(Help, Please) Sleep! *It happened again post 13* - Page 2

[Nicole730]

Hey, sorry to post late to this, but you are pretty much exactly where I was last year at this time. I was pregnant, due at the end of February though and DS was just over one year. I ended up having to nightwean him because he would nurse without sleeping all.night.long. and I was dying. It was awful for all of us. Shortly after I nightweaned him, my supply completly dried up and he stopped asking to nurse during the day. It was sad, but at that point I was so ready to be done. Nursing without milk is quite painful. Point being, it is normal. It just really sucks. Hugs to you and your little one!

[Chloe'sMama]

I got pregnant when DD was 17 months old, so a bit older than your DS. She was very angry at me because my milk supply tanked even before the BFP. A few weeks later though, she seemed to be ok with nursing without any milk.

It is a hard couple of weeks, but in our situation, it worked out and she is nursing to bed and naps just fine now. I am hoping to tandem once baby comes.

Good luck.

[AFWife]

I did this tonight...well, sort of. He stopped nursing and just laid there with boob in his mouth so I unlatched him. After 30+ mins of him crawling all over us and the bed while talking with some crying he finally laid down and slept. Granted, he cried a little bit but he went to sleep "on his own"...

On to naps tomorrow! I'm not looking forward to that. He's always been a better sleeper with his Daddy.

[honeybunmom]

My son is just 2 weeks older than yours and he's going through a little of this right now. He has all teeth but his canines and nothing bulging, so, I don't know if they are lurking below the surface right now or not. He refused his nap on Sunday and yesterday and took an hour to go to sleep Sunday night and almost as long last night - but, I got an idea that worked. I grabbed some grapeseed oil and put in a few drops of lavender eo (calming) and geranium eo (soothing). While he lay in his crib, I massaged it into his feet and legs and then his brow bone and temples. Then I nursed him a bit more and continued to go over his brows and down the center of his forehead, down his nose and back up to his scalp. I then laid him back down, told him it was time for "night-night" (he knows what that means) and left the room. He cried for about 5 minutes and then slept for about 4 hours. I usually nurse him when he wakes and then he goes back to sleep.

[Super~Single~Mama]

Yeah, I let DS nurse for as long as he wants at bedtimes now, and then he will unlatch and then I put him in his pack n play with his elephant and bee (his fave stuffed animal) and he lays down and goes to sleep. It works perfectly for us.

[justKate]

Originally Posted by AFWife

I did this tonight...well, sort of. He stopped nursing and just laid there with boob in his mouth so I unlatched him. After 30+ mins of him crawling all over us and the bed while talking with some crying he finally laid down and slept. Granted, he cried a little bit but he went to sleep "on his own"...

On to naps tomorrow! I'm not looking forward to that. He's always been a better sleeper with his Daddy.

I think we're in the same place. DD cannot calm down when its time for bed. She nurses, pops off, wants to get up and crawl around then asks to nurse more, won't lay down. It's a circus with her climbing all over us. I know this won't be popular, but for us, the ONLY way to get DD to sleep is to hold her down, like spoon her but don't let her get up when she tries. She struggles for a few minutes, but needs that help to keep herself still so that she can relax. We're at the point where after bath, we brush teeth, nurse, then daddy comes in and "holds her down" for 10-15 minutes so that she can sleep. I don't know why it works, but it does.

Lady Catherine, will you second this? I know Liam is/was a sleep fighter....

Good luck. I know how horribly stressful bedtime (night time in general) can be; I can't imagine doing it pregnant, too! Lots of

[AFWife]

Originally Posted by justKate

I think we're in the same place. DD cannot calm down when its time for bed. She nurses, pops off, wants to get up and crawl around then asks to nurse more, won't lay down. It's a circus with her climbing all over us. I know this won't be popular, but for us, the ONLY way to get DD to sleep is to hold her down, like spoon her but don't let her get up when she tries. She struggles for a few minutes, but needs that help to keep herself still so that she can relax. We're at the point where after bath, we brush teeth, nurse, then daddy comes in and "holds her down" for 10-15 minutes so that she can sleep. I don't know why it works, but it does.

