Originally Posted by MommaKitten21
Well, the decision has been made for us
DH received a phone call. They have decided to change his ship out date from July 17th to July 6th. So no chance to induce. 13 days until he leaves for 286 days. I'm not sure how I feel about things right now, but now I need to think of things to do to make him as included in the birth experience as possible. Pictures are a definite, but besides that I'm not sure for ideas.
Oh no. I'm so sorry he's leaving earlier than expected.
Some ideas to make your DP feel as involved in the birth day as possible:
-Pictures and definitely video if you can. You could even edit it afterward and add captions for what was going on in your head at the time.
-Get foot prints of baby stamped on a canvas. You can then write time/day/weight/height/name of baby in an artsy way and frame it to send to your hubby.
-Have a NB sized onsie secretly inked (or you and DH can do it together before he leaves) with something like "Dadies little angel". Then have it be babies very first outfit. After it's been worn for a little while and all full of that special baby smell, send it to your DH with a pic of baby wearing it after birth.
-Have DH help you pick out all of your birth music/candles/whatever you use for comfort. Have him help with your birth plan so he feels included.
-Do something fun with the pregnancy like a belly cast or henna with DH before he leaves.
Things to make you feel close to DH while in labor:
-Have DH do a voice recording of encouraging phrases like "I love you" "You're doing great" "You're so strong" "One contraction at a time" "Relax and open" etc........Hearing his voice during labor might help remind you of his support even from far away.
-Get a picture of your DH doing something silly or making a kissy face (or whatever would reflect his personality best) that you can use as a focal point.
-Use one of DH's shirts (unwashed) to hug, squeeze, or wear during labor. (I know this sounds cheesy but I'm a smell person and I know that would feel comforting to me).
Some other general suggestions for labor: get a doula!!!
Also, don't try and be too
strong. Emotional issues can cause labor to stall, so if you feel yourself missing your DH allow yourself to express that. Cry if you need to. Let the sadness go and then push forward in your labor. YOU can do it!!!
Once that little bundle of joy is here, take lots of pics and video to send to your DH. You can have him record himself reading a story or something to have the baby listen to and learn his voice. I know it seems like forever, but that baby will give you strength and purpose and the time will fly by.