I feel like a terrible person right now

[AFWife]

Things are so stressful right now...my husband's work SUCKS (He's Air Force...I knew it would be difficult but not this stressful...basically, he works for idiots)

DS is going through a tantrum and sleep fighting stage right now.

Add in pregnancy hormones and drama with my family?



I regret getting pregnant sometimes. I keep thinking "Why did we do this so soon? Why didn't we wait? I'm going to be dealing with a toddler and a newborn all day long?" They may have just extended DH's workday almost 2 hours...so it really is ALL DAY.

I'm supposed to love and WANT this baby like I did DS...and I just can't most of the time.

[COgirl19]

As a former military wife (DH got out of the Navy last summer) I know exactly how you feel. Military life is TOUGH, and yes there are a lot of boneheads in high positions. There are times I think "WHAT WERE WE THINKING?!" too and how we are going to handle 2 kiddos, but in the end I always come back to being very excited to meet this babe. It's a very daunting thing adding another child, no matter how many you already have.

[LovnMyBoys]

You also need to remember that your ds will change a ton before this baby arrives and likely you'll be out of the current stage. That's not to say juggling to little ones will be easy, but try not to dwell too much on where you are right now.

[trekkingirl]

Originally Posted by LovnMyBoys

You also need to remember that your ds will change a ton before this baby arrives and likely you'll be out of the current stage. That's not to say juggling to little ones will be easy, but try not to dwell too much on where you are right now.

also you get to experience your toddler in the role of the older sibling. it really is amazing when they start interacting. your first child's life will be enriched farther than you would have ever thought possible.

[Lucy&Jude'sMama]

I just had to say that I totally understand how your feeling. I've been feeling like that most of my pregnancy. My daughter is turning 2 this month and she is very much a typically tantrum throwing two year old. Not every day... thank god! But on days (like today) where she doesn't give me a break it is very hard to be happy that I'm pregnant with number 2. I feel aweful because I wanted this... and I'm having a boy this time so I should be super super excited, but I just can't get excited when my toddler wont stop screaming in my ears. I think about all the things I enjoyed the 1st time around with my daughter and I can't imagine enjoying them the second time around when I'm chasing a toddler around too. Ekkkk!

Anyways so I don't have any advice. I just wanted to say I understand. I currently feel like the worst mom on the planet! Plus I've pretty much accepted that I'll be miserable for 4 years and then hopefully things will be good. Hahahahahaha I'm just hoping to see the light and get into the grove of the two kid thing. Right now I just can't imagine how its going to work and I'm scared. I love both my children but can I just pause time?Hahaha I'm due in November! Ekkkkk!

[alexisfaye]

I'm pregnant with my third right now. I had a nice lady (who has ten) tell me that having that second one is the hardest. She said with two you feel like you can do it all. You have two hands, two legs (i.e. two laps) and feel like you should be everything to everybody. She said when you have three you stop feeling that way.

I took that to mean that however many you've got, don't beat yourself up for not doing everything/being everybody's everything. So it's ok, some days, to be less than enthused about the extra work, the overwhelmingness of two little people, etc.

And at the end of the day you are gonna love that baby to bits, so it'll be ok if you were less than always thrilled whilst pregnant

[Greenlea]

Don't worry, I feel that way too and my DH isn't even in the military. My DS will only be 18mths when this babe is born. I wonder all the time why we weren't more careful so we could have waited till DS was older.

And this pregnancy has been MUCH worse with hormones & mood swings than with DS. I feel like I'm pulling my hair out half the time. But all in all I am excited to meet this new little on in only 3 mths!