheets are very Montessori--I thought not.)

I say, look at some other places. The money issue would bother me. Payment shoudl be transparent and simple. Otherwise, she's just asking for drama and who needs that?

[yarngoddess]

For me? In My Opinion? I would find some where else to place her. I just see so many red flags and I would worry and wonder and "what if" myself sick. Your DD is a sweet and wonderfull little one, and she deserves to be somewhere that she's loved and respected and treated appropriate. She also deserves to have a place that will respect her momma. Yes your DD has friends and is doing well there, but she will also make new friends and do well else where. Just my opinion. I'm subbing to see what the other momma's say...very interesting!

[Wild Lupine]

It doesn't sound like a workable relationship in the long term. From what you've said it doesn't sound like you and the teacher would be able to work together to resolve any problems that might arise. Better to move DD now while you have time to do so in a way that works for your family than during a crisis.

(Not giving DD the food I sent would be beyond a deal-breaker for me. That's unhealthy in so many ways.)

[sapphire_chan]

Capriciousness isn't a good trait in anyone least of all in a childcare provider and Montessori instructors are supposed to be even more consistent than regular child care workers.

Get your dd out of there before this woman gets it into her head that your dd is manipulative or some other such nonsense.

If she doesn't give fat and protein to a child because she was sick 5 days previously, who knows what other bizarre whims she'll decide to indulge?

OTOH, unless a kid is hungry and tired, just getting a bandage and some ice and letting them get back to doing their thing is just fine. That's the one part that didn't bother me in your description of this woman.

[BabyA'sMom]

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Edited by BabyA'sMom - 1/29/11 at 4:00pm