DD+DS on the way does not = done (rant)

[Ashley_R]

I am getting so annoyed at how many times I've been asked if we are done with kids after this one. Yes we have a daughter and this one is a boy, one of each is nice, but why does that have to mean that we are done having children. Several people have even gone straight to saying "One of each, so your done right?" Seriously!?!? 1st of all how is this any of their business, 2nd the sex of our children isn't going to be what determines what family size we decide on. Arg!

Sorry rant over.

[MaerynPearl]

I got that too.

Luckily with #3 all I got was people just asking if I cared if it was boy or girl... to which I responded... no I'm just happy its a baby!

The ONLY person to comment that I should have stuck with just my boy and girl is my brother... who does not have kids yet and spoils the heck out of mine lol. I think hes afraid I am going to make him go broke.

[VillageMom6]

Oh yes, I got this after my second child was born. I had a boy and then a girl. We were "complete", right??

I'm now having #6. People quit asking a while ago.

[laerhk]

Originally Posted by MaerynPearl

I got that too.

Luckily with #3 all I got was people just asking if I cared if it was boy or girl... to which I responded... no I'm just happy its a baby!

I'm still getting this with number 3 because we have two girls. "Trying for a boy, huh?"

Uh, no. We're trying for a healthy baby.

[finnegansmom]

I don't understand the "done" thing. As if it's a chore or a task. Like mowing the lawn or folding clothes. And it's SO none of anyone's business....rude.

I'm pregnant with #3 after 2 boys, I'm sure everyone will say the "I bet you want a girl" thing to which I'll respond "I want a baby that is alive and healthy" thanks.

[HeatherB]

I'm with you - except I don't have one of each. But the idea that there's a "perfect" family is absolutely absurd and rather offensive to me. I have 3 boys and a gender-unknown baby on the way. How is my family less perfect than the one down the street with one boy and one girl?

[SashaBreeze]

We ran into this when we had our first son (after having 2 girls in the family). What would make me the most angry about this comment was that it was often said in front of our girls who were totally old enough to understand what was being said. It sets my blood to boiling just even thinking back on it.

I did learn that during my 5th pregnancy and now this one that no one really asks that much anymore... I think they are afraid of the answer.

[dejagerw]

It seems people always have some comment about family size. I know they're probably not trying to be annoying or rude, they're usually just making conversation. I too want a bigger family and am not planning on stopping at 2. Part of me does kinda want my next to be a girl, (I have a boy now) because when I'm pregnant with my third, I don't really want the comments of (trying for a girl huh), or when I have a my forth kid and if I have all boys, I'm sure I'd get it even more. I'd rather people just think I'm having kids because I like them.

[jwpsgurl]

Originally Posted by laerhk

I'm still getting this with number 3 because we have two girls. "Trying for a boy, huh?"

Uh, no. We're trying for a healthy baby.

Same boat here! DH gets it all the time "hope you get a boy!"

SO annoying!

[Drummer's Wife]

I had a girl and then boy, too - people definitely assumed we were done since we had one of each. Then, with #3 (a boy), it was like they thought he was an oops - I mean who would want more than two? Especially when you aren't trying for a gender you don't have already. . Once we got pregnant with #4 ( also a boy), I think many people just wrote us off as crazy. I hope we have #5 someday - surely we'll be really at that point.

It's weird that people seem to think only one of each is the perfect combo.

[Galatea]

I got that with dd b/c she was the desired girl after two boys. But we weren't done. IRL, most people have smaller families, so we are weird.

[laughymama]

We should all start telling people we're trying for a kitten and just can't figure it out...

[SashaBreeze]

Originally Posted by laughymama

We should all start telling people we're trying for a kitten and just can't figure it out...

I LOVE that!

[beckyand3littlemonsters]

yes i got that too and then with number 4 are you hoping for a boy so you have 2 of each, i wasn't bothered either way though i knew i was having a boy even when other people were convinced i was having a girl because of my cravings i just knew i even bought boy clothes when i was only about 10 weeks.

[Twinklefae]

Originally Posted by laughymama

We should all start telling people we're trying for a kitten and just can't figure it out...

Actually, when I was pregnant with DS I got so sick of people asking me what it was that I starting saying "I think it's a baby, but my husband is hoping for a puppy!"

[Just1More]

After my dd, then ds, I always replied, "Nah. Now we've got a boy room and a girl room. We can just keep piling them in now!"

The response was usually a wide-eyed, "How many do you want?"

"12."

There's not much more for them to say after that.

[momtoafireteam]

Since 99% of the time we have 3 girls and "only" 1 boy with us, we get a lot of "is that one a boy?" (pointing to my belly). When we answer no, I am ALWAYS shocked at the comments people will make to DH and in general. They are genuinely disappointed for us having girls. Over the weekend some stupid cashier said "Awww.....I'm SO sorry!!!" like we had just informed her the baby had passed away. It really makes me angry.

[ledzepplon]

Originally Posted by momtoafireteam

Since 99% of the time we have 3 girls and "only" 1 boy with us, we get a lot of "is that one a boy?" (pointing to my belly). When we answer no, I am ALWAYS shocked at the comments people will make to DH and in general. They are genuinely disappointed for us having girls. Over the weekend some stupid cashier said "Awww.....I'm SO sorry!!!" like we had just informed her the baby had passed away. It really makes me angry.

People just say stupid things. I don't even think it has to do with gender. If I'm out with my boys only, I've had people point to my belly and tell me they hope it's a girl. I just smile and say nope, we've been blessed with another son!

I've also had people say that, and when I tell them my oldest is a girl, they act surprised that we'd want more kids since we *already have* a girl. Um, I just love kids! They can be boys or girls at my house, people!

[princesspower]

I have heard this asinine comment so many times and I get pretty annoyed every time I hear it. I just reply that yeah they are so right, just like salt and pepper shakers I now have a matching set, and I should be so thrilled. Most people do not get the condescending sarcasm but I would assume that anyone that shallow to think that the best way to have kids is in matching sets doesn't deserve a kind reply.
Oh, the other thing they say that I think is equally rude is the, "Oh, now you have one of each (boy and girl) so you are done, right." WTH, why is it I am assumed to be "done" if I happen to have give birth to a DD and DS. Seriously.

[paintedfire]

Originally Posted by Just1More

After my dd, then ds, I always replied, "Nah. Now we've got a boy room and a girl room. We can just keep piling them in now!"

The response was usually a wide-eyed, "How many do you want?"

"12."

There's not much more for them to say after that.

That is exactly what I want to be able to say. Because, honestly? I really would like twelve.