co-sleeping with son, age 7 - Page 2

[tnmom66]

My son co-slept with me till he was 9 1/2 and my boyfriend at the time who I was pregnant by (who never was at my house) wanted me to stop.  I knew it wasn't a big deal for my son because he slept in his own bed at his father's. I LIKE co-sleeping!  Personally, I would have drawn the line at 10, anyway, and now that my son is 12 and in puberty, it would seem creepy to me to snuggle with him at night--but that's just me. And I still hug and snuggle with him when he'll let me (he doesn't like it), just not in bed. My older daughter slept in the top bunk from the time she was about 8 and my son was 7, as the bottom bunk (futon) got too crowded.

My 27 month old daugther is still night nursing and i am in no hurry to rush her out of bed, but her Dad wants to know when she'll start sleeping alone.  She sleeps in his king-sized bed and he sleeps on a twin mattress beside her on the one night a week he has her overnight.

My older kids are both honor students, well-adjusted, happy and healthy.

My son, being younger was a little more clingy than his older sister and had a habit of holding my hair as a securithy object. He wasn't quite ready to sleep alone at 9 1/2, but he was okay.  I imagine he would have soon afterward decided to sleep by himself, anyway.  Huge changes take place between age 9 and age 12.

[meemee]

btw mama i wanted to add cosleeping is very, very important to dd. her dad was a reluctant cosleeper when she first started going for the night at 3. but she convinced him.

for her its like therapy. even today. esp. today as her consciousness develops and she feels a lot more moral responsibility than before. 

i am grateful her dad still cosleeps with her because it really cements their bond. for us its more time spent together. even if its just sleeping.

when you have an extra sensitive child cosleeping is a godsend. 

without nursing and cosleeping i doubt dd would be such a confident, super independent child. touch has been HUGELY important to her since the moment she was born. and i will say i welcome it too. been good for me too. 

[hillymum]

My 6 1/2 yr old son sleeps the whole night with me though I had been trying to get him to start off in his bed. thanks to SBX doing something very mean ds just can't deal with being in his own room at all. My 10 yr old sleeps in his own room 90% of the time but loves the occassional night with me. he always has to have a long cuddle in his bed before he goes to sleep though.My  11 yr old ds hardly ever sleeps with me but if he's feeling down or ill then he can be found in my bed.

     i really get the idea that my bed is the safe zone. Nothing bad can happen there. \If the Judge ever orders I have to stop co-sleeping my youngest son will need a lot of counciling!

[darcytrue]

My DS, now 15, also slept with me up until he was 6 years old. I finally got him to start going in his own bed with a lamp. Some nights I would fall asleep with him and leave him once he fell asleep and go to my own bed. Did the same with my oldest DD. :) She is 8 and just finally, in the last year, started sleeping "mostly" alone at night.