Balancing time between 13 month old and 4.5 YO

[Punchy Kaby]

How do I do it? Or rather, how do YOU do it? I am having a hard time giving my 4 YO DS enough personal time. He is jealous of the toddler, who gets more time with me simply because she nurses and she is running around needing a watchful eye. I have also been really busy with work and have been away a lot.
I am having a problem just trying to fit in any one on one time with DS, but even on a day to day basis, it is hard to balance 'attention'. How do I make DS feel more special, even if we are not alone?

[RLWS]

My kids are 4.5 years apart in age. Right now my son is 6.5 and my daughter is newly 2. She is now more able to play without needing my constant supervision, so it will get easier! But some things I do are:

-Read my son a chapter book while my toddler nurses. We like to lie in bed with one kid on each side. She doesn't care about the book, but loves to nurse and then will often roll around or play with some toys.

-Get outside. She's always more likely to entertain herself outside. If I can get my toddler interested in something such as the sidewalk chalk, that buys me about 5- 10 minutes to play catch with my son. Those small amounts of time add up.

-Naptime. When my daughter naps, I spend 30 minutes or so focused on my son, doing whatever he wants.

-I try to find a game they both like, which can be hard when one child is so young. My son and I might act really silly together to make her laugh. Such as, we both pretend we can't stand up and keep falling over. She cracks up, and so does he.

-Friday Mama&son night. Every friday night, I put his sister to bed and he gets to stay up late doing something special with just me. This has helped tremendously! He asks several times a week if it's friday. Here are some things we have done for mama-son night: legos, bake cookies, watch a movie, go on a walk, go the the playground, play board games.

I'll be watching this thread for more ideas!

-Lora