sure, but she never said that 8k a month is her bare bones budget, she said she is on a bare bones budget while he is out spending a ridiculous amount of money.
she is asking if we would stay home if our husband was refusing to cut down his spending after drastically cutting down his income.
OP- i have read some of your other threads. it sounds like you (and to a possibly greater extent your dh) are waiting on an inheritance or trust fund to kick in and racking up tons of debt in the wait.
The problem isn't the number of hours he works. It's way bigger than that.
I really like the Dave Ramesy book on money. You guys could try working through it together.
But if your DH refuses to act in any responsible way about money, divorcing him so he has to write you a check each month and then you can be responsible with that amount of money might provide your children with more security than staying married.
Doing it before your inheritance would be better than later, and doing it soon enough that his high-earning years could be considered when calculating his financial obligation to you and your kids might be in your kids' best interests.