Feeling so alone

[Nuttybuddy]

DH and I have decided to keep this one a secret until we feel more secure about it. Also, we are fairly new to our area so don't have many friends or family here. I'm feeling very alone at this huge stage in my life! Also wondering how the heck I'm going to keep it a secret this summer with family visits, not drinking at bbq's etc.

Has anyone else chosen not to tell anyone or lived far away from people you are close to? How did you handle it? Any advice?

[RedOakMomma]

Is there a close friend you can tell? Someone you can talk to over the phone, whom you can trust with your secret?

We didn't tell our wider circle of family until after the first trimester, and didn't tell our wider circle of friends until after 20 weeks. But yeah...I had to tell a few close friends (mostly over the phone) at first. It kept me sane, and made it possible to talk about what was really on my mind. I can't imagine how isolating it would have been to be so consumed with thoughts of pregnancy/motherhood but not be able to speak about it with friends.

[bella99]

Same here...

we tell our parents, and then we each tell one close friend so that we have someone to talk to, share news with, etc.

I'd suggest thinking about someone you feel comfortable telling. It'd be a great support.

[Nuttybuddy]

Thanks I'll have to talk to DH more about it. He's the one being extremely superstitious about it, but I'm the one who has to be pregnant with no one to talk to! I think he's going to have to understand that I at least need to tell my mom or best friend!

[L J]

I didn't tell anyone in real life for a long time with this pregnancy. I knew it wasn't going to be well received by my family, so I just didn't tell. I told my parents at 17 weeks, after we found out the gender. I didn't come out about it at work until around 22 weeks.

It was pure torture, especially since DP just doesn't get into pregnancy. He doesn't want to talk about it. He just isn't interested.

So, I joined a due date club on here, and another message board that I love, and I spent a lot of time online talking to other pregnant women and reading (and shopping for the baby). That helped. Thank goodness for virtual friendships.

Good luck mama, and hugs to you - it stinks not to be able to share the biggest, happiest, most exciting thing in your life with anyone close to you.