This is my first post here.
Dh and I have one bio ds (let me know if there is a better term I don't remember seeing one) who is 5 and are considering a 2nd dc by adoption.
These are the 2 worries that keep coming back to me lately (I'm sure there will be more like any big decision). Maybe hearing from some people in similar situations would help.
Worry 1: My worry for potential adopted child and me. I am really interested in family history. I think of myself as the keeper of the stories and I love that. I can imagine that potential adopted child would not be connected to that in the same way and it could be painful. I imagine researching that child's birth family history (though of course that would have to be okay with them) and talking about how both family trees connect to adopted child. Wondering if any genealogy interested amoms can provide some insight.
Worry 2: I imagine us doing an open adoption and having relationships with the birth family members who want that. When one child has extra extended family and the other doesn't I can imagine that could create confusion/tension. I'd love to hear some insight about how the bio child fits into the relationship with the birth families from anyone in that situation.
Dh and I have one bio ds (let me know if there is a better term I don't remember seeing one) who is 5 and are considering a 2nd dc by adoption.
These are the 2 worries that keep coming back to me lately (I'm sure there will be more like any big decision). Maybe hearing from some people in similar situations would help.
Worry 1: My worry for potential adopted child and me. I am really interested in family history. I think of myself as the keeper of the stories and I love that. I can imagine that potential adopted child would not be connected to that in the same way and it could be painful. I imagine researching that child's birth family history (though of course that would have to be okay with them) and talking about how both family trees connect to adopted child. Wondering if any genealogy interested amoms can provide some insight.
Worry 2: I imagine us doing an open adoption and having relationships with the birth family members who want that. When one child has extra extended family and the other doesn't I can imagine that could create confusion/tension. I'd love to hear some insight about how the bio child fits into the relationship with the birth families from anyone in that situation.
