Late 30s and going for another baby?

[RTT]

I thought I was done with two but thoughts of a third keep cropping up. At the moment DD is nearly three and DS is 10 months. They are almost exactly two years apart and I'd like a larger spacing between a third- more like 2.5-3 years, which would put me at 39 and having a third. I'm very nervous about the risk factors- nervous to the point that it might keep me/us from going for a third. Anyone have any thoughts/advice/experience to offer?

[lovebeingamomma]

You can never be sure about anything at any age. I've had two m/c one at 19 and one at 23. "Statistically" that's suppose to happen more often to older women. So, I think you just need to decide to stop worrying and hope for the best. Easier said then done I know. If you really want another baby I wouldn't let any age stop you.

[mambera]

nak
What are the specific risks that concern you?

[rcr]

Not trying to scare you, but I was in the same position as you - wanted bigger spacing, so I waited. Now we are 15 months of TTC perfect timing with no success. It does get harder to TTC as you age. I wish I wouldn't have waited. We are now consulting with an RE.

Just something to think about - but if you are concerned about it taking a while to TTC, you might want to consider starting earlier.

[zjande]

Myself personally, I would just not lay my eyes on any of the books or websites discussing the "scary statistics" & risk factors, see a midwife only, & get on with my joyous reproductive self. That's my plan anyway, I'm 36.

[MarineWife]

Originally Posted by mambera

nak
What are the specific risks that concern you?

I'm 40. I had my 1st at 20, my 2nd at 33 and my 3rd at 36. I'm hoping for another pg some time soon, within the next year. There isn't anything that I've heard of associated with my age that concerns. There may be an increased risk of Down's Syndrome, but if you look at the stats, I'm still more likely to have a child without it. I'm not worried about anything with my own health that might hurt me.