‘I don’t like Grandma!--update post 16 - Page 4

[proudmamanow]

Just to let everyone know that Grandma is here and they are having a great time....the best time I've seen them have in a few months. Talking further to dd I think that it was an accumulation of little frustrations with my mom's anxiety that added up to her feeling like grandma was overbearing....and she didn't have the words to articulate that so she expressed it the way she felt comfortable. And I think us having given her the chance to express herself, and validating her, has meant that she is now ready to move on to enjoy her again. I am so relieved.

I'm so glad I invited my mom to come....this seems like a really relaxed, healing visit for both of them. Within 2.5 hours of her arriving, dd asked if she could stay up so she could do a craft with grandma. I think an earlier PP who suggested it was more of a relative thing...like compared to other grandparents who I adore, she is not as much fun, hit it right on the head.

[TulsiLeaf]

Originally Posted by proudmamanow

Just to let everyone know that Grandma is here and they are having a great time....the best time I've seen them have in a few months. Talking further to dd I think that it was an accumulation of little frustrations with my mom's anxiety that added up to her feeling like grandma was overbearing....and she didn't have the words to articulate that so she expressed it the way she felt comfortable. And I think us having given her the chance to express herself, and validating her, has meant that she is now ready to move on to enjoy her again. I am so relieved.

I'm so glad I invited my mom to come....this seems like a really relaxed, healing visit for both of them. Within 2.5 hours of her arriving, dd asked if she could stay up so she could do a craft with grandma. I think an earlier PP who suggested it was more of a relative thing...like compared to other grandparents who I adore, she is not as much fun, hit it right on the head.

that is awesome. I am glad that it turned out well for your mum and daughter!

[intentionalmama]

How wonderful! It sounds like you are really in touch with your child; and your openess to her helped her process some of her pent up feelings. I am so happy for your daughter, your mother and you.

[madskye]

That's great.

[A&A]

Originally Posted by proudmamanow

And I think us having given her the chance to express herself, and validating her, has meant that she is now ready to move on to enjoy her again. I am so relieved.

A win-win for everyone!!

[proudmamanow]

Visit is now over and it was really lovely. Dd spent lots of time sitting on grandma's lap while grandma read stories to her, and they did a couple of special crafts together and took special walks to the park (all at dd's initiative). After we dropped grandma off at the bus station today, dd spontaneously said "I'm glad grandma came to visit". She also asked me when she was coming again & if we could have her come for Christmas.

I think I have a better idea of what happened too--on the last visit, dd hung out with auntie the whole time, and didn't get any time with grandma, who was taking care of our little 2 yo, and I think she also felt jealous and like grandma didn't want to spend time with her. (even though they were following her lead in this).

[rightkindofme]

Yay! I'm so glad you persevered in this. A good grandmother/mother is absolutely worth working through difficult situations!