Second thoughts about DC's name?

[JamieCatheryn]

It's such a huge decision, naming a child. Have you ever had second thoughts after your child was born and all the official paperwork done? Was it fleeting or did it last months or years? Why - too unique, too common, different spelling, too gender neutral or not enough? Just not sure it fit?

[JamieCatheryn]

I'll answer for us. Though everybody loves DS1's name it is unique so I've always wondered if we should have gone more normal. DS2's first name is gender neutral though the middle isn't, at first I worried about that but not anymore. I'd never change either though, it turns out they fit them so well and that's not something to go back on lightly.

[ledzepplon]

With my first two kids, I was so certain of their names. With ds2, however, I never had the same "this is THE name" feeling. I do love the name we gave him, but I still sometimes wonder if we made the absolute right choice. (I think my perfectionist tendencies come into play here!)

[fruitfulmomma]

My husband gave our last daughter her first name but I got it misspelled in my head somehow, so it is slightly different than what he wanted. But actually now I like it the way it is and it worked out better with her middle name I think.

[lilyka]

I don't like my first dds name. it is sooooo common. We settled on it shortly after the pregnancy test came back positive and did not think it through or really explore good names. I was sick of it before she was born. her middle name though is spectacular but she doesn't really go by it at all. I hated my middle dds name (her dad insisted, I had no choice) and now of the three girls her name is my favorite.

Two years ago they were baptized and got new names. I like them so much better (it is so much easier to name your child one you have really gotten to know them ) and use them often.

[Purple Sage]

No, I never had any second thoughts about any of the kids' names. Some are a little more common or trendy than I'd like, but that's okay. I still love their names.

[One_Girl]

I have never had second thoughts about my dd's name. It is a name that many girls have, though I didn't realize it would be when we chose it. It is a beautiful name though and it fits her nicely.

[MJB]

My ex picked my first son's middle name (Elijah) and I don't like it. Never did. He's 7.5 now so I don't think I ever will. Oh well! I don't think middle names matter much in the long run. His first name fits him great and I love it.

My second is Luka and I love his name, but it is more common than I expected. It's totally him and I wouldn't change it, but I wish other people would quit using it already!

[crunchy_mommy]

Yes, I had second thoughts about DS's name for the first few months. It just didn't feel like it fit -- but now, 16mos later, I love it.

I think for me the problem was not the name itself but that I didn't feel like I GAVE him the name. We had a traumatic hospital birth. They had written our BOY & GIRL name choices on the whiteboard (we didn't find out the sex) and so when he was born they immediately started calling him by his name (before I even got to hold him) and that was difficult for me. Next time around I think we will keep the names a secret (at least from the health care providers, maybe from friends & family too). I want to look my baby in the eyes and give him/her the name I feel is right deep in my heart.

[nolonger]

i love ds's name, but i don't really like how it sounds with our last name. I had the "this is THE name" feeling about his girl name, but kind of combined two choices from a list for his boy name. I'm over it now and just call him by the first part of his hyphenated first name.

[StrawberryFields]

I have doubts about my third child's name. It feels weird when I say it and since we call her by a nickname I never know how to introduce her when people ask. I voted only brief doubts though because she is 5 months and I think it is getting better for me already. I think I just have to get used to using her name now that she is here.

[Darlingricki74]

Originally Posted by StrawberryFields

I have doubts about my third child's name. It feels weird when I say it and since we call her by a nickname I never know how to introduce her when people ask. I voted only brief doubts though because she is 5 months and I think it is getting better for me already. I think I just have to get used to using her name now that she is here.

That's kind of how I feel. My baby is almost 2 months. Her name is Adriana Max, but we call her Max. I never know what to say when people ask her name. If I say Max,they automatically assume it's a boy(and get confused since she's usually dressed very pink and girly! LOL). So I start to wonder if maybe we should just call her Adriana. But we really like Max(the only reason it's her middle name and not her first is because we thought the name flows better this way). I usually just answer "Adriana Max, we call her Max".

