Originally Posted by Drummer's Wife
same here. Bread at every meal isn't very healthy, IMO, and I know my kids would fill up on it and not eat as much veggies and protein. I am low-carb, no sugar currently myself, so I keep an eye out on much my kids eat - even whole grain.
This is a good point, and I would suspect an undiagnosed special need for a child that literally ate bread at every meal to the exclusion of everything else for days at a time.
I can say that I don't know any bread-eating families (DH is from Asia where bread is the centerpiece of every single meal, no matter what--we're a high-grain family, LOL) in which the children eat only the bread. It's just an alternative to the main meal IF they don't like it.
I hope it doesn't sound like my kid goes to bed hungry every night. She doesn't seem to. She falls asleep and wakes up with energy and is not begging for breakfast. She has gone to bed complaining of hunger once or twice. That was after I made a decent meal and she had bread and milk offered, but she refused.
|Now, if I KNEW my child hated salmon, I would give her a peanut butter and jelly in place of salmon.
My child doesn't hate much but since we always have a vegetable, grain, and meat (sorry, we're the urban poor, we can't afford 100% veggies and fruits and meats) I don't make an alternative. I will refrain from mixing in a spice or food she doesn't like--I'll make sure she can separate it.
|wow, this topic is so hot for me. my parents were very very controlling with food to the point of being hit if we didn't eat fast enough. so the idea of denying children food because A.) they don't like it B.) because i don't want to be inconvenienced to help them C.) so i am in unlimited control over what goes in and out of them... just makes me so upset.
I'm so sorry.
I never deny my children food. We just do not have extra food prepared for them. They do not have to eat anything they do not want. They have time to eat. We don't use corporal punishment ever and certainly no punishments for eating or not eating.
I appreciate that it's a sensitive subject for you but I don't think that the abuse you suffered can be compared to not making an extra meal at every meal, or even at occasional meals, you know?
I guess I come more from the perspective of living in Asia with DH's family and seeing the whole family eat the same thing. I never saw a kid refuse food. They always fought over meat and vegetables from an early age. They didn't provide alternatives for SO MANY REASONS but it was not a control issue for them. It was just... they ate from one pot. And none of them had food issues. My own kids don't appear to, either. They eat whatever, or they eat bread. They are normal weight and rarely complain of being hungry, except when they know there are sugary treats their dad brought from work.