Pregnant w/ Multiples Chat Thread June/July - Page 6

[butterflies]

Congrats Annette!

[~Adorkable~]

i would like to whine for a moment, is that alright ladies?

i am feeling like my birth experience is slipping away before i even get a chance, i cant find a birthcenter in the DC area to take twins.

i have always assumed that i would have a water birth and it would be someplace calm and inline with my feelings that pregnancy and birth are not medical issues. now here i am with what will most very likely be my only birth experience and things look like they are headed in such a different direction.

since i am on military health coverage, i have very little choice in who i go to see, i was willing to pay for a birthcenter out of pocket to have the birth i wanted. but from the calls i have made so far, including one to a lady in DC that ran one of the best centers, she does not not know of any center that can take me. I have no other issues, just the twins, how can this be do hard.

i did get a name of a homebirth midwife that does twins, but i do not think in the depth of winter with a first birth im totally comfortable with that, maybe if i end up living pretty close to the hospital. and then if i end up comfortable with that, my husband is surely not going to be, i know he would probably get out of my way and let me do whatever i choose, but he is part of this and i do not think this is just about me (maybe mostly about me though)

i was born on my moms bed, into my dads arms. it never occurred to me that my child's birth would be any different. im just in shock.

i have my next appointment with a military midwife that i have spoken to before prior to getting preggo and she is a huge water birth advocate, i really look forward to talking to here and seeing if she has any insight or advice on how to work on getting a good birth. thats not for 2.5 weeks though, and i keep worrying that once i figure out what needs to be done, someone will tell me that i needed to arrange for it a month ago!

ok im going to go breathe or eat protein or something, this is the first time in this whole adventure that im getting myself too worked up

[SashaBreeze]

Congratulations Annettemarie!

Adorkable first off the first page that you updated looks GREAT! You really do a remarkable job of keeping up with all of us and I just wanted to take a moment to thank you for taking the time and trouble to do that for us. I that you posted the link to QuennofChaos' birth story.

Also Adorkable I can so sympathise with you about birthing plan frustrations. I had a mind blowing frustrating appointment at my MW office today, I am going to post for advice over at the Birthing forum, and have spent the rest of the day crying. I will be thinking and praying for you and your little ones, why cant they just trust us and let us have our babies without turning it into a 3 ring circus????

On the good side of things my ultrasound today was great. Baby B was confirmed 100% definitely a boy, so maybe I will stop having those wacky baby girl dreams? They have both grown really well and as far as physical stats both the boys and myself couldn't be healthier.

[ladydodson]

Originally Posted by •Adorkable•

i would like to whine for a moment, is that alright ladies?

i am feeling like my birth experience is slipping away before i even get a chance, i cant find a birthcenter in the DC area to take twins.

i have always assumed that i would have a water birth and it would be someplace calm and inline with my feelings that pregnancy and birth are not medical issues. now here i am with what will most very likely be my only birth experience and things look like they are headed in such a different direction.

since i am on military health coverage, i have very little choice in who i go to see, i was willing to pay for a birthcenter out of pocket to have the birth i wanted. but from the calls i have made so far, including one to a lady in DC that ran one of the best centers, she does not not know of any center that can take me. I have no other issues, just the twins, how can this be do hard.

i did get a name of a homebirth midwife that does twins, but i do not think in the depth of winter with a first birth im totally comfortable with that, maybe if i end up living pretty close to the hospital. and then if i end up comfortable with that, my husband is surely not going to be, i know he would probably get out of my way and let me do whatever i choose, but he is part of this and i do not think this is just about me (maybe mostly about me though)

i was born on my moms bed, into my dads arms. it never occurred to me that my child's birth would be any different. im just in shock.

i have my next appointment with a military midwife that i have spoken to before prior to getting preggo and she is a huge water birth advocate, i really look forward to talking to here and seeing if she has any insight or advice on how to work on getting a good birth. thats not for 2.5 weeks though, and i keep worrying that once i figure out what needs to be done, someone will tell me that i needed to arrange for it a month ago!

ok im going to go breathe or eat protein or something, this is the first time in this whole adventure that im getting myself too worked up

i seem to remember reading a birth story over at parentingtwinsnaturally.com that included a midwife that has done tons of twin homebirths in the dc area...more twin births than any ob, even...im pretty sure i read that.

maybe if you figure out what about a home birth scares you so much you can inform yourself of the real risk and just keep an eye on your pregnancy...and use your intuition if you feel like the hospital is your best option...

i feel the same way. this is my final pregnancy/birth and my last two were awesome home births...i'd assumed this one would be the same...but my mw's have more than likely risked me out. im a vbac...and my hospital, i think, will only do vaginal birth if both twins are vertex...and even then its in an operating room in case of 'emergency'...

i hope we all discover the birth we want.

