What Is the Grandparents' Role in Disciplining Your Kids? - Page 2

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Originally Posted by AndVeeGeeMakes3

I'm of the mind that my parents (and sister, and very close girlfriends) are sort of my "team mates" in disciplining my child when we're all together. That said, I would not allow my mother to yell at my daughter..

Me too.

My Mom wouldn't yell at my daughter. But, I wouldn't have left her to scream while I quietly and calmly tried to figure out what I could do to fix it. I know how much my Father hated that kind of noise, so, I wouldn't have let it go on. We either would have gone into a bedroom, or out in the backyard.

My family disciplined my child just fine. (for the most part) and I was so grateful to have them on my side. My daughter knew she had a bunch of people who loved her.

[Addy's Mom]

Originally Posted by nextcommercial

Me too.

My Mom wouldn't yell at my daughter. But, I wouldn't have left her to scream while I quietly and calmly tried to figure out what I could do to fix it. I know how much my Father hated that kind of noise, so, I wouldn't have let it go on. We either would have gone into a bedroom, or out in the backyard.

My family disciplined my child just fine. (for the most part) and I was so grateful to have them on my side. My daughter knew she had a bunch of people who loved her.

Just for the record, my son was loud for all of 10 seconds. I didn't "leave him to scream."

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Originally Posted by Addy's Mom

Just for the record, my son was loud for all of 10 seconds. I didn't "leave him to scream."

No. I didn't mean YOU.. I meant myself personally. Sorry. That is what it looked like, but not how I meant it.

[Addy's Mom]

Originally Posted by nextcommercial

No. I didn't mean YOU.. I meant myself personally. Sorry. That is what it looked like, but not how I meant it.

No worries.

[phathui5]

My parents are welcome to tell my children what to do. They're gentle about it, no yelling, but they do have firm boundaries.

[enigo]

I'd say they have no reason to discipline, especially in this case where you were already handling it. My mother does the exact thing and it drives me nuts.

[Anna's Lovey]

If my mom or my MIL did that, I would definitely have a "talk" with them right then and there. That's just disrespectful to you and your lo. If your mom is doing something that is hurtful towards your lo(yelling at her) then it is your responsibility to set boundaries. It hasn't been much of an issue with my mom and MIL both living far away but if it ever came up I would have no problem arguing my case for GD. If they wind up not being on the same page, then I will tell them not to discipline my child.

[AndVeeGeeMakes3]

I think it's important to remember that little ears and eyes are there with you, too. It's a good opportunity, I think, to model how we handle conflict. IRL people get yelled at, treated rudely, etc. It's not okay to yell, or speak disrespectfully, back to someone, just because they've broken the rule of how you think people should behave.