In need of a book rec for DH

[Jend1002]

I know there are lots of posts about books - but here's what I am looking for and I am hoping some suggestions! My DH just doesn't get GD. It's not that he uses physical discipline AT ALL but he can be impatient and doesn't always take into account that our DS has feelings and an opinion that should be respected. It's kind of forceful like he has to prove he is the boss, in my opinion. We are definitely at odds on this topic. I have tried specifically to talk with DH about emotion coaching but it has become apparent that his parents basically allowed for no emotion in his home and the result is quite sad to me.

Can anyone suggest a book that is simple enough in concept and seemingly mainstream that I can read and then casually pass on to DH? Does that make sense? I guess if the approach is so far from where he is now, I don't think he will embrace it. I just think some specific guidance along with the reasons for it will help DH.

Sorry for rambling. DH was away for 3 weeks and just returned and I am already frustrated with the way he interacts with DS.

Oh - and DS is 21 months so typical toddler stuff really stresses DH out.

[LaughingHyena]

DH and I recently read this one
http://www.amazon.co.uk/Parenting-Yo...3&sr=1-3-spell

He uses a lot of reward systems and some time out but is not big on punishment. He is not supernanny style 1 minute of time out per year of age though, he prefers a short (1 min) time out to break the cycle of behaviour.

I also liked his methods of practising desirable behaviours, eg walking through the bedtime routine and making it clear what is expected of the child at each stage.

[GoJoJo]

Do you think Dr. Sears is sufficiently mainstream? The "Discipline" book might be a good bet. I think there's a specific section for dads. Also, here's a link to 10 tips for fathers re: discipline from www.askdrsears.com: http://www.askdrsears.com/html/10/T110100.asp#T110300

I picked out portions of that book, Dr. Sears' 'Baby Book', and others for DH to read. But I'm the researcher in our family on many issues, so I think DH appreciates me kind of distilling topics for him and presenting summaries of parenting philosophies, etc. I doubt he would ever choose to read a whole parenting book front to back (or 15 of them, like me!)

Good luck!

[GoJoJo]

Oh, and I meant to add that I second what the PP said about making your DH aware of developmentally appropriate behaviors. A really simple behavior milestone chart or something might help him understand "'No' is not a meaningful concept to a 14 mo" or similar. Knowing what he can reasonably expect your DD to comprehend at this age will make a big difference, I'll wager.

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