Originally Posted by taramoon13
i understand the whole theory about me being gone while someone else puts ds to sleep, i just wonder if that's really going to work because i can see him figuring that he can't have milk if i'm not around, but as soon as i am there another day it's back to the old routine. a lot of times he wakes up midway through his nap and nurses back to sleep too, today i refused it and he wouldn't go back to sleep. i really don't want him to wean completely at all, i'm just starting to feel like a slave to it. he did just get over being really sick & nursing a lot more than usual, so i think it's just frustration from that too.
Yeah, but the important thing - I think - is you knowing that you don't have to be there all the time.
Dd2 still night nurses--though slept for 8 or 9 hours recently before waking for a marathon at 4 or 5 in the morning. Other times, it's the same as JMJ's toddler. She's 15 months next week. My five and a half year old still nurses a bit, but hasn't nursed to sleep on a regular
basis in about 3 years.
ETA - Especially if you're drawn to child-led weaning, you have to look on it as a process, a very malleable, changeable process. Not something that's a straight line, or a clear cut-off. There were times with dd1--when she was super-young--when I was certain she was weaning, but it was just a transitory thing. There have certainly been times that I would like things to be different, but on the whole, I'm glad to have taken the path I have.