[~Adorkable~]

Originally Posted by SashaBreeze

Adorkable first off the first page that you updated looks GREAT! You really do a remarkable job of keeping up with all of us and I just wanted to take a moment to thank you for taking the time and trouble to do that for us. I that you posted the link to QuennofChaos' birth story.

Also Adorkable I can so sympathise with you about birthing plan frustrations. I had a mind blowing frustrating appointment at my MW office today, I am going to post for advice over at the Birthing forum, and have spent the rest of the day crying.

thanks, i'm glad to hear that ladies like the thread, it means a ton for me, i feel like i am among cohorts here more than anywhere else.
Sorry you had a hard appointment, big hug, its ok to just cry every so often

Originally Posted by ladydodson

i seem to remember reading a birth story over at parentingtwinsnaturally.com that included a midwife that has done tons of twin homebirths in the dc area...more twin births than any ob, even...im pretty sure i read that.

maybe if you figure out what about a home birth scares you so much you can inform yourself of the real risk and just keep an eye on your pregnancy...and use your intuition if you feel like the hospital is your best option...

i hope we all discover the birth we want.

yeah i have a name of a MW that is known for that, probably the same lady, i am gong to talk with her certainly. Im open to a homebirth in general and so is my mom who will be my main support system.
i dont think that home birth scares me, i just question wether any transfer that might be justified would be extra stressful and even be done sooner rather than later because of winter and traffic in DC in Jan. if i had a really calm stable midwife, that may go a long way to calming me. where i end up living in relation to our hospital would also affect this options viability.

[mauri456]

Adorkable -- I understand your frustration completely. I was pretty much in the same spot at about the same stage of my pregnancy. I encourage you to explore your various options and find the right fit in a provider.

I was seeking someone who would deliver the twins in home and found out that the only MW that would was over 2 hours away. While I am not a super fast laborer, that didnt sit well with me. I also looked into the hospital that we'd transfer to -- not such a great option.

There is an AMAZING homebirth MW in my area that I am doing collaborative care with and she explained to me her reasons for why she didnt feel comfortable with being home. Her back up OB has a 10% c/s rate, is very supportive of natural birth yet very skilled for those situations where medical intervention is necessary.

For me that was the best balance. I do my care with her primarily (in her home) but see her OB for some prenatals. They are very hands off... I'm almost 28 weeks and have only had one ultrasound (getting next one today). I have declined some testing they've offered and they both have been very respectful of that. When it comes to labor time, I call her, decide with her when to go to the hospital, she will be my montrice and he will catch the babies... No OR, no NICU, no drama (unless it becomes necessary) B/C I know they are very much pro natural birth and have good judgement I feel like IF it came time for an intervention, I know they would be suggestiing it b/c it is the best option for us.

Did I let go of what I invisioned some? Yes, I did. Through it though I think I have prepared myself even more for this birth. So I just wanted to give you hugs and tell you I've been there and I understand completely. Keep seeking the right provider and know you will find a good match.

[Junebug25]

Hi all. I am Sara and I am also new to the forums.
I will be 28 when the twins are born, DH - 35
Mono/DI
3rd and 4th children
EDD Nov.19
Saskatchewan, Canada

[~Adorkable~]

Welcome June Bug!!!!! And welcome to the "club" as it were. There is some great been there done that info to wander thru whenever you have time, I scanned back over pages and pages of the parenting multiples when we first found out, and it answered tons of questions and helped me think about tons of things I would have never even known to ask.

Also have you joined the Nov Due Date Club? It's great to have a large group of ladies that are in the same time frame as you are, I'm sure they would love to see you.

General pregnancy questions that are not twin focused or things you are comparing with your due date club are usually asked in the main I'm Pregnant area that way more ladies see it and can respond and more of us can share and learn for the info you get or give.

Welcome to Mothering.com!!

[~Adorkable~]

so I'm 15 weeks today, wow.
I have my next appointment in a week and I still really don't know if I should be getting an amnio.
My nt scan looked good but I won't have all the blood test back till at least 20 weeks and seems late to make decisions based on them ( plus I understand how these blood test with twin is less reliable)
Question about that, I totally get that it is kinda a average of the two babies, so less clear, but doesnt that mean that a really good outcome would be pretty accurate and that just a middle of the road one could men many things?

Anyway just working to figure things out, starting to lean back to not getting the amnio, not totally there yet. Dh is about the same place. I might feel a lot better if i could get my anatomy u/s a tad on the early side, like 18w before we leave so I could base deceptions on that.
My military hospital does not usually do them before 19 weeks, so I'm going to be asking for a special case order because of the moving and timing.

The big thing on looking forward to this next appointment is talking to this great CNM that I get to see, she is very pro water birth and last we spoke she was working to get it ok'd for military hospitals, that was 3 years ago, so I want to know where she has gotten. And also hopefully she might have some advice and in site into the locations available to me in DC. I'm really sad I can just keep her, I really liked her when she did my preconceptions checkup ( can't believe that was 3 years ago! Gack this took so long.

