I agree that Freecycle is great for those things that aren't exactly in great condition but still make you feel that they're too good to throw away.
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6/21/10 at 5:52pm
Just a thought off the top of my head...
Maybe when you're having a good day, take a pack of bright neon stickers (like the "dot" stickers) and put them on anything you really want to keep. That way you don't have to do the moving, and he can declutter around the "keep" items. Alternatively, you could get a few very large bins, and put precious items in there, which he can leave and you can sort through later to see if more needs to go.
This might be stupid, but I'm proud of myself. I usually throw together my own curriculum based on Waldorf main lesson blocks, but with a baby coming, I thought I should buy something, so I bought a bunch of Christopherus homeschool books. Then I found out I was having twins and realized I needed to simplify even more. I thought about holding onto them since there will be kids to grow into them, but then I thought of the "let it go" advice here and I sold them.
So, today is apparently the day. DH got a truck. He started on the garage last night and apparently just threw everything out. This morning we had a huge fight. He didn't understand why I couldn't just leave him alone to toss everything and I couldn't understand why he would pay for the dump to take stuff when we could put in on the porch and the rescue workers would come and take it for free. Finally, we compromised. I'm trying not to be too anal retentive about what we keep and he's standing by me as we go through things.
And actually, the basement was really good. He brought me a chair and made me sit down and I went through stuff. I ended up with one bin about half full of stuff I want to keep or at least think about keeping, a bin full of stuff I think I can sell easily, and the rest is either on the porch for the Rescue Workers or got taken to the dump. We're probably about 1/3 of the way through the basement and then we have to tackle the attic. We probably won't get it all done today.
So far, he's taken three loads of stuff to the dump.
I feel really stupid and really wasteful and really embarassed. I tried to only send stuff to the thrift store that was already sorted and ready to go, but it was so hard to just dump parts into the trash bin. I mean, it's really screwing with my OCD. And some stuff was easy, like new books and toys and scrapbooking stuff still in the package, because I kept thinking of how happy it would make someone to find it.
My 11-year-old came down at one point and I was crying and he was all "Mom, just let it go!" and DH said, "Leave your mother alone. When you grow up you can marry your own neurotic wife and try to help her." I didn't know whether to laugh or cry.
Anyway, I'm supposed to be napping while they're at the dump and getting lunch, but I just wanted to update.