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post #21 of 51
6/26/10 at 5:20pm
i'm so sorry to hear about your terrible news . i hope to hear a positive outlook for him soon! hugs!

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post #22 of 51
6/26/10 at 6:10pm
Hugs to you

My dad has prostate cancer, too, apparently it runs in our family because all his brothers got it too. Good news is there are lots of treatment options, and a good chance he's got lots of good years left. My thoughts and best wishes are with you in this difficult time.
post #23 of 51
6/26/10 at 7:41pm
Hugs I'm so sorry, that must be very difficult for you.
post #24 of 51
6/26/10 at 8:24pm
Gah, why do such horrible things have to happen during what should be a time of great joy? I'm so sorry. I hope your dad ends up in remission really soon
post #25 of 51
6/28/10 at 1:19am
Oh Leigh, I am so sorry about you Dad. I really hope the specialist has some good news for you guys. You and your family are in my thoughts right now.
post #26 of 51
6/28/10 at 1:45am
Paintedfire, I'm so sorry. : When my dad called me to tell me he had been diagnosed with Prostate Cancer I collapsed on the floor into a puddle. I still can remember the metallic taste in my mouth, it was probably the worst news anyone has ever told me. I wouldn't wish that feeling on anyone.

The GOOD news is that phone call was nearly 4 years ago. And his cancer has not grown since. There has been a lot of work in prostrate cancer. My dad started out getting quarterly ultrasounds and after a lot of watchful waiting hen his cancer did not grow the moved to ultrasounds every six month. Diet. Encourage your dad to switch to a Vegan Diet, this wasn't too hard for my dad as he didn't each much meat anyway. But cancer can't grown in an alkaline environment (or something like that) avoiding animal fats increases the alkaline environment in your body.

My dad is younger than yours and also very healthy. He helped us move the weekend after his biopsy and didn't even tell us he was being tested. The long and the short of it is, even at 64 years old, and a healthy 64 at that, his doctors have old him that his will probably die from other old age related natural causes before the cancer kills him. He's going to be around another 20 - 30 years....living with cancer.
post #27 of 51
6/28/10 at 3:03am
I'm so sorry - that's so stressful for you and your family. Wishing him a speedy and complete recovery.
post #28 of 51
6/28/10 at 4:29am
post #29 of 51
6/28/10 at 9:35am
sorry to hear bout this. will be praying for recovery.
post #30 of 51
6/28/10 at 11:47am
I'm sorry I hope that things are going to be okay
post #31 of 51
6/28/10 at 2:48pm
Hang in there! I know how you feel--my dad (also a very healthy man in his 70s) was diagnosed with prostate cancer while I was pregnant with my first. It was so, so scary and hard, especially since I didn't get to see him during almost the whole pregnancy. (I'm sure extra hormones rushing around don't make dealing with this kind of news any easier.) He made it through, though, and just has to keep an eye on things for now. I wish the same for your dad.
post #32 of 51
6/28/10 at 5:11pm
Thread Starter 
Thanks for all the support guys. I really can't tell you how much I appreciate it. Have I mentioned lately how much I love this place and all of you? Because I do.

My Dad sees the specialist tomorrow afternoon, so after I talk to him I'll let you all know what the news is.

One good thing has happened, though: my Dad is the most stubborn man in the world. If he says he's going to do something, he does it. There's just no other way things will turn out. I had a long conversation with him yesterday and he assured me that he is committed to fighting this as hard as he needs to. He promised me that. I didn't know how much I needed to hear that until he said it. I'm ten pounds lighter. My Dad is going to beat this because he said so. To me, that makes perfect sense.

Again, thank you to everyone. I don't know what I would do without all of you. Frankly, I don't even want to think about that.
post #33 of 51
6/28/10 at 9:16pm
HUGS hun!
post #34 of 51
6/29/10 at 2:15am
Wow, that's rough. *BIG HUG* Cancer is scary. But he sounds like a brave fellow. And as we have nothing to fear but fear itself I think he'll be just fine. Stay positive. He'll get plenty of time with his grandbaby. Now, for the friendly neighborhood hippie PSA... Don't forget to check into all the wonderful alternative natural treatments. I think they ought to be considered among conventional treatments as worthy weapons in the fight to get right. Blessings and peace and bravery for you and yours.
post #35 of 51
6/30/10 at 1:57am
Thread Starter 
Once again, thanks so much for all of the amazing support. It means more to me than I could ever possibly express.

