Are you ever blindsided by something your ex says or does - and it brings all kinds of memories rushing back?
I realize I'm a frequent poster here looking for advice for conflict with my ex, but sometimes things hurt so bad I could just cry for days.
Last night something my older dd said on the phone to her dad made him think of this hilarious story from when we were first dating. So when I got on the phone to talk about plans for the weekend he brought it up - and within minutes we were both laughing so hard, I literally had to get off the phone because I couldn't catch my breath.
Thankfully my gf is very secure with our relationship and does not feel threatened when the (rare) past story/joke comes out and we have a good laugh together (my ex & I that is) - it's almost cathartic, you know? Considering all the conflict we have, this is kind of like a salve to the (often) difficult co-parenting relationship we have.
Anyway, to get to the point, for some unknown reason (I must be hormonal) last night I was tripping hard down memory lane, and I couldn't stop crying. I mean, ten years is a long time with lots of stories and memories to remember. Thankfully, I was alone so it wasn't an issue.
For example, this is the first summer in ten years I won't be going to his parents cottage on the island to visit with the kids. It just hit really hard, kwim? I don't mean in any way that I actually miss my ex, just that there's a lot of history there and it sneaks up on me sometimes...
I realize I'm a frequent poster here looking for advice for conflict with my ex, but sometimes things hurt so bad I could just cry for days.
Last night something my older dd said on the phone to her dad made him think of this hilarious story from when we were first dating. So when I got on the phone to talk about plans for the weekend he brought it up - and within minutes we were both laughing so hard, I literally had to get off the phone because I couldn't catch my breath.
Thankfully my gf is very secure with our relationship and does not feel threatened when the (rare) past story/joke comes out and we have a good laugh together (my ex & I that is) - it's almost cathartic, you know? Considering all the conflict we have, this is kind of like a salve to the (often) difficult co-parenting relationship we have.
Anyway, to get to the point, for some unknown reason (I must be hormonal) last night I was tripping hard down memory lane, and I couldn't stop crying. I mean, ten years is a long time with lots of stories and memories to remember. Thankfully, I was alone so it wasn't an issue.
For example, this is the first summer in ten years I won't be going to his parents cottage on the island to visit with the kids. It just hit really hard, kwim? I don't mean in any way that I actually miss my ex, just that there's a lot of history there and it sneaks up on me sometimes...