Lady Catherine, will you second this? I know Liam is/was a sleep fighter....

Good luck. I know how horribly stressful bedtime (night time in general) can be; I can't imagine doing it pregnant, too! Lots of

We do this sometimes. DH will hold him (because my tummy is so sensitive that kicking drives me up a wall) and sometimes it works.

Another day of fighting about a nap...He's extra clingy lately because I'm trying to slowly totally wean him. It sucks.

[LadyCatherine185]

Originally Posted by justKate

I think we're in the same place. DD cannot calm down when its time for bed. She nurses, pops off, wants to get up and crawl around then asks to nurse more, won't lay down. It's a circus with her climbing all over us. I know this won't be popular, but for us, the ONLY way to get DD to sleep is to hold her down, like spoon her but don't let her get up when she tries. She struggles for a few minutes, but needs that help to keep herself still so that she can relax. We're at the point where after bath, we brush teeth, nurse, then daddy comes in and "holds her down" for 10-15 minutes so that she can sleep. I don't know why it works, but it does.

Lady Catherine, will you second this? I know Liam is/was a sleep fighter....

Good luck. I know how horribly stressful bedtime (night time in general) can be; I can't imagine doing it pregnant, too! Lots of

Yes ma'am.. left to his own to choose to fall asleep, Liam never will. He has to be "restrained." Now, he does let me rock him most days without a fight, but I had to make him realize that when it is time for a nap/bed, it is time to sleep and he CAN NOT get up. Same with DH, he holds him on the bed at night to go to sleep. He used to fight it really bad, but now for the most part he will cuddle up and go to sleep, but only if DH is holding onto him. One thing that has also worked for me, on the days DS is REALLY fighting it and throwing huge tantrums, is putting him down on the floor and walking out of the room for about 10-20 seconds. That is usually all it takes for him to realize that I mean business and he needs to calm down and go to sleep. Some kids need firm boundaries, Liam is one of them. If he thinks that he has a chance of just getting up and playing, he will fight the sleep. But now that he KNOWS rocking=sleep and DH holding him on the bed= sleep, he doesn't fight it about 85% of the time. And the times he does fight it, usually I just have to say "Liam, do you want mommy to go bye bye?" and he says "NOOO" and then lays down and lets me rock him to sleep.

[blizzard_babe]

Originally Posted by AFWife

I did this tonight...well, sort of. He stopped nursing and just laid there with boob in his mouth so I unlatched him. After 30+ mins of him crawling all over us and the bed while talking with some crying he finally laid down and slept. Granted, he cried a little bit but he went to sleep "on his own"...

On to naps tomorrow! I'm not looking forward to that. He's always been a better sleeper with his Daddy.

Sounds about like what we experienced. The amount of time it took DS to settle down slowly got shorter and shorter. He still has his bad nights and is still a VERY reluctant sleeper, but eventually he figured out that we'd be there if he needed us... and THEN he figured out that since we'd be there if he needed us, he really didn't need us as intensely. All this no-CIO, attachment parenting stuff isn't just rainbow-infused smoke being blown up our petticoats. Whoda thunk it?

[AFWife]

Originally Posted by blizzard_babe

Sounds about like what we experienced. The amount of time it took DS to settle down slowly got shorter and shorter. He still has his bad nights and is still a VERY reluctant sleeper, but eventually he figured out that we'd be there if he needed us... and THEN he figured out that since we'd be there if he needed us, he really didn't need us as intensely. All this no-CIO, attachment parenting stuff isn't just rainbow-infused smoke being blown up our petticoats. Whoda thunk it?

I have to keep reminding myself of this. I caught myself saying, "I almost wish I'd done sleep training." on a bad night.

Last night was horrible...nap today was horrible. I'm trying to wean him totally (slowly) and it's really messing with sleep.