Anyone else live with their parents out of neccesity?

[Mylie]

My parents have just offered to let me and the baby move in to help me out until I can get all my debt paid off..The sensible part in me says it is probably a good idea.The private part of me wants my own privacy..Not that I wouldn't get any cause they live in a big house with lots of extra bedrooms..We get along just fine.I parent they grandparent..

Big step...Just looking for others who have been in the same situation..I have budgeted us down to nothing..We don't even have the internet anymore..but things won't improve for us until L goes to school and that will be another 2 years.Then I won't have to pay daycare anymore.I don't qualify for anything except for WIC and with L's allergies it isn't worth getting.

Just looking for some that have done this and hopefully it worked out great for them as I am hoping it will for me

I haven't lived with my parents in about 20 years...

[4evermom]

We (dh, ds, and I) live with my mom. It's a pretty sweet set up because the house has in-law quarters so we actually have our own kitchen and living room. We get along and my mom's parenting style is very much the same as mine. I think the only drawback is that some aid things count household income. I couldn't get food stamps, for instance, because they wanted all of my mom's financial info. I didn't want to trouble her since her finances aren't as simple as a steady income. And financial aid at the Y wants a breakdown of all expenses we have (rent, utilities, etc) so I feel lame applying since all we pay is the water bill and personal expenses like health insurance and groceries. It's been wonderful not having the stress of potential homelessness and for ds to have added security. My mom doesn't watch him much but she's there in an emergency or when I go to the dentist. And that is very nice indeed.

[cappuccinosmom]

We do, while dh is out of the country. Been here nearly a year. I think the grand total of time we'll be here is 18-20 months.

It's worked out really well, actually. There was an adjustment period, and we get on each other's nerves at times, but its' been OK. I definitely wish for privacy at times, but really that's a small sacrifice compared to the benefit they're giving to us. We don't pay rent, but I do a lot of work around the house (especially dishes and laundry and cooking), and put in about $300/mo for food.

[EmsMom]

I think that it could work as long as everybody was willing to work on things that come up.

If there are extra bedrooms, could I suggest that you set up a private living area? Maybe with a couch/tv/etc and a small dining table? Then both families would have private space and you could just share the kitchen (and you could even put in a little fridge in your own space for snacks, etc.)

You definitely won't be the only one doing it in this economy. Historically, it was quite a common solution and it really makes sense provided your relationship with your parents (and other family members) isn't way off.

[Mylie]

Thanks everyone...

I don't have internet so I was hoping you wouldn't think I was posting and ditching..

We are still in the talking stages..But it will happen probably by the end of July I think..We are here alot anyways..My parents are older and I have been helping them with things..Just a big step for me..Privacy won't be a concern..I do plan on setting up a play/private area in the big bedroom for L and I to use when they need quiet time in the big living room.A half fridge probably wouldn't be neccisary for us as we would be sharing that and no one would really have a problem with it..I work 2 jobs but will take on most of the cleaning(it is a large house and my mom can't keep ;up with it all anymore) and food prep to help out..My mom prefers to do her own laundry and I prefer to do mine.We even use different soaps

Since I do work 2 jobs 6 days a week we would be gone alot so my parents would get lots of time to themselves but they love having L around..In fact it really seems to help my dad with general happiness..He loves to play with her..

Love to hear stories of other families living together though..It helps..