What's the best way to ask a community for help that doesn't seem "neby" or too much like a pity-party?
It's been a year since DH's accident, and in that time, he has had a series of surgeries, goes to regular therapy, and has tried to resume working, unsuccessfully. (He was back to working 2 days a week, but it just wasn't working - he lost his job last week). He has made great strides with his therapy, and is getting stronger, but its a long and painful process.
DH has now shifted to a different pain medication so he can have more consistent pain-relief and do his physical therapy even more, get even stronger.
Because of the new drug, he no longer can drive or work and is basically home-bound (aside from the trips to therapy and doctors).
I work full-time and am not around during the day, and frankly, DH is bored and could use some company. He is very smart and very friendly, and would love some visits from men, women, kids, etc. He would enjoy it.
I am posting a note on our local community list for visitors for him, but I don't want to sound to "nebach" (pitiful). DH is not pitiful. He is a strong person, we are both strong people who have just been put into a terrible situation and are trying to handle it as best as we can. But even strong people are pitiful sometimes.
I am concerned about the pity, because both DH and I are sensitive to this. We really don't like to be "nebach." Also, I find people are less likely to want to help those who are in situations where they wallow in misery, kwim? Since I am asking for a concerted community effort to visit DH, I want to voice it in as positive terms as possible.