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Poll Results: When did you first have sex postpartum?

This is a multiple choice poll
  • 35% (45)
    1 month or less
  • 32% (41)
    2 months
  • 12% (16)
    3 months
  • 4% (6)
    4 months
  • 1% (2)
    5 months
  • 1% (2)
    6 months
  • 0% (1)
    7 months
  • 0% (0)
    8 months
  • 1% (2)
    9 months
  • 1% (2)
    10 months
  • 0% (0)
    11 months
  • 0% (1)
    12-18 months
  • 0% (1)
    19-24 months
  • 1% (2)
    2+ years
  • 3% (5)
    Haven't done it yet!
126 Total Votes  
post #41 of 47
7/7/10 at 10:12pm
We have four children and I've always wanted to get back to having sex before the recommended six weeks was up.
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post #42 of 47
7/8/10 at 12:14pm
Wanted to, and tried to, at about 3 weeks pp. It hurt like hell and was definitely a failed experiment. Ended up not being able to complete (we'd try, it would hurt too much, have to stop) sex until about 3 months pp, so I voted 3 months. I didn't have an episiotomy or a very bad tear, just a medium stitched tear and some skidmarks.
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post #43 of 47
7/8/10 at 12:26pm
i think it was 7 weeks, 6 weeks, and 4 weeks. BUT we are still pretty sporadic and nowhere near were we used to be befor ewe had kids. (of course ours was a young relationship when we got preg, so that migh thave somethign to do with it)

If he knows that you aren't interested i think it is a bit disrespuctful if he hounds you. to share how he feels yes, i get that. But if he is constantly badgering you about it, it's pretty rude. tell him foreplay is much more likely to get you in the mood then "so you wanna do it's?"
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post #44 of 47
7/8/10 at 1:00pm
both times we were really turned on by all the events around the birth. I don't think I've ever made it to my first pp checkup with not have already dtd (so before three weeks I guess)
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post #45 of 47
7/8/10 at 1:07pm
a week i think. i never lost interest in dtd.
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post #46 of 47
7/8/10 at 1:08pm
With DD I think we first attempted to dtd at around 6w (failed) we tried again around 3m. I wasn't "wanting" it either time. We were dealing with a c-section, lack of milk, and depression. It was "fun" all around. I'm hopeful that this time around things will return to normal more quickly so that I don't scare DH away from having more kids due to the lack of intimacy.

He wasn't looking forward to me being pregnant again because last time I had no sex drive, I'm trying to maintain intimacy throughout pregnancy this time...
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post #47 of 47
7/9/10 at 9:28am
Husbands who hound their wives for sex postpartum should try pushing a person through their pelvis...
I personally don't think any woman should feel pressured to have sex (um, ever) after having a baby. I think she will know when she is healed and ready, be it days, weeks, or months.

With my first baby, I was a single mom, so didn't have the desire or opportunity until he was about 18 months old. And that was great.

With my daughter, my hubby and I waited 7 weeks. He was ready to go much sooner, but I was not. I wasn't even ready at seven weeks, but took one for the team as far as attempting is concerned. Blegh. It was awful. Nothing like painful, awkward, uncomfortable sex to build some intimacy.

Now at 7-8 months, things are definitely better. Not awesome, but definitely doable.
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