First of all, we have been going through some really crazy stuff with my IL. My FIL and MIL are seperated, because my fil had an affair with their marriage therapist and then she started stalking my mil.....very very very long story. Anyways, my mil just got out of the hospital about a month ago from a mental breakdown. She continues to leave her family open to emotional damage and fear because of her inability to make adult decisions. I know it sounds like she is a victim here, and she is but she is doing alot of things that are making the situation worse.
DH wants to go to band practice Wednesday, and asked his mom if she could come over and watch DD. I am ok with that, since she is here, no one that she knows has any idea where we live, and for the most part i trust her ability to watch my dd in a quite closed and controlled environment. However, she wants to take my dd out to a movie. I dont think its a good idea at all.
Last week when she was over here, she told us that she hadn't slept in 3 days. She told us that she was not hanging out with these people that my DH and i do not want my dd around. And then today she posted pics or her hanging around them. When we came home late the other night she was sitting on the front porch screaming into her phone next to my dd's window, where she was sleeping. She continued to sit and yell into the phone for 20 minutes, and my neighbors came out to see what was going on. And had no idea why, or that she was being so loud. She is obviously very very very manic.
Im scared of her driving with dd, especially if she hasnt been sleeping, and im scared of the amount of meds that she is on. I am also scared about her getting distracted on the phone and not paying attention to what my dd is doing or where she is. Its not a risk i want to take.
Am i wrong? I told DH i wasnt comfortable and i didnt want maddie to go, and his reaction was "what am i supposed to tell her?" I dont, know, maybe the truth? UGH!
DH wants to go to band practice Wednesday, and asked his mom if she could come over and watch DD. I am ok with that, since she is here, no one that she knows has any idea where we live, and for the most part i trust her ability to watch my dd in a quite closed and controlled environment. However, she wants to take my dd out to a movie. I dont think its a good idea at all.
Last week when she was over here, she told us that she hadn't slept in 3 days. She told us that she was not hanging out with these people that my DH and i do not want my dd around. And then today she posted pics or her hanging around them. When we came home late the other night she was sitting on the front porch screaming into her phone next to my dd's window, where she was sleeping. She continued to sit and yell into the phone for 20 minutes, and my neighbors came out to see what was going on. And had no idea why, or that she was being so loud. She is obviously very very very manic.
Im scared of her driving with dd, especially if she hasnt been sleeping, and im scared of the amount of meds that she is on. I am also scared about her getting distracted on the phone and not paying attention to what my dd is doing or where she is. Its not a risk i want to take.
Am i wrong? I told DH i wasnt comfortable and i didnt want maddie to go, and his reaction was "what am i supposed to tell her?" I dont, know, maybe the truth? UGH!
for you DH. It's so hard when you grow up and realize that your parent, the one person who is supposed to be the one you can rely on and the most ideal grown up in your life isn't really acting like a grown up. mental illness is really rough on families, and I think especially so on adult children with parents who put us in the position of needing to parent and guide them. Given the recent events your DH may not trust therapists. But do you think he'd be open to finding one to go to for himself. I know he's an adult, but parents divorcing effects even adult kids. And then the added factor of his mom not being mom like has to be really hard for him. Just a few sessions with a professional may help him adjust and live with the changes better.
-this is why I don't trust therapists, they are often as screwed up as those they claim to help, ugh.