[StrawberryFields]

Originally Posted by Darlingricki74

That's kind of how I feel. My baby is almost 2 months. Her name is Adriana Max, but we call her Max. I never know what to say when people ask her name. If I say Max,they automatically assume it's a boy(and get confused since she's usually dressed very pink and girly! LOL). So I start to wonder if maybe we should just call her Adriana. But we really like Max(the only reason it's her middle name and not her first is because we thought the name flows better this way). I usually just answer "Adriana Max, we call her Max".

Exact same issue here--dd is Aurora and we call her Rory. If I introduce her as Rory I get blank stares and confused looks--boy name, girl clothes? But we don't really use Aurora so it feels weird to say it. I think as she grows older and it is super obvious she is a girl, it won't be so complicated. So for now when people ask, I say Aurora. I figure if they hang around us long enough they will catch on to the Rory thing, and if they are strangers it doesn't really matter since we will never see them again. Dh says, "Her name is Aurora and we call her Rory."

[crunchy_mommy]

Or you could just say, "Her name is Max" or "Her name is Rory" -- then they will know she's a girl

I always always go by my nickname myself. So when people ask my name I never ever give my full name (although when I give my nickname sometimes they ask what it's short for so then I tell them). I think it's perfectly fine to introduce your children by their nicknames -- as long as it's something other people will feel comfortable calling them (i.e. "we call her HoneyBuns" -- very cute but I don't think someone else would want to call her that so then you might want to provide her full name or whatever else you'd want people to call her)

[Tigeresse]

My 11yo ds's name became a quite popular girls name in recent years. It's still fits him well and I have met some boys with the same name, but had I known how the name would trend I may not have chosen it. Still, no real regrets as we all love the name.

[momasana]

DS's name suits him perfectly. I couldn't imagine calling him anything different.

Choosing a child's name is a big deal, but at the same time people are so much more than their names, know what I mean? For example, I have four really great friends named Amy (spelling varies) Sure their name is the same word, but when I speak of each or think of them there is so much more to it than just the word. There are memories, experiences, personality, their laugh, their likes and dislikes, their quirks, the threads of our friendship, the sounds of their children. Does that make any sense at all?

[butterfly_mommy]

With my children I knew before birth and luckily there names fit after

My mother however has a different story. She felt pressured into naming me Melissa by my dad and his family. She loved the name Belinda (after The main character Belinda in the movie Johnny Belinda) She also loved the Name Scarlett (after gone with the wind) My Dad did not like either of those names and choose Melissa.

When I was in grade 2 so about 7 my mom asked me if I wanted to change my name to Scarlett and I said sure. She convinced my dad and we went down to City Hall to stand in front of a judge and to legal get my name changed to Scarlett. I still have the name Melissa but it is a middle name now. It was kinda strange but fun the first year. For about 7 or 8 years I still had some family call me Melissa and I had an Uncle who just passed away 2 mons ago that only called me Melissa and refused to call me Scarlett.

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My daughter's name is a unique spelling of a traditionally boy's name. (Jordyn) She hates it. She hated when she couldn't find pencils and metal license plates with her name on it. She told me when she was five "Sometimes you just want a seaworld mug with your name on it ya know!!!!" <--through tears.

She wanted to change it to Samantha from the time she was four, til about age 15. Now, she's adjusted. LOL. But, I've always felt bad about using a unique spelling. It seemed like a cute idea at the time, but it's always been a hassle.

[vlinderanna]

yeah with DD1, her name is Liana, I also loved Nuria and I was sad that I couldn't use that name, so I named DD2 Nuria

I love both names and they suit them well

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My husband's ex accidentally spelled her daughter's name wrong on the birth certificate. So, on her birth certificate, her name looks like it says "Rocky". So, when she was called on at school, they said "rocky" instead of her real name.

Ya have to kinda wonder why the nurse who was taking the information down, didn't say "Are you sure this is how it's spelled?". Especially since Mom had recently been under anesthesia. She's always said she'd get her name legally changed, but she's 24 and still goes by Rocky.