DS is 5. DD is 3. Since they were toddlers, they've been free to come to our room or sleep in their own room. They share a room. DS always has preferred our room. He sleeps in his room maybe 2-3 times per month. Until about 6 months ago, DD usually slept in her bed. Now she goes to sleep in her room, stays about 3-4 hours, and comes in our room (usually within 15 minutes of us going to bed).
Our bed just isn't big enough for the 4 of us. No one is getting good sleep. I'm not getting much sleep at all. I'm so sleep deprived that I'm hearing things that aren't real. (This has happened to me before when DD was an infant and nursing constantly.) DH is just grumpy all the time as are DC.
We have to figure out what to do. DH is not a big fan of co-sleeping to begin with, but he's really done with this arrangement (although he still sleeps all freakin' night, but I think it's just not good sleep). On his behalf, DD is a rough sleeper - lots of kicking and restlessness.
We have a queen-sized bed in our room. DC both still have crib mattresses on a transitional frame. (DS is small for his age because of medical problems, and since he's never slept in his room much, we haven't been in a hurry to buy him another bed.) This morning, DH said we should just get a twin-sized bed and he will sleep in it while I sleep in our bed with the kids. I've proposed a king for us, but he's not big on that idea. My fear is that if he starts sleeping in another bed, it will stay that way. We have no sex life as it is. We seriously DTD maybe 2X a year. We talk about addressing that issue, but how when you're so freakin' tired all the time & there's usually someone extra in the bed???
Our marriage is stable. We're committed to each other, but we are in many ways more like friends than lovers. We've always been that way. I'm afraid that sleeping in separate beds will just cement that.
I'm also considering moving DC's mattresses on the floor into our room. It would require a little moving a furniture, but it's doable. Then we could put them to sleep in our room, and maybe they would stay.
DC and I are traveling beginning Saturday, so DH could have 2 twin-sized mattresses for them by then. That may fix the problem, but maybe not. Help! What would you do?
Our bed just isn't big enough for the 4 of us. No one is getting good sleep. I'm not getting much sleep at all. I'm so sleep deprived that I'm hearing things that aren't real. (This has happened to me before when DD was an infant and nursing constantly.) DH is just grumpy all the time as are DC.
We have to figure out what to do. DH is not a big fan of co-sleeping to begin with, but he's really done with this arrangement (although he still sleeps all freakin' night, but I think it's just not good sleep). On his behalf, DD is a rough sleeper - lots of kicking and restlessness.
We have a queen-sized bed in our room. DC both still have crib mattresses on a transitional frame. (DS is small for his age because of medical problems, and since he's never slept in his room much, we haven't been in a hurry to buy him another bed.) This morning, DH said we should just get a twin-sized bed and he will sleep in it while I sleep in our bed with the kids. I've proposed a king for us, but he's not big on that idea. My fear is that if he starts sleeping in another bed, it will stay that way. We have no sex life as it is. We seriously DTD maybe 2X a year. We talk about addressing that issue, but how when you're so freakin' tired all the time & there's usually someone extra in the bed???
Our marriage is stable. We're committed to each other, but we are in many ways more like friends than lovers. We've always been that way. I'm afraid that sleeping in separate beds will just cement that.
I'm also considering moving DC's mattresses on the floor into our room. It would require a little moving a furniture, but it's doable. Then we could put them to sleep in our room, and maybe they would stay.
DC and I are traveling beginning Saturday, so DH could have 2 twin-sized mattresses for them by then. That may fix the problem, but maybe not. Help! What would you do?
