I can definitely relate! I have a pretty decent sleeper, but she likes to sleep all smooshed up against me, and she's a pretty light sleeper, as well, so often times when I move away, she wakes up. We co-sleep, and also have an Arm's Reach side-car'd to the bed (that she really only plays in 
).
Our challenges stem from the fact that the baby is typically awake from 10-12, so by the time she's good and asleep, I am way too tired to be intimate. And quickies don't work well for me -- I need to be open-minded and relaxed and feel connected. And after a while those 5 minute quickies just for hubby start to become very much less than satisfying (for us both) and irritating. It was 7 months before we had a mutually enjoyable experience, and the stars literally lined up perfectly. The babe fell asleep a little earlier than usual, and accidently rolled herself into the co-sleeper. With the bed freed up and some time freed up to be spent warming up, it worked out perfectly.
Honestly, though, my hubby has been pretty decent about understanding that intimacy the first year after a baby can be pretty rocky and infrequent. He has [smartly] figured out that if there's less pressure and tons of understanding, I'm much more open to either alternatives or making a bit of an extra effort on his behalf.
We know it won't always be like this. There will be ebbs and flows, periods of drought and periods of plenty.
).Our challenges stem from the fact that the baby is typically awake from 10-12, so by the time she's good and asleep, I am way too tired to be intimate. And quickies don't work well for me -- I need to be open-minded and relaxed and feel connected. And after a while those 5 minute quickies just for hubby start to become very much less than satisfying (for us both) and irritating. It was 7 months before we had a mutually enjoyable experience, and the stars literally lined up perfectly. The babe fell asleep a little earlier than usual, and accidently rolled herself into the co-sleeper. With the bed freed up and some time freed up to be spent warming up, it worked out perfectly.
Honestly, though, my hubby has been pretty decent about understanding that intimacy the first year after a baby can be pretty rocky and infrequent. He has [smartly] figured out that if there's less pressure and tons of understanding, I'm much more open to either alternatives or making a bit of an extra effort on his behalf.
We know it won't always be like this. There will be ebbs and flows, periods of drought and periods of plenty.
