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post #21 of 32
I think everyone knows about mine...he told his mother & then it spread like wildfire...and I'm only 5 weeks along.
post #22 of 32
I'm only 5 weeks, so just my husband knows (and the internet, ha). I want to wait to tell the families until after my first appointment, or ideally after the NT screen. I hate the attention and scrutiny pregnant women get, so I'd love to put that off.

One of the managers at work asked if I was pregnant last month (when I wasn't) and enough people heard about that incident that I think I'll be able to get away with not telling anyone there for awhile. I'm kind of wondering how long I can go without telling work.
post #23 of 32
Haven't told many people...besides the internet.

DH knows of course and he is over the moon.

My midwife knows so I can get added to her calender before she stops taking clients due in that month.

My chiropractor knows because I am undergoing therapy for an injury I sustained in Feb. and I needed to make sure we were safe with them.

I told 2 friends that I KNEW would be excited and supportive one IRL and the other I messaged her over the internet...she is an old friend and we no longer live local to each other.

We told our oldest DC last night (DS21 and his wife and DD19). we will wait to tell the littles (dd9,dd5 and dd2) until we are ready for everyone to know for obvious reasons.

Because I am so "old" and this is our 6th baby and our DD is expecting....I don't expect lots of positive comments. pair that with the fact that I have a history of early losses (four of them) mostly between 7 and 9 weeks. and we are waiting a bit to tell others.

Blessings
Lori
post #24 of 32
My best friend knows and some online people know. And my daughter, who has managed to keep quiet about it. We want the marriage thing to sink in before we tell people. So we'll do that after the u/s... which is scheduled for the 23rd. It seems so far away!
post #25 of 32
Dh knows, the internet know, LOL, and 3 of my friends IRL... My children don't know yet, neither does my family. They will know soon enough!
post #26 of 32
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The only people that know I'm pregnant is my partner and my mom. Because I've had miscarriages before I'm not telling anyone else until 12 weeks.
I hate telling people. My partner and I aren't married and even my doctor rolled her eyes when I told her we were pregnant the last time. I'm not looking forward to having to share the news with anyone because I can't think of any single person who is going to be excited (and that makes me feel sad).
I am holding off as well, a few I told told me that they were sorry I was pregnant. I know I am unmarried and 18 years old, but shouldn't it be at least somewhat happy, if not happy?

I told My boyfriend, hes supportive but confused.
My best friend says she is sorry and my grandma gave me horror stories of child rearing, and hinted at abortion (she took that back thankfully and told me I would be a good mom).
I told 2 coworkers because I was stressed, they were supportive and neutral.
OH, I told my college Fin. Aid person, everything is being worked out! THAT took so much stress off.

10ish weeks or so I will tell the parents (mine and his), after we move out.
post #27 of 32
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I am holding off as well, a few I told told me that they were sorry I was pregnant. I know I am unmarried and 18 years old, but shouldn't it be at least somewhat happy, if not happy?

I am sorry you are dealing with this. Babies are a good thing but they are also a lot of work and lifechanging. Your friends and family are probably just worried about you because they love you.

My first was a honeymoon baby. We were young and just married and hadn't planned on kids for years. I got pregnant and found out too late to have an abortion. My friends were not supportive and I had a job, a savings account and was married. They were just worried about me and it came out harsh (I wasn't happy about it either but it still hurt, so I understand your pain).
post #28 of 32
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I am holding off as well, a few I told told me that they were sorry I was pregnant. I know I am unmarried and 18 years old, but shouldn't it be at least somewhat happy, if not happy?

I told My boyfriend, hes supportive but confused.
My best friend says she is sorry and my grandma gave me horror stories of child rearing, and hinted at abortion (she took that back thankfully and told me I would be a good mom).
I told 2 coworkers because I was stressed, they were supportive and neutral.
OH, I told my college Fin. Aid person, everything is being worked out! THAT took so much stress off.

10ish weeks or so I will tell the parents (mine and his), after we move out.

What a tough situation. My sister in law is single, diabetic and pregnant. Her parents were so sad for her and angry that she had made her life so much more difficult. All they ever wanted for her was to be happy and successful and they definitely see this as a road block. Because my SIL is in such bad health this pregnancy could kill her which adds a further dimension of stress and worry to the equation. Now that the dust has settled and everyone has finally accepted the pregnancy, her parents (and her brother and I) are still not happy that she got pregnant but we are SO EXCITED about the baby and can't wait to welcome her into our family. I think sometimes people are angry and sad about situations but they still love you and your new little baby regardless.
post #29 of 32
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What a tough situation. My sister in law is single, diabetic and pregnant. Her parents were so sad for her and angry that she had made her life so much more difficult. All they ever wanted for her was to be happy and successful and they definitely see this as a road block. Because my SIL is in such bad health this pregnancy could kill her which adds a further dimension of stress and worry to the equation. Now that the dust has settled and everyone has finally accepted the pregnancy, her parents (and her brother and I) are still not happy that she got pregnant but we are SO EXCITED about the baby and can't wait to welcome her into our family. I think sometimes people are angry and sad about situations but they still love you and your new little baby regardless.
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I am sorry you are dealing with this. Babies are a good thing but they are also a lot of work and lifechanging. Your friends and family are probably just worried about you because they love you.

My first was a honeymoon baby. We were young and just married and hadn't planned on kids for years. I got pregnant and found out too late to have an abortion. My friends were not supportive and I had a job, a savings account and was married. They were just worried about me and it came out harsh (I wasn't happy about it either but it still hurt, so I understand your pain).
Yeah, I know it will be stressful but they are stressing me out more, it is not helping, I was stressed before they helped. I have helped raise some babies and children in my life, I know what I am about to face.
I decided to ditch a lot of commercial ideas and things for this to reduce stresses.
All things work out somehow in the end, hopefully for the best.
post #30 of 32
I am 7w 6d and only told a few friends and just told fiances parents and sister this weekend since we saw them and rarely do. We just had a m/c in April so kinda keeping things secret for a little longer. Probably will tell soon but it's getting obvious by my expanding middle.
post #31 of 32
Mine! I think we'll wait until we see a heartbeat on the ultrasound (which will be at 7 wks 1 day). I'm currently almost 6 weeks, so I have a little over a week to go! I am counting the days!
post #32 of 32
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Mine! I think we'll wait until we see a heartbeat on the ultrasound (which will be at 7 wks 1 day). I'm currently almost 6 weeks, so I have a little over a week to go! I am counting the days!
same here!
I am currently 6wks and my u/s is this Saturday.
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