I am a worried new mom. I have nothing to compare this baby with. MIL has some concerns about her. What are the steps for me to take to ensure my child's well being? I was reading that the earlier something is detected the better the outcome.
My daughter is 14 months old. She was born 6 weeks premature and was in NICU for 16 days on oxygen meds, oxygen, feeding tubes, jaundice lights etc. I have chronic fatigue, undx fibromyalgia, interstitial cystitis (autoimmune condition of the bladder), hashimoto's disease (autoimmune hypothyroidism). I do not drink, smoke, do drugs. I was on a gestational diabetes diet before she was born and had it and pre-e (liver). She has not had any shots. She has had the flu/cold like 4 times. She has been to all her wellcheck visits. When asked about her flat head the doctor would just say hush she's beautiful! Which is great but not helpful.
This is what I am seeing...
She does not point for any reason. She will reach up to be picked up though.
She doesn't speak but she does babble. She does say mamamama but it's not to ME.. it's just in her babblings.
She does not respond to her name.
She won't look if you make a loud sound next to her ear. I know she can hear because a few times she will flinch and if done enough she might turna round and scouwel breifly before staring at whatever again.
She can watch tv for 20 hours straight and not move. (That wasn't in my game plan for tv at all but it's been a huge battle with her father who just wants her happy)
She won't make eye contact. Only recently have I caught her looking into my eyes and she immediately looks away. She won't look into anyone's eyes for more than a second.
She scratches everything. She pulls hair and bites, but I'm working on it.
She refuses to hold her bottle (but she scratches it)
She refuses solid foods. Purees are fine. Ex. a pea skin got in her tummy so she threw it all up. No fussing just throws up anything solid and moves on with life. Only the last few weeks she has tried to lick a banana on her own. It's not successful but it's a huge accomplishment for her. She can't get it into her mouth but she's trying. There's a lot of drooling involved and spitting but it's something. Of course she then spits it out as it's a solid. I try to get away without completly mashing her bananas and she'll gag and spit it out.
Rarely plays with toys. Can not put donuts on ring nor has any interest in doing so.
excema.
Her head has a flat side. On her left. She does not sleep on her back but her stomach or jumperoo (rainforest fisher price).
She isn't walking yet. Just recently she has stood by herself for a few seconds.
She is constantly rocking. When standing or sitting she rocks sideways. Not always but nearly always.
She is an "easy baby" only cries when hungry but make sno motion for a bottle.
She has no fear of strangers and treats them as if they were mom or dad.
Only in recent weeks has she begun to fuss when put down.
If she does play with toys it's shaking it only.
She has been on a gluten free milk protien free diet. Started milk now and she is contipated now.
In the last 4 months she's only gained 1 pound 19.8 on my digital scale (though it's hard to weigh). She does have a belly and doesn't look thin or anything.
About 1 week ago she learned how to clap. (seems that is very delayed)
She doesn't know body parts or any language it seems except arms up.
Her grandma is very concerned about the lack of eye contact. She never looked at someone until about 1 year and it's very brief and if you demand her to look (like chase her viewpoint) she will roll her head around to avoid it.
I was reading the sooner you find out the better chance you have at teaching or whatever the steps are to take in life.
The ped said nothing and he counted mama as a word and didn't seem concerned at 1 year appt.
Hubby refuses to see it but when MIL agreed.. just the fact that someone else is noticing these things has me in a puddle and anxiety high.
What are the next steps I should take? What are the appropriate questions to ask the doctor to get him to understand what I am trying to say or do I need to go yet? Do I skip a pediatritian and go to someone else? Is it all pointless until she's older? Does this sound normal to you?
My daughter is 14 months old. She was born 6 weeks premature and was in NICU for 16 days on oxygen meds, oxygen, feeding tubes, jaundice lights etc. I have chronic fatigue, undx fibromyalgia, interstitial cystitis (autoimmune condition of the bladder), hashimoto's disease (autoimmune hypothyroidism). I do not drink, smoke, do drugs. I was on a gestational diabetes diet before she was born and had it and pre-e (liver). She has not had any shots. She has had the flu/cold like 4 times. She has been to all her wellcheck visits. When asked about her flat head the doctor would just say hush she's beautiful! Which is great but not helpful.
