My DH was TOTALLY against a VBAC, but then it seemed like he might be willing to try one at a hospital...although I knew that an HBAC is really the best way to go if I am to be successful.
But then last time we "talked" about it, he said that I need to just accept that I can't birth a baby vaginally. I just wasn't built for it, he says it like he knows it for a fact. Talk about heart-breaking! Talk about just plain mean! And totally ignorant!
In the end DH has bought into all the crap that my OB spouted about my "tight pelvic girdle." I now see that he has fantasy bonded with the OB and bought into all the crap about my "tight pelvic girdle."
I have decided to let time pass before I bring up VBAC again, to let the fantasy bond where off. I am still hopeful, though, that I can convince him when the time comes. I think that his resistance is based on fear, resentment, and some regrets about what led up to the c/s. I also think that he might think c/s are just easier. He hasn't been around a successful homebirth. All the ones we know about led to hospital transfers.
In the end, he doesn't know what a powerful and positive birthing experience can be like for me, for him, and for our marriage.
I posted about my struggles with DH here:http://www.mothering.com/discussions...php?p=15321926
There are lots of helpful replies from others who have been in the same situation.