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Originally Posted by conniebonnie  ok ladies, ive come to you before feeling stressed about this, but lately ive just noticed that ec for us has turned into, the baby pees on the floor. really, thats just the truth. I caught one pee and two poops last week.
We set her on the potty and she gets right back up and walks away, and then pees on the floor, minutes, seconds, after getting off the potty. she starts to poop and then turns stiff as a board and will not set on the potty. ect.
what do we do? She only wears diapers when we go out, or when she's peed/pooped x number of times on the floor today and i just cant clean up another mess.
im not angry or frustrated with her, or wanting to quit.. i just feel like we've gotten off track somewhere, and im seeing no cues and i have a 1yr old who wont sit on the potty. We have three differnt potties, and a seat for the big potty. nothing.
help?
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Did you start EC at birth? Do you or did you use diapers at times? How does the nighttime go?
I have two EC girls. It was completely different experiences. dd1 was giving signals and never pooped anywhere but a potty after going diaperless at 4 mo. We did have some pee misses though. I kept her in underwear and pants during that time frame (around the 12 mo phase). She was so busy walking and exploring and playing, she often didn't get to a potty or give signals in time around then. I also had a period of time that she did not want to use BBLP or big potty with insert, or insert on its stand alone child training potty. I would put her standing in tub in spare bathroom and run warm water around her feet. It worked every time.
dd2 was different. She never really signalled until recently. She was never consistent about getting to a potty in time on her own, until recently. I cleaned up pee after pee. She also gave virtually no warning on when she was going to poop, so those ended up wherever too. I am a super attentive mother. I am in the same room with dd2, paying attention without being obvious, all the time. So I noticed the way she would tense her face right before pooping. Then whenever I saw her tense that way, I was running over with BBLP, or asking if she needed to go to the big potty to poop (using the insert of course for her comfort). Now she always poops in a potty. She went from never doing it to doing it everytime. She is also consistently taking herself to the BBLP for pees too. We have only had 3 pee misses in a little over a month. 2 times it was because I didn't have her BBLP in the room, and the other time she was sitting on the bed beside me, one of the very first times she had seen a movie ("Curious Buddies- Let's Move") and she was just so excited, she leaked. She hit me and said mama mama until I realized I needed to get her on the potty. It was funny, but she was not going to take her eyes from the screen. She has been dry at night for prob at least 2 months also.
So dd2 peed and pooped at will. I had gone diaperless with her at 12 mo. I had used diapers longer with her because it seemed she didn't catch on as quick as sissy.. Well they weren't really diapers actually, I just used a prefold and a pair of underwear. It worked to catch the pee. At night I had resorted to disposables in different periods (we ended up buying 5 boxes of diapers overall for dd2, which tears me up. I only bought 1 big box of diapers for dd1 and a small one). I used the disposables at night because I was tired, and old. And she wasn't into using the potty every two hours in the night. well many reasons, but that's another post. I know disposables are bad and I never want to have them in my life again.
So I went from having a baby that pooped and peed all over the floors and at night peeing... to catching 99.9% (24 hrs a day) almost overnight (she is 18 mo now, dry since 17 mo). I don't know if it was the sposies or just having her in diapers longer in general, or if it is her brain and how it works that led to the constant messes and no signals...
I say if it is bothering you, just put some of the gerber training pants on, or a pair of undies with a prefold in it. As long as the baby knows what peeing is, and what it is to go in potty, and they were introduced to that before using a diaper as a toilet, the breakthrough will come one day. I also always remember that it is our modern society that makes this difficult, or seems so. The types of flooring we have is the only reason it is a 'bad' thing for the baby to pee and poop places besides the potty. If we still lived with the land, and had dirt floors, it would be no big deal at all. New dirt would cover it, or we would scoop out the wet or soiled dirt and throw it outside, putting down new sand... But even more that that, in that type of optimal living, where there are no cribs or playpens or doors, the child learns to go out of the hut very early... so really it is the types of homes we live in that make EC a different thing here. I bet if the door was open the child would elect to go outside to eliminate, but I did not get to test that since it is still cold here even now in June... oh also as a disclaimer, we rarely go anywhere. I know if you take your children to stimulating environments like playgroups and parks you are more likely to have misses since they get very involved in the play there and forget to disengage and find a potty to eliminate in.
Back to the OP, let your child maintain the control, she may be resisting because she is learning she has her own body. Just keep having the choice of using a potty available and let her choose her bottoms too I would say. Maybe giving her a choice between an AIO, gerber training pants, panties and pants, or nakey butt. If you started EC at birth or soon after, she will get back to it soon. We just knew that we would replace the carpet after hte children were older anyway since they spill juice and stuff too. Also we are on slab and have a small bissell carpet cleaner. I use vinegar and borax as needed with a vinegar solution in the bissell
oh I made this too long. hth
