Okay I need to blow off some steam here.
My mother is already being crazy about my stupid baby shower, oh my god. She asked if I wanted her to throw me one (is that how its typically done? she was very "oh do you want that?" about it after she was the one who brought it up) and I said sure. And then she wanted to know if I want a "classic" one or a "fun" one. My mother has not thrown a party let alone a shower in the last 10+ years but whatever. So I said (and this was probably my mistake) that I really enjoyed Emily's with the really personal games and fun stuff. Then I mentioned it might be nice to have it somewhere closer to my friends then her house, in Corinth (lets be honest, my mother has 14 dogs and 3 cats, her house stinks!) and she got offended and told me I had hurt her feelings and she wanted to decorate, which is when I escalated things with "mother I have never been to a party where you have decorated" and she said "I decorate for Halloween and Christmas (she does not btw, have parties for either of those holidays) and you are hurting my feelings" so yeah I was like " i dont want to fight about this, its stupid, but it is supposed to be my shower and I want my friends to be able to come (and to myself, not be embarrassed about your disgusting house)." so she says "if you do it somewhere else, someone else can throw it for you." I am ALMOST 8 weeks pregnant and my mother is ALREADY sucking. This is the woman who wanted nothing to do with my miserable bridal shower and now she wants total control over my baby shower regardless of what I want. she can suck it! (oh lord I am so cranky).
P.S. I told my mother this morning that I feel awful and am going to try and nap today, so she has called me... let me check my phone.... 5 times in the last hour and a half. Why?
My mother is already being crazy about my stupid baby shower, oh my god. She asked if I wanted her to throw me one (is that how its typically done? she was very "oh do you want that?" about it after she was the one who brought it up) and I said sure. And then she wanted to know if I want a "classic" one or a "fun" one. My mother has not thrown a party let alone a shower in the last 10+ years but whatever. So I said (and this was probably my mistake) that I really enjoyed Emily's with the really personal games and fun stuff. Then I mentioned it might be nice to have it somewhere closer to my friends then her house, in Corinth (lets be honest, my mother has 14 dogs and 3 cats, her house stinks!) and she got offended and told me I had hurt her feelings and she wanted to decorate, which is when I escalated things with "mother I have never been to a party where you have decorated" and she said "I decorate for Halloween and Christmas (she does not btw, have parties for either of those holidays) and you are hurting my feelings" so yeah I was like " i dont want to fight about this, its stupid, but it is supposed to be my shower and I want my friends to be able to come (and to myself, not be embarrassed about your disgusting house)." so she says "if you do it somewhere else, someone else can throw it for you." I am ALMOST 8 weeks pregnant and my mother is ALREADY sucking. This is the woman who wanted nothing to do with my miserable bridal shower and now she wants total control over my baby shower regardless of what I want. she can suck it! (oh lord I am so cranky).
P.S. I told my mother this morning that I feel awful and am going to try and nap today, so she has called me... let me check my phone.... 5 times in the last hour and a half. Why?
You want your mom sitting close to you, sharing the experience with you, not running around being the mom, filling everyone's cups, at the party.
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It did make me feel better.
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