so my ex called me the other night

[ashleyhaugh]

to let me know hes deploying to afghanistan at the end of next month.

i dont know how to feel about it. i went through2 iraq deployments with him, pre ds.... hes been injured and has had more than a few close calls.... it was going to be hard enough to figure out how to do visits from texas to colorado, now i get to try and explain this to a not quite 3 year old who is used to at least attempting to call daddy before bed every night. got to invest in a web cam now i guess....

this is going to be weird i think, going through it, but not as his wife... and i feel a bit guilty, because i kind of wished for it when we separated, that hed get deployed and realize he was being stupid (the divorce wasnt my idea, and im still dealing with it)

anyway, i just wanted to get it out, and i dont really have any other place to do that at

[wytchywoman]

((((((HUGS)))))) I think a webcam is a great idea and your DS is old enough to dictate letters to you and draw pictures to mail to his father. Hopefully that will help the two of them stay connected.

[Bad Mama Jama]

i agree and that sounds like an excellent idea.

[bella99]

When my friend's husband was deployed to Iraq for 13 months, prior to him leaving, they recorded a bunch of videos of him reading her bedtime stores, playing the guitar and singing, etc. He made a few more when he was gone.

Her daughter was 13 months when he left and they watched a different video after dinner every night, obviously, some were watched more than others. Doing this helped her remember her daddy and when he came home, she "knew" him and was excited to have him home.

She found out she was pregnant two days after he deployed, and while he was able to be on leave for their son's birth and was able to be home, by the time he did get home for good, his son had no idea who he was and it took a long time for the baby to adjust to having him there and trusting him. The fact that he didn't have to go through that adjustment with his daughter because of these videos, made the return home a lot easier.