This is what I am seeing...
She does not point for any reason. She will reach up to be picked up though.
She doesn't speak but she does babble. She does say mamamama but it's not to ME.. it's just in her babblings.
She does not respond to her name.
She won't look if you make a loud sound next to her ear. I know she can hear because a few times she will flinch and if done enough she might turna round and scouwel breifly before staring at whatever again.
She can watch tv for 20 hours straight and not move. (That wasn't in my game plan for tv at all but it's been a huge battle with her father who just wants her happy)
She won't make eye contact. Only recently have I caught her looking into my eyes and she immediately looks away. She won't look into anyone's eyes for more than a second.
She scratches everything. She pulls hair and bites, but I'm working on it.
She refuses to hold her bottle (but she scratches it)
She refuses solid foods. Purees are fine. Ex. a pea skin got in her tummy so she threw it all up. No fussing just throws up anything solid and moves on with life. Only the last few weeks she has tried to lick a banana on her own. It's not successful but it's a huge accomplishment for her. She can't get it into her mouth but she's trying. There's a lot of drooling involved and spitting but it's something. Of course she then spits it out as it's a solid. I try to get away without completly mashing her bananas and she'll gag and spit it out.
Rarely plays with toys. Can not put donuts on ring nor has any interest in doing so.
excema.
Her head has a flat side. On her left. She does not sleep on her back but her stomach or jumperoo (rainforest fisher price).
She isn't walking yet. Just recently she has stood by herself for a few seconds.
She is constantly rocking. When standing or sitting she rocks sideways. Not always but nearly always.
She is an "easy baby" only cries when hungry but make sno motion for a bottle.
She has no fear of strangers and treats them as if they were mom or dad.
Only in recent weeks has she begun to fuss when put down.
If she does play with toys it's shaking it only.
She has been on a gluten free milk protien free diet. Started milk now and she is contipated now.
In the last 4 months she's only gained 1 pound 19.8 on my digital scale (though it's hard to weigh). She does have a belly and doesn't look thin or anything.
About 1 week ago she learned how to clap. (seems that is very delayed)
She doesn't know body parts or any language it seems except arms up.
Her grandma is very concerned about the lack of eye contact. She never looked at someone until about 1 year and it's very brief and if you demand her to look (like chase her viewpoint) she will roll her head around to avoid it.
I was reading the sooner you find out the better chance you have at teaching or whatever the steps are to take in life.
The ped said nothing and he counted mama as a word and didn't seem concerned at 1 year appt.
Hubby refuses to see it but when MIL agreed.. just the fact that someone else is noticing these things has me in a puddle and anxiety high.
What are the next steps I should take? What are the appropriate questions to ask the doctor to get him to understand what I am trying to say or do I need to go yet? Do I skip a pediatritian and go to someone else? Is it all pointless until she's older? Does this sound normal to you?
and don't think that way. Every child is a blessing.
exactly. 
I just had to step away as I was getting overwhelmed? I'm scared but she is my life and she is pretty dang beautiful and adorable. We made some changes to our household like putting a double fence in our living room to encourage movement. I climbed in and it does take her forever to notice me. I spent a good deal of time playing blocks by myself the other day. She eventually saw me and pretended to go after another toy btu really wanted to be closer so she sat there and watched me. Then she would take one scoot closer then another... then she was in my lap and shaking a block (she only shakes toys). Though she knocked my fort over in the process and I spent 15 darn minutes on that thing! :P (just kidding) Then I went to eat dinner and she rocked and stared at the wall which made me sad again. She did stumble walk between me and her dad later. And she even bit a cheese puff gerber thing. Of course she spit it out but hey she bit it 