Okay, now The Update:

My Dad has an MRI scheduled for next Monday to make sure that the cancer hasn't spread beyond his prostate. I will be flying out sometime later this week to be with him.

If the cancer is localized completely within his prostate gland he will go through a surgical procedure called a radical retropubic prostatectomy (more on that here).

If, God forbid, the cancer has spread we will discuss options with his doctors then. For now, we're hoping that it's just in his prostate.

Fingers crossed everyone, okay?
post #36 of 51
6/30/10 at 2:11am
post #37 of 51
7/1/10 at 4:20am
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Originally Posted by Mrs.Music View Post
Thanks.

I'm flying to Houston on Friday and will be there for an indefinite amount of time. I feel so torn - I want to be in Houston with my Dad but I want to be in Brooklyn with my DH, my cat, and my house too. The best of a bad situation, though, I guess?
post #38 of 51
7/1/10 at 4:36am
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Thanks.

I'm flying to Houston on Friday and will be there for an indefinite amount of time. I feel so torn - I want to be in Houston with my Dad but I want to be in Brooklyn with my DH, my cat, and my house too. The best of a bad situation, though, I guess?
I'd just try to enjoy the time with your parents. It's like an excuse for an impromptu vacation. And if everything goes really well, you'll be back home in no time with a huge weight lifted AND you got to see your family. If everything doesn't go as well, you'll be glad you're there. And if you're there too long, hopefully your DH will be able to come out too. Probably not so much on the cat front... But cats don't need us lowly humans most of the time anyway.
post #39 of 51
7/1/10 at 4:38am
btw... what on earth are you doing up at this hour??? Isn't it nearly 4am in NY? Of course I'm always climbing into bed around 5am PST because DH works nights... But I like to throw big heavy stones from my glass house...
post #40 of 51
7/1/10 at 5:13am
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I'd just try to enjoy the time with your parents. It's like an excuse for an impromptu vacation. And if everything goes really well, you'll be back home in no time with a huge weight lifted AND you got to see your family. If everything doesn't go as well, you'll be glad you're there. And if you're there too long, hopefully your DH will be able to come out too. Probably not so much on the cat front... But cats don't need us lowly humans most of the time anyway.
Yeah. My Mom, my Dad, my oldest brother, my grandmother, a bunch of extended family members, and a ton of old friends all in live Houston so it will be nice to see them. I could do without the Houston weather, but what can you do?

Right now I'm trying to figure out where I'm going to stay. My parents are divorced - have been since I was a baby - but they raised me as a unit since I was nine, almost ten - including setting aside their differences and living in the same house to be there for me all the time. When I go back home I usually stay with my Mom (she lives in the house that we lived in when I was college) but my Dad doesn't live that far away (after I moved to England for grad school he moved a couple miles away into their rental property).

All my crap is in my room at my Mom's but I do have a room at my Dad's - we just always do gatherings at my Mom's because my Dad isn't much of a party person - when he's done, he's done. He mentioned me staying with my Mom, but I kind of want to put up a fight and stay with him. I can tell everyone else to stay away, if that's what he wants. I just feel like I need to be near him.

We'll see how that one goes (see my previous "most stubborn man in the world" comment).

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Originally Posted by Mrs.Music View Post
btw... what on earth are you doing up at this hour??? Isn't it nearly 4am in NY? Of course I'm always climbing into bed around 5am PST because DH works nights... But I like to throw big heavy stones from my glass house...
I know, I know. I've suffered from insomnia since I was a kid - I'm just not sleeping well as of late. I'm trying to take a lot of naps to make up for it, though. My DH doesn't get off work until midnight so there's that, but ever since I quit my job I'm basically up-and-down all. the. time.

I'm such a bum.
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