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7/22/10 at 7:33pm
i would like to whine for a moment, is that alright ladies?
i am feeling like my birth experience is slipping away before i even get a chance, i cant find a birthcenter in the DC area to take twins.
i have always assumed that i would have a water birth and it would be someplace calm and inline with my feelings that pregnancy and birth are not medical issues. now here i am with what will most very likely be my only birth experience and things look like they are headed in such a different direction.
since i am on military health coverage, i have very little choice in who i go to see, i was willing to pay for a birthcenter out of pocket to have the birth i wanted. but from the calls i have made so far, including one to a lady in DC that ran one of the best centers, she does not not know of any center that can take me. I have no other issues, just the twins, how can this be do hard.
i did get a name of a homebirth midwife that does twins, but i do not think in the depth of winter with a first birth im totally comfortable with that, maybe if i end up living pretty close to the hospital. and then if i end up comfortable with that, my husband is surely not going to be, i know he would probably get out of my way and let me do whatever i choose, but he is part of this and i do not think this is just about me (maybe mostly about me though)
i was born on my moms bed, into my dads arms. it never occurred to me that my child's birth would be any different. im just in shock.
i have my next appointment with a military midwife that i have spoken to before prior to getting preggo and she is a huge water birth advocate, i really look forward to talking to here and seeing if she has any insight or advice on how to work on getting a good birth. thats not for 2.5 weeks though, and i keep worrying that once i figure out what needs to be done, someone will tell me that i needed to arrange for it a month ago!
ok im going to go breathe or eat protein or something, this is the first time in this whole adventure that im getting myself too worked up
Adorkable first off the first page that you updated looks GREAT! You really do a remarkable job of keeping up with all of us and I just wanted to take a moment to thank you for taking the time and trouble to do that for us. I that you posted the link to QuennofChaos' birth story.
Also Adorkable I can so sympathise with you about birthing plan frustrations. I had a mind blowing frustrating appointment at my MW office today, I am going to post for advice over at the Birthing forum, and have spent the rest of the day crying.
i seem to remember reading a birth story over at parentingtwinsnaturally.com that included a midwife that has done tons of twin homebirths in the dc area...more twin births than any ob, even...im pretty sure i read that.
maybe if you figure out what about a home birth scares you so much you can inform yourself of the real risk and just keep an eye on your pregnancy...and use your intuition if you feel like the hospital is your best option...
i hope we all discover the birth we want.
I forgot to mention-- after my ultrasound high, I had to deal with the most negative midwife ever. The doctors I've talked to were more positive about me having a vaginal birth! The babies are both transverse and I said something like "They still have plenty of time to turn head down, right?" And she said "Well, don't get your heart set on a vaginal birth. You could push one out and we could still have to knock you out and slice you open to take the other one out." I mean, what the heck?!?!