DS is almost 15 months old, still BF at night and sleeps with us. With a few exceptions he has almost always nursed to sleep and rarely will go down for night time for anyone other than me (he does fine with our nanny for naps).
I have to go out of town for 2 nights for a work related training. We considered me taking him and our nanny/my sister, but the cost was just way too prohibitive for us. So DS is staying home with DH, my sister (who is our daytime nanny), and my mom is coming to help.
I know he will be fine! My mom will put him down and DH will be there with him if he wakes in the middle of the night. And yet, whenever I think about this trip I feel totally panicky! This is especially true when he wakes up in the morning and reaches for me. I feel so sad at the idea of not being there when he gets up!
Any ideas for how to get through this trip emotionally??
I also have some practical questions.
What to do about EBM? DS hasn't used a bottle in about 3 months and doesn't usually drink BM during the day. He uses a sippy cup for water, juice and occasionally coconut milk. My sister has tried to give him BM in a sippy cup, but he hasn't taken it. So what should they do while I"m gone? Reintroduce the bottle? Or try BM in the sippy cup? One thing I really worry about is him weening because of this trip. I'm fine if he wants to ween, but I really don't want it to be because I am out of town! Any ideas?
Second, DH has intermittent back problems that prohibits him from carrying DS too much--which is why my mom is planning to put DS to bed. However, DH does the bedtime routine and DS sleeps in bed with DH and I. If DS wakes after my mom goes to bed, DH will have to just hold DS in bed until he goes back to sleep--which will almost certainly mean crying. So I wonder if I should just ask my mom to sleep with DS all night and have DH just do the night and morning routine? Or is being near daddy better, even if it means crying?
I really want to be able to skype or talk to DS on the phone while I'm gone, but I'm afraid that will be more confusing and upsetting to him. What do you all think?
Any other tips for those of you who have had to do this??
Thanks!
I have to go out of town for 2 nights for a work related training. We considered me taking him and our nanny/my sister, but the cost was just way too prohibitive for us. So DS is staying home with DH, my sister (who is our daytime nanny), and my mom is coming to help.
I know he will be fine! My mom will put him down and DH will be there with him if he wakes in the middle of the night. And yet, whenever I think about this trip I feel totally panicky! This is especially true when he wakes up in the morning and reaches for me. I feel so sad at the idea of not being there when he gets up!
Any ideas for how to get through this trip emotionally??
I also have some practical questions.
What to do about EBM? DS hasn't used a bottle in about 3 months and doesn't usually drink BM during the day. He uses a sippy cup for water, juice and occasionally coconut milk. My sister has tried to give him BM in a sippy cup, but he hasn't taken it. So what should they do while I"m gone? Reintroduce the bottle? Or try BM in the sippy cup? One thing I really worry about is him weening because of this trip. I'm fine if he wants to ween, but I really don't want it to be because I am out of town! Any ideas?
Second, DH has intermittent back problems that prohibits him from carrying DS too much--which is why my mom is planning to put DS to bed. However, DH does the bedtime routine and DS sleeps in bed with DH and I. If DS wakes after my mom goes to bed, DH will have to just hold DS in bed until he goes back to sleep--which will almost certainly mean crying. So I wonder if I should just ask my mom to sleep with DS all night and have DH just do the night and morning routine? Or is being near daddy better, even if it means crying?
I really want to be able to skype or talk to DS on the phone while I'm gone, but I'm afraid that will be more confusing and upsetting to him. What do you all think?
Any other tips for those of you who have had to do this??
Thanks!
