If you have 7month + old-- Can you let me know if my son is behind? *added update post 13* - Page 2

[marge234]

Originally Posted by confustication

You know, if you are even a little concerned, don't wait. Have an evaluation done- just to have a baseline. I wish we'd involved EI earlier with my almost 2 year old, and it really isn't a complicated/painful process for anyone. .

I'm also a mom who's baby is now getting the help he needs and I'm so relieved to learn how to help him develop.

First, your parenting is EXCELLENT. There might be absolutely nothing going on, but with this stuff a mother's gut is often truer than just about anything. The EI programs exist because it makes such a difference to get things early. Babies brains grow a TON. Getting help while the brain is growing can make a big difference.

Your family means well but their views are just not helpful. He IS perfect, you just want to make sure he's getting what he needs to develop. Difficulties in babies are very difficult for even trained people to see--pediatricians miss them all the time--another reason the EI programs were set up. If you have concerns, don't wait. Tell DH to humor you & call for an evaluation.

[texmati]

oh thank you all so much for your support. By failure in parenting, I just meant-- we often give him things when he cries for them, instead of encouraging him to try to creep to get them. (Which he can do, sobbing in despair the entire time). We also didn't even know that we should be helping him pull up.

I guess it's easier to think that there is something that we can do, rather than believe that there isn't anything we can do. (which is probably the case).

I'm going to look into early intervention. i hate to say it, but cost is a factor-- i don't think we'd be eligible for assistance, but I'd at least like to know if insurance will cover any of it.

[smpayne]

My DS#1 was mobile by 4 months, DS#2 wasn't even interested in being mobile until 10 months.

Their individual personalities also play a part in their developement. DS#1 is much more vocal/opinionated and notices everything, while DS#2 is much more laid back and very good at ignoring everything but what he is interested in, just like my husband. Can you or your dh tune out things you don't want to be bothered with? Just because they are slower to reach certain milestones while babies, doesn't mean they will be behind all their life.

My DS#2 was always a large baby, but was much slower to reach some of his milestones than his smaller brother or cousin, especially motor skills. I think his body was so busy growing, that it just forgot to slow down to work on other things, until he was 9-10 months old. Now he is my tall skinny kid that is very good at almost any sport (much better instinctive motor skills than his big brother).

[nola79]

Yes, babies personalities definitley play a part in development. My ds was sitting up unsupported, trying to crawl, had teeth, and rolling all over the place by 5 months. My dd is 5 months, and she just lays there and plays with her feet. No interest whatsoever in being mobile. No teeth, either. All babies are different, my two certainly are, and I parented them the same way.

[amydiane]

Originally Posted by texmati

I'm going to look into early intervention. i hate to say it, but cost is a factor-- i don't think we'd be eligible for assistance, but I'd at least like to know if insurance will cover any of it.

Our son is delayed and has been in EI since he was about 6 months old. In our state, they bill your insurance first, and if they cover it, great! If they don't, or if there's a copay, the state covers it. The details vary, but from what I understand, this is generally how it's done, but of course you'd have to check for your state. We don't qualify for government assistance and we didn't have to pay for anything out of pocket until DS turned 3.

[Mommy2Haley]

Originally Posted by tzs

i don't really have anything to say except the biggie which is that in NO WAY is your babe crawling or not crawling a reflection on your parenting. ugh!!!!! not possible!!!!

Parenting has no influence on crawling. My 7 month old isn't crawling yet and that's likely because I hardly ever put her down. We're always on the go with her big sister and she's in the Ergo for a significant part of the day -- she just doesn't get the time she needs on the floor and frankly, I'm in no hurry for her to crawl. Then I'd have TWO to chase after!