Patience: Thanks for the blog link about kids in Mass! I really enjoyed it.
I have to say, I disagree about leaving kids at home. Maybe every once and awhile (I do enjoy going to Mass by myself), but I think kids belong in Mass as often as possible. Adoration too. Have you ever heard of Fr. Antoine? Here is his website- he is a big promoter of children in Mass and adoration. http://www.childrenofhope.org/
Shellie: COngrats on coming to the Church! Welcome home
It can be very frustrating looking for a Catholic Church that is orthodox. I would just pray and ask God to lead you where He wants your family to be. In the meantime, it's good to be on guard when learning about the faith. One of the awesome things about the Catholic Church is that all Her teachings are there for you to look up. If something doesn't sound right (right advocating vasectomies), you can look it up pretty easily in the catechism or other Church documents. It's all written down
As for the veil, you can wear one even if others don't. It's a little uncomfortable, but you get used to it. A handfull of women wear them at my Church, so I don't mind, but when we travel I always dread going to random churches b/c I feel like I stick out. I wear it anyway and offer it up....
And you are right, the Church encourages us to go to confession frequently. I aim for once a month, but it doesn't always happen. However, the more I read the writings of the saints and about their lives, the more convicted I feel about that. I really need to be stricter in my resolve to go more frequently.... SOrry for the tangent
My husband is a convert and I am kind of a revert. I never renounced my faith, but I went through a period of, uh, rebellion or confusion. I look at my spiritual life as a journey that is continually evolving. I was raised very charasmatic. By the time I left for college (I went to a very charasmatic catholic college) my parents were checking out the Latin Mass. I had a hard time in college and that is when I stopped practicing for the most part. I think it was because I wanted to be part of the charasmatic stuff on campus, but it didn't feel right anymore. And I was against the whole Latin thing because I felt it was over-kill. So I just... didn't do anything (except drink and join a sorority). Fast-forward to now. I am 29 and I have developed a love for the Latin Mass. My husband is a HUGE Latin Mass supporter (we kind of got to this point together) and we drive over an hour to attend Mass.
I guess my point is that you should take it one step at a time. Definetly check out other parishes within reasonable distance. If the RCIA progrma is very liberal and you aren't comfy with it, go to a different one. Like Patient said, you are only in the inquiry period. BUt even if you don't find one that is perfect (and you probably wont), remember that most of your learning is going to happen on your own anyway.
God bless you on your journey!
PS- Congrats on being off birth control! That is awesome. Remember, God won't give you anything you can't handle- that includes kids. If He gives you another baby, He WILL give you the means to take care of it- financial, physical, mental, etc. Another baby is another soul who will be alive for all of eternity! Amazing! That being said, I am preparing for a VBAC and I am terrified. My last birth was very traumatic
I am NOT looking forward to birthing this one. At all. I'm happy about the baby, I just wish it would just, uh, appear one night instead of having to be birthed,
I am only 15 wks so I have plenty of time to get revved up....