How's the rest of the gang feeling?

[annettemarie]

How is everyone doing? I am 22 weeks and exhuasted. We have this college reunion thingie we do every year. Unfortunately, it was our turn to host-- 4 days, 5 families, 25 people!!!! I sucked it up and asked each family to make a meal. I took two and 2 breakfasts were just cereal/fruit/whatever. Anyway, we survived! In a way, it was great being pregnant because things that normally would have stressed me out, I just didn't care.

Here's my favorite picture. I look awful, but the kids were so funny. "Look, we're pregnant with twins too!" LOL!
http://i4.photobucket.com/albums/y11...ie/Bellies.jpg

You know that feeling you get at the end of pregnancy, where it feels like someone kicked you in the vulva? I have that now.

[annettemarie]

I forgot to mention-- after my ultrasound high, I had to deal with the most negative midwife ever. The doctors I've talked to were more positive about me having a vaginal birth! The babies are both transverse and I said something like "They still have plenty of time to turn head down, right?" And she said "Well, don't get your heart set on a vaginal birth. You could push one out and we could still have to knock you out and slice you open to take the other one out." I mean, what the heck?!?!

[annettemarie]

One last thing (honest, LOL!)-- she was also annoyed with me because I accidentally on purpose forgot to get my GD bloodwork done at 16 weeks. It just seemed ridiculously early to me and I was still barfing all the time. So she gave me the paperwork again and said to go get it right away because I would have to do it again at 24 weeks. This makes no sense to me, so I decided I was going to go get it done next Friday, when I'll be almost 24 weeks and they should still get the results for my next appointment.

I am no good at the hospital birth after homebirth thing.

[SashaBreeze]

Originally Posted by annettemarie

I forgot to mention-- after my ultrasound high, I had to deal with the most negative midwife ever. The doctors I've talked to were more positive about me having a vaginal birth! The babies are both transverse and I said something like "They still have plenty of time to turn head down, right?" And she said "Well, don't get your heart set on a vaginal birth. You could push one out and we could still have to knock you out and slice you open to take the other one out." I mean, what the heck?!?!

Oh AnnetteMarie! How did you keep from going off the deep end on this woman? You are a far better person than me, I would definitely write up formal complaint against her. But then again I have been super emotional about this issue so maybe I am over reacting... but seriously?!?!?! "Slice you open" OMG yes, I would be furious. Oh, and your pic with the kids was adorable! Very sweet, and how cool that you and your college friends still get together.

Junebug25 Congratulations.

[turnquia]

Hey ladies!
I'm still here and 21 weeks today. LOL its funny how grossly pregnant I feel already. But still I think I'm pretty small for two babies.

I'm so sorry to hear about everyone and their birth plans potentially not woking out like you hoped.

I'm still planning a homebirth provided we hit 36 weeks. I am currently in the middle of a midwife swtich though. I'm not happy with my current midwife and will be switching soon, we start interviewing with midwives next week. I'm a bit nervous but really think the homebirth will work out. Hopefully babies will cooperate and get into good positions.

Annette- That midwife you need to tell her to suck your big toe. My DS2 was flipping all over the place in there during my ultrasound. In a one hour period he changed position 3 times. So they still have LOTS of room. I know a VBAC mom on her 2nd set of twins where her baby A flipped to head down while laboring and prepping for a C-section. She was able to deliver drug free VBAC with twins! So stay positive.

I think one right now is footling because the kicks to the cervix don't feel plesant!! Or someone has a good punch already!

I'm trying really hard to not be stressed out during this pregnancy. So... here's to hopeing I can stay that way as things start to get closer and closer.

Anyone doing a nursery? We aren't fully but sorta... hubby is building our crib since I cannot take all the recalls. I'm super excited for that to be done soon!

[annettemarie]

I know I have lots of time for babies to move about. I guess my big fear is that my kiddos tend to "lock and load" pretty early on. I'm catching Baby A's heartbeat down under my belly button, which I guess is a sign of a heads down baby? But, we'll see. I went to Spinning Babies but it seemed like I would have to pay for the real info, and I just can't do that right now.

[Strong Mama]

Hey, 10 weeks 3 days here, still earlydays...still in the throes of puking and laying down 24/7.
I peed the bed last night in my sleep. wtf? Somehow in my drugged sleep(phenergan) i was laying on my stomach, still a luxury at this point in twin pregnancy, i know, and my hand must have went on my bladder, i woke up peeing on my hand. yay me.

Anyway, going to OB appt next wednesday, got my WIC appt next tuesday too. The 19th I have my NT scan. I am feeling the babies move already...its pretty neat. I am so tired of feeling sick though. I miss my life.

[~Adorkable~]

Bummer on the peeing, I have a few nights that felt like I caught it just in time, really strange having your body go thru so much.

August's Thread is Up and Running! http://www.mothering.com/discussions....php?t=